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RE: Masters only below, submissive behavior and being s... - 11/21/2010 5:05:40 PM

lizi

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ORIGINAL: anniezz338

I love this and and am happy for you. It reflects alot of what kinds of things I would look for in a relationship. Almost like he grounds you.

I've made some right and wrong decisions all my life and overall did pretty good...but I've always felt this lack of being grounded (I have no children also). I wonder if that would be a common feeling an s type would have being alone for long periods of time.

Good point anniezz....he does ground me. I have done fairly well with my life but I feel like I can do more with a positive influence at my side. I thrive in an environment where I am held to be accountable for some things, and it doesn't always work that I will do that for myself. How cool is it that someone wants you to be the best you that you can be? I need the pushing to get there because unfortunately I won't quite get there under my own power. I feel very lucky that he cares enough to guide me and that he wants the best for me and that includes having himself measure up to being able to lead me and being in the position of deserving my respect for his efforts. He's harder on himself than I could ever be.

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RE: Masters only below, submissive behavior and being s... - 11/21/2010 5:18:45 PM

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ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze
Nope, yours starts with a W, doesn't count as it is basically an M upside down ;)

But M could be short for Master! Or Mistress! ;D
I would figure a capital W would be much more powerful than an L.

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RE: Masters only below, submissive behavior and being s... - 11/21/2010 5:59:06 PM

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ORIGINAL: anniezz338
What about submissive behavior? I see some very strong submissive statements and arguements made on these threads, to the point of extreme and bickering. Yes, some deserve it, without a doubt.
What is "submissive behavior? I am submissive, yet Daddy's rules state:
I'm Proud Of You ...BE Proud Of your Self
walk Proud Chest Out Eyes Up ....Submit To NO ONE ...But ME
If it Takes Being a BITCH Do so
But, overall, isn't there a certain respect to TRUE Masters/Doms in general in the community?
What is "TRUE?" True to who or what? Who grades for trueness? Anyone can call Himself/Herself a Dom/me. I respect everyone as people, unless they give me a reason not to. I submit to only Daddy.
I mean, yes, I understand someone who isn't your Dom telling you to go do corner time would be out of line. And I may be off base saying this, but I would see my Dom expecting me to show some respect to other Doms, even if they get out of line, I can still just walk away.
Daddy does not want me to put up with disrespect. I would state my opinion matter-of-factly and then tell Him/Her that I am going to leave. If S/He tried to make a big deal out of it, I would keep on walking. As for being sent to corner time or the such, again, I submit to no one but Daddy.
It didn't even cross my mind to respond to "Question for Masters Only!" post.
I used to feel the same way when I first came to the Message Boards. Now I'm an "uppity sub" that will post anywhere. And you know, I've never been verbally spanked for doing so. Probably beause I'm normally fairly respectful about doing so and not bratty about it.

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RE: Masters only below, submissive behavior and being s... - 11/21/2010 8:03:09 PM

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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1
I wrote a cmail to jujubeeMB one time. She read it, but never replied. I never followed up, and I kept posting as though nothing had happened. Whatever respect she might have for me, I am sure she would have less if I had gone apeshit on her for disrepecting my dominant awesomeness by failing to write me back.

Yep, tons of respect for you - more now that I know that. I very likely saved your email, intending to respond to it, like I do with all the emails I get from people on the boards. My response rate is like 25% because any time I have to be on CM (not much) is dedicated to pretending I know stuff on the boards

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ORIGINAL: gungadin09
Wow, what a bitch. (Just kidding jujubee- i love you. Kidding!)

Tell me about it! Jeez, I should probably be spanked or something...
*looks around hopefully*

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RE: Masters only below, submissive behavior and being s... - 11/21/2010 8:07:01 PM

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ORIGINAL: jujubeeMB
Yep, tons of respect for you - more now that I know that. I very likely saved your email, intending to respond to it, like I do with all the emails I get from people on the boards. My response rate is like 25% because any time I have to be on CM (not much) is dedicated to pretending I know stuff on the boards

It's not just you. I have a 3 people to respond to right now. But don't worry people!

The worst I've done is responding 2 months later.

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RE: Masters only below, submissive behavior and being s... - 11/21/2010 9:05:43 PM

Zevar

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ORIGINAL: anniezz338

But, overall, isn't there a certain respect to TRUE Masters/Doms in general in the community?

Greetings anniezz338:

In reading your question regarding if there is a Code of behavior pertaining respecting those who identify as Master or Dominant in the BDSM Community is a valid question indeed. One cannot learn without searching for answers through various forms of communicative methