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RE: A open letter to the subs/females here - 11/8/2010 11:06:49 AM   
YSG


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Honestly, dude, grow some balls. So a few women didnt reply to your email, big deal. You cant make anyone be interested in you, just not how the world works. Having a temper tantrum is not going to make them want to reply any more. In fact, if they see this thread, they will not want to reply at all because you are obviously a whiny, insecure, immature little boy. You are not the shit, nor are you important to the grand scheme of things. Get over yourself, dude.

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RE: A open letter to the subs/females here - 11/8/2010 11:08:11 AM   
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ORIGINAL: myotherself

Hey everyone - Icarys is buying the beer!

OP - didn't miss the point at all. Just sending my blessings. I'm nice like that.

You think your hair is fucked up now?!?! Wait till I get a few beers in you.....


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RE: A open letter to the subs/females here - 11/8/2010 11:09:50 AM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Icary's, I really hope that was tongue in cheek.

Well it wasn't for all of the women...so for those it was tongue in cheek..for the others it was foot in ass.


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RE: A open letter to the subs/females here - 11/8/2010 11:12:02 AM   
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< Message edited by subkatslut -- 11/8/2010 11:13:28 AM >

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RE: A open letter to the subs/females here - 11/8/2010 11:16:01 AM   
myotherself


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ORIGINAL: Icarys
You think your hair is fucked up now?!?! Wait till I get a few beers in you.....



Only beer????

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RE: A open letter to the subs/females here - 11/8/2010 11:17:22 AM   
tazzygirl


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Status: offline 		My profile clearly states im in a relayionship with someone.

Guess how many thoughtful, well articulated and eager mails i get that fail to read that fact?

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RE: A open letter to the subs/females here - 11/8/2010 11:19:44 AM   
poise


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Seriously, I'm all for common courtesy, as are most of the posters on this thread.
And sure...it sucks to take the additional 10 minutes out of your day to make a decent
email response and then get nothing to show for it. Be glad it was only 10 minutes
and use the remaining 23 hours and 50 minutes focussing on something positive.

*fetches Hotch another beer*

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RE: A open letter to the subs/females here - 11/8/2010 11:21:31 AM   
Icarys


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ORIGINAL: myotherself


quote:

ORIGINAL: Icarys
You think your hair is fucked up now?!?! Wait till I get a few beers in you.....



Only beer????

Carrot maybe??


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RE: A open letter to the subs/females here - 11/8/2010 11:27:14 AM   
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RE: A open letter to the subs/females here - 11/8/2010 11:41:44 AM   
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ORIGINAL: BostonPeter1971

As for those who demand we doms spend time writing some unique, original dribble.. Let me tell you a little secret girls... the reason many doms don't bother with long, original messages is because you don't reply to them most of the times anyways. So why should WE bother? Hate to break it to you.. but the vast majority of you that demand such are not that special, or unique in your profiles where we should waste OUR time. As we know most (not all in fairness) won't reply no matter how much effort we put into it.


 
Well if that is how you feel about me I definately won't be responding. If you think it would such a waste of time to send a quick message going "Hey, I noticed you like ren fairs, awesome. Have you been to X, Y or Z one?" then really... save yourself the effort. I don't know about other women but that is really all it takes to get a reply out of me. Or have a beaver in your profile picture. Cute animals help.

quote:

As I said above perhaps you should re-consider some of these message you just blow off and change your tactics and approach to replying. As if your current system worked for you, odds are you still wouldn't be on here, reading this still searching. Something to ponder.


My two cents... take your own advice. This angry response probably isn't working too well for you or you wouldn't still be looking. Maybe times when we send a "thank you but no thanks" message we have to deal with angry men who insult us, tell us we were never worth their time to start with and various other charming phrases.

Now since you just wrote a message that basics insults female submissives at large, I have to wonder if you would be one of those men who gets insulting when a woman says "I'm sorry but no thank you".

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RE: A open letter to the subs/females here - 11/8/2010 11:44:48 AM   
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ORIGINAL: BostonPeter1971

Thanks for the concern but I don't need to find anyone right now. Off line or otherwise. My dating calendar is full :) You ppl are missing my point sadly...


If you don't need to be here, then why the hell are you whining? And you obviously do have an itch that is not being scratched otherwise you would not be bitching about so called bad behavior from subs and females here.

As the saying goes, I think he doth protest too much.

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RE: A open letter to the subs/females here - 11/8/2010 11:50:36 AM   
AquaticSub


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ORIGINAL: BostonPeter1971

For those that demand some original, well thought out message but then don't have a courtesy to reply to such is a double standard and IMO those need to be called out on it. 


And how many of the women you've messaged are active forum posters? You'd probably have better results sending another message going "Look, just tell me no thanks if you aren't interested".

This is akin to walking in a room full of people and shouting insults and expectations at a particular group. It's not very polite either. So since you aren't exactly displaying top manners... well... you get what you give.

Since it bothers you so much, I agree with others who say to move your search from online to real time events. If your dating calender is full... why the hell are you messaging women online and being so upset that they don't respond? Surely you don't have the time to look at profiles for women that you won't be able to be involved with anyway since your phone is ringing off the hook!

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RE: A open letter to the subs/females here - 11/8/2010 11:56:08 AM   
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ORIGINAL: BostonPeter1971

To those that this apply too,

You got to love some of the subs/females here. They don't even reply to well thought out, sane replies (even though they claim that's what they want) yet still log on every day looking and searching. Perhaps if you didn't blow off some of the people you do without even so much as a 'thanks anyways' you'd have found someone by now. You know have a open mind and at least talk to some of the people who take the time.

I know.. you get so many messages you can't reply to them all. Well a cut and paste of 'Thanks anyways but don't think we are a good fit. Good luck' isn't that time consuming (Pressing CTRL-V not that hard) and at least offers the kindness of a reply to something they put effort into. If you are THAT busy you can't even do that then clearly your too busy for a relationship as a whole. As what kind of time do you have?

Yes some of them have not read your profile and do not deserve a reply. That is fair, however that's not what I am speaking of here.

As for those who demand we doms spend time writing some unique, original dribble.. Let me tell you a little secret girls... the reason many doms don't bother with long, original messages is because you don't reply to them most of the times anyways. So why should WE bother? Hate to break it to you.. but the vast majority of you that demand such are not that special, or unique in your profiles where we should waste OUR time. As we know most (not all in fairness) won't reply no matter how much effort we put into it.

As I said above perhaps you should re-consider some of these message you just blow off and change your tactics and approach to replying. As if your current system worked for you, odds are you still wouldn't be on here, reading this still searching. Something to ponder.

Take care.



I would like to make a polite and directed reply here.

I am sorry you are disillusioned and embittered.

22 months ago, a man who is local to me wrote, and I responded.
His email was original and engaging.
It asked interesting questions and made no demands.
He wanted to know about me.

I think he had been here for a few days, no more than a week when he first emailed me.

He is now my Master.

I am not going to criticise your approach either here, or to the women you have emailed.
The first is clearly born from frustration and the second is an unknown.
I don't know what caught my eye about his approach other than what I have mentioned.

I hope your luck changes.

I wish you happiness and peace.

edit: clarity

< Message edited by angelikaJ -- 11/8/2010 11:58:37 AM >

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RE: A open letter to the subs/females here - 11/8/2010 12:22:18 PM   
Hillwilliam


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Step 2: Send what I think is a nice email

If reply is recieved, start correspondence 'n' hopefully make a friend.

If reply is not recieved forget about 'em and concentrate on the aforementioned friends.

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RE: A open letter to the subs/females here - 11/8/2010 1:20:45 PM   
BostonPeter1971


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ORIGINAL: Lockit

What is your point?

The point you want us to see or the point we have?

Look dude *snip*



First anyone who calls me 'dude' I have a hard time taking seriously... that aside...

Since my point went over your head I will explain it bluntly (others seem to have gotten it however as I don't think it requires much effort to see) simply put, there is no excuse for being rude and lacking etiquette and second if you ask for something and are given it then have the courtesy to acknowledge such. You are not so self important as you are above such things as courtesy, even if in your own head you think you are.

I think that sums up my OP.


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RE: A open letter to the subs/females here - 11/8/2010 1:24:17 PM   
CeriseNin


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Status: offline 		LOL, because if person C messages person B, then B owes C a response, yeah? I have some terrible, terrible news for you: No.

No response means no interest.

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RE: A open letter to the subs/females here - 11/8/2010 1:27:33 PM   
BostonPeter1971


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ORIGINAL: MistressRosalyn

OP, sorry I wasted my time giving you an insight into why women might not be drawn to your supercilious-looking photo. Now I know the problem runs much deeper.



Defensive much? *chuckles* So I didn't bow down to your rational and have my own views and thus I am being a big meanie? I see. Sorry but I find all the excuses, and that's all they are, so far pretty weak. And that's all you and most of the others have given back in this thread. Poor excuses and knee jerk reaction defensive retorts. Thankfully my self esteem, and ego is based on a lot more then what some self important anonymous internet peep thinks of me. Just saying.

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RE: A open letter to the subs/females here - 11/8/2010 1:28:44 PM   
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ORIGINAL: BostonPeter1971

quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressRosalyn

OP, sorry I wasted my time giving you an insight into why women might not be drawn to your supercilious-looking photo. Now I know the problem runs much deeper.



Defensive much? *chuckles* So I didn't bow down to your rational and have my own views and thus I am being a big meanie? I see. Sorry but I find all the excuses, and that's all they are, so far pretty weak. And that's all you and most of the others have given back in this thread. Poor excuses and knee jerk reaction defensive retorts. Thankfully my self esteem, and ego is based on a lot more then what some self important anonymous internet peep thinks of me. Just saying.


You're the one here whining, everyone else is just replying to your tanty.

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RE: A open letter to the subs/females here - 11/8/2010 1:29:27 PM   
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RE: A open letter to the subs/females here - 11/8/2010 1:30:54 PM   
AquaticSub


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Status: offline 		Do you realize that by trying to take to task the whole of the female submissives on CM on this message board that you are, for the moment, the embodiment of a self-important annoymous "internet peep"?

Most people, online and offline, don't feel the need to walk up to a group of strangers and lecture them. They simply walk away if they find their behavior unpleasent. Manners actually frowns on those who believe they should dole out unasked for lessons - it is considered much more polite to either let the behavior slide or speak to the person privately and without insult.

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