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RE: A open letter to the subs/females here - 11/8/2010 1:32:37 PM

LadyPact

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ORIGINAL: BostonPeter1971
First anyone who calls me 'dude' I have a hard time taking seriously... that aside...

Even though this was directed at someone else, I can see that we might have this on two different ends of the spectrum.

Oddly enough, if I call somebody "Dude" it is generally a good way to know that I'm talking to them from the most basic 'cut the shit' standpoint.

Ah, the funny bits of trivia that people learn about one another via a message board.

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RE: A open letter to the subs/females here - 11/8/2010 1:37:53 PM

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ORIGINAL: BostonPeter1971

Defensive much? *chuckles* So I didn't bow down to your rational and have my own views and thus I am being a big meanie? I see. Sorry but I find all the excuses, and that's all they are, so far pretty weak. And that's all you and most of the others have given back in this thread. Poor excuses and knee jerk reaction defensive retorts. Thankfully my self esteem, and ego is based on a lot more then what some self important anonymous internet peep thinks of me. Just saying.

And yet, here you are, ego in hand, stroking away.

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RE: A open letter to the subs/females here - 11/8/2010 1:38:06 PM

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So, basically what you are saying is that the next time we get mail we should send a polite response back? Like.. I will get a piece of junk mail that says I can subscribe to this magazine.. or one that says, yes I do want this credit card you offer me, or sure, I will donate to feed the children?
Why assume that for any of us, you or any one who emails is anything more than spam? Why does it click in your head that anyone on the otherside is seeking a mate, conversation, or connection with some person who emails them from who knows where? Unsolicited mail is spam. People will answer IF they choose, or not. Obviously people have opted out of responding to your emails, which can make those boxers ride up your ass and make you cranky. Try to take things less personally. If I dropped someone an email and they did not respond I wouldn't think twice about it. Why does this issue make so many men whiny?

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ORIGINAL: BostonPeter1971
there is no excuse for being rude and lacking etiquette and second if you ask for something and are given it then have the courtesy to acknowledge such. You are not so self important as you are above such things as courtesy, even if in your own head you think you are.

I think that sums up my OP.

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RE: A open letter to the subs/females here - 11/8/2010 1:41:08 PM

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This is how they exact revenge on the male population..bitter bitches that they are..Don't let it get to you.

Where's that beer....

Make sure it is something dark, bitter. and with a bite to match the bitches.

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RE: A open letter to the subs/females here - 11/8/2010 1:48:24 PM

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ORIGINAL: BostonPeter1971
I know.. you get so many messages you can't reply to them all. Well a cut and paste of 'Thanks anyways but don't think we are a good fit. Good luck' isn't that time consuming (Pressing CTRL-V not that hard) and at least offers the kindness of a reply to something they put effort into. If you are THAT busy you can't even do that then clearly your too busy for a relationship as a whole. As what kind of time do you have?

It's not about being busy. It's about the sad but true fact that if you reply with a polite "no thanks" to someone whom you think is not a good fit for you, mostly what you get back is on the order of "well fuck you, you fat whore, I didn't want you anyway". Except with more misspellings and exclamation points.

Guys really do behave like this on adult sites. That's why when a woman isn't interested, she does not reply. It is the smartest thing she can do. Most dommes I know delete AND block, to avoid the hostile and aggressive emails that tend to follow when it becomes obvious to a guy that a woman he likes isn't interested.

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RE: A open letter to the subs/females here - 11/8/2010 1:53:49 PM

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ORIGINAL: BostonPeter1971

Thankfully my self esteem, and ego is based on a lot more then what some self important anonymous internet peep thinks of me. Just saying.

Again, if this is the case, why bother to even post the rant that you did and then proceed to follow it up with ill-mannered claptrap?

A gentleman would not have gotten his feathers ruffled so easily.

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RE: A open letter to the subs/females here - 11/8/2010 1:56:56 PM

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ORIGINAL: LadyNTrainer
It's not about being busy. It's about the sad but true fact that if you reply with a polite "no thanks" to someone whom you think is not a good fit for you, mostly what you get back is on the order of "well fuck you, you fat whore, I didn't want you anyway". Except with more misspellings and exclamation points.

Guys really do behave like this on adult sites. That's why when a woman isn't interested, she does not reply. It is the smartest thing she can do. Most dommes I know delete AND block, to avoid the hostile and aggressive emails that tend to follow when it becomes obvious to a guy that a woman he likes isn't interested.

THIS. Word for word.
P.S. OP: for the thousandth time, the same way we've tried to tell it to every other whiny noob who wanders through thinking he's special: No one owes you anything. Get over yourself, and do not presume to decide for another person how or why they should be spending their time here, ever. That is not your prerogative under any circumstances either real or imagined. Have a nice day.

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RE: A open letter to the subs/females here - 11/8/2010 2:00:22 PM

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Just for the record, OP....the situation you describe goes both ways.......however, when I don't get a response to a message, I don't run to the boards to post my little temper tantrum.

I just look at it as "sometimes no response IS the response". Get over it, move on.......pull up the big boy pants already!!!!!

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RE: A open letter to the subs/females here - 11/8/2010 2:25:56 PM

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ORIGINAL: BostonPeter1971

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ORIGINAL: Lockit

What is your point?

The point you want us to see or the point we have?

Look dude *snip*

First anyone who calls me 'dude' I have a hard time taking seriously... that aside...

Since my point went over your head I will explain it bluntly (others seem to have gotten it however as I don't think it requires much effort to see) simply put, there is no excuse for being rude and lacking etiquette and second if you ask for something and are given it then have the courtesy to acknowledge such. You are not so self important as you are above such things as courtesy, even if in your own head you think you are.

I think that sums up my OP.

Okay, so let me get this right. You come into a group of people addressing the submissive's in the group and instructing them on how to act. Right?

So you don't like being called dude, which is your right and you can take an attitude, disrespect it or anything you want. Yet, you can't see how maybe, just maybe, something you say or do might be offensive or a roll of the eyes to someone else and they might have a right to disregard you? Just like you did me? You can say dude is rude, but many use dude and don't think it is rude at all. So how was I to know you would find it rude or anything else you might have found it?

To spell it all out, you didn't know all the reasons people might be doing something and you took an attitude about it and then decided to come and be the authority or dominant one that instructs people, calls them to task and wishes to instruct them in manners and social graces. Yet, you took it upon yourself to act all domly and teacherly like. (Yes, I just made up words and most likely offended somebody else. That's life.)

Go look in a mirror and see that the rudeness you were trying to correct strangers on was just as rude as anything you could have seen in the lack of response from those you email. You see you came to make a point, vent and instruct... the problem is... before you correct anyone you have a right to correct, you might ask a few questions and not assume you are correct in your take. Before you treat a group of people as you have today... look at your own behavior.

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RE: A open letter to the subs/females here - 11/8/2010 2:46:11 PM

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ORIGINAL: BostonPeter1971

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ORIGINAL: MistressRosalyn

OP, sorry I wasted my time giving you an insight into why women might not be drawn to your supercilious-looking photo. Now I know the problem runs much deeper.

Defensive much? *chuckles* So I didn't bow down to your rational and have my own views and thus I am being a big meanie? I see. Sorry but I find all the excuses, and that's all they are, so far pretty weak. And that's all you and most of the others have given back in this thread. Poor excuses and knee jerk reaction defensive retorts. Thankfully my self esteem, and ego is based on a lot more then what some self important anonymous internet peep thinks of me. Just saying.

Dude, you are a riot, seriously. Obviously the concept of irony is completely lost on you. Your self esteem is hurt because no one agreed with your thread and now you lash out by saying everyone ELSE is defensive, weak and giving knee jerk replies.

Honestly? If you say that your ego is beyond what some anonymous internet folks thinks of you, then WHY THE HELL DID YOU POST THIS THREAD?

I mean really now, a cool guy like you cannot be that upset that he does not get a reply to an email, right?

Look into a mirror and see how you might have screwed up here.

