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RE: my sub is married - 12/14/2010 6:49:55 PM

CelticPrince

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really am I even a Master at this point?

geodragon,

you have a long way to go lad!

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RE: my sub is married - 12/20/2010 12:17:51 PM

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Addressing your jealousy issue. It is a natural emotion... However you know the reality of the situation.. Be honest with yourself.. As a Dom you are in control of you and how you respond to the emotions that surface.. I hope that you will keep that in mind..

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RE: my sub is married - 12/27/2010 2:04:24 PM

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my sub is married to someone else

Her husband has the main course.
You have the leftovers.

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RE: my sub is married - 1/1/2011 9:52:09 AM

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Let me see .. You say you don't have morals but then, you pretend to have some by posting on here and get advice.. sure sounds logical.

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RE: my sub is married - 1/1/2011 10:04:46 AM

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ORIGINAL: geodragon

I have a very odd relationship here and was wondering for advice from anyone who has any. I am new to the D/s for almost a year now and my sub is married to someone else. We love each other and want to be together but there are things that are preventing that right now. while she is married I am wondering how do I deal with jealousy and really am I even a Master at this point?

I feel for you mate

now from my experience I come to two conclusions

a: she is legitimately trapped in a loveless sexless marriage, and is willing to leave him to be with you

but more likely is

b: you're getting played. she is using you to get what she wants

I dont think that this is going to end well for you, there are plenty more submissive girls out there so a little heart ach now should save alot later

in response to your question 'am I even a Master'
what ever you feel you are. everyone has different opinions on what makes a Master. personally I think that you have found that you enjoy Dominance but you need to explore it further to see if you are a Master or not

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RE: my sub is married - 1/2/2011 3:27:29 AM

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It's incomplete.

People have married Dominants and they still are charming subs. You can have a married sub and still be a charming Dominant, you see? Of course you are a Master at this point. A very good one, because she wants to be with you. However, your situation is different: you are not just playing. It involves love, and probably sexual intercourse, so yes, the sub being married IS a major problem.
If you love each other, may I assume that by saying you want to be together, you want to get married? What things are preventing it? Because if you two are being honest, the only thing that is preventing your being together is that your sub hasn't divorced yet. Is there a reason why?
You can deal with jealousy by talking about it. Let your feelings out - in a vanilla conversation, if you like - and have your sub say something about it. If you talk it out, you will feel reassured about important things. You will also understand some of your sub's reasons not to have already divorced.
In a relationship, whichever it may be, both parts have to talk. Always.

My opinion.

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RE: my sub is married - 1/2/2011 4:04:29 AM

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Are you a master, entering into a relationship where betrayal is an intricate part, and you are disrespectful of another man? I'm not judging you. I've been naive enough to believe my marriage is ending, and we don't have sex. What I respect, now that I'm all grown up, in myself and others, is "I find you hot, and would love to spend some time with you."

You're in an unfortunate situation... Your relationship's survival, is literally dependent on another's break up. My position is, life is short, and minimal time should be wasted in relationships that have you feeling miserable most of the time. Others think, they would prefer financial/other stability, over taking chances with being single, with half (or less) of the money.
You have full knowledge of the relationship you are in. If you believe you have a viable relationship with this lady, because she says she is yours alone, while living with another man, than be happy, and carry on. M

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