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RE: A open letter to the subs/females here - 11/8/2010 3:03:00 PM

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ORIGINAL: sexyred1

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ORIGINAL: BostonPeter1971

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ORIGINAL: MistressRosalyn

OP, sorry I wasted my time giving you an insight into why women might not be drawn to your supercilious-looking photo. Now I know the problem runs much deeper.

Defensive much? *chuckles* So I didn't bow down to your rational and have my own views and thus I am being a big meanie? I see. Sorry but I find all the excuses, and that's all they are, so far pretty weak. And that's all you and most of the others have given back in this thread. Poor excuses and knee jerk reaction defensive retorts. Thankfully my self esteem, and ego is based on a lot more then what some self important anonymous internet peep thinks of me. Just saying.

Dude, you are a riot, seriously. Obviously the concept of irony is completely lost on you. Your self esteem is hurt because no one agreed with your thread and now you lash out by saying everyone ELSE is defensive, weak and giving knee jerk replies.

Honestly? If you say that your ego is beyond what some anonymous internet folks thinks of you, then WHY THE HELL DID YOU POST THIS THREAD?

I mean really now, a cool guy like you cannot be that upset that he does not get a reply to an email, right?

Look into a mirror and see how you might have screwed up here.

Damn, was gonna say this.

Is there any beer left????

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RE: A open letter to the subs/females here - 11/8/2010 3:17:34 PM

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Love me some LadyPact ma'am!

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RE: A open letter to the subs/females here - 11/8/2010 3:31:57 PM

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Now ladies, you just stop being mean that nice man who obviously knows way more about eticquette than you do! How can you possibly be so naughty as to not just bow down and say, "Thank you, I was so stupid and ill-mannered before, but now I've seen the light."? Tut tut. I believe I will go now and practice not picking my nose, farting, and slurping my soup.

It'll be a right big challenge.

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RE: A open letter to the subs/females here - 11/8/2010 3:33:45 PM

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Love me some LadyPact ma'am!

Thank you, Katy. That made Me smile.

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RE: A open letter to the subs/females here - 11/8/2010 3:35:06 PM

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I want the OP to send me a message so I can teach him my favorite thing: No response = NOT interested!

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RE: A open letter to the subs/females here - 11/8/2010 3:37:38 PM

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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss

Now ladies, you just stop being mean that nice man who obviously knows way more about eticquette than you do! How can you possibly be so naughty as to not just bow down and say, "Thank you, I was so stupid and ill-mannered before, but now I've seen the light."? Tut tut. I believe I will go now and practice not picking my nose, farting, and slurping my soup.

It'll be a right big challenge.

sunshine

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RE: A open letter to the subs/females here - 11/8/2010 3:39:04 PM

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Srsly, I think we hurted his wittle feelings and stuff. He left without saying anything further.
I'm shocked. Really.

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RE: A open letter to the subs/females here - 11/8/2010 5:37:01 PM

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ORIGINAL: myotherself

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ORIGINAL: Lockit
Good lord... does every thread have to become about Icary's?

Damn right it does - he's buying us all beer!

I'll put in an order for some hard cider!

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RE: A open letter to the subs/females here - 11/8/2010 5:40:32 PM

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After reading your attitude on this thread it's probably a good thing that women DON'T respond to your emails. I get the picture that you're exactly the type that would send an ugly reply once you were rejected.

Here's a hint for you...no reply IS a reply.

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RE: A open letter to the subs/females here - 11/8/2010 7:41:09 PM

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ORIGINAL: soul2share

Just for the record, OP....the situation you describe goes both ways.......however, when I don't get a response to a message, I don't run to the boards to post my little temper tantrum.

Just re-iterating what Soul said above. I send messages to people all the time and a number of times I don't get responses and I have never even thought to start a thread whining about it or journal about it. I send people notes because something they wrote in their profile or journal resonated with me (or they have a cute photo ha ha) and I send these without any expectation of receiving a reply thus not only am I never disappointed but sometimes I am pleasantly surprised.

And yes, when I respond with a polite thanks but no thanks to people they often then write back asking why or calling me names....lose/lose either way

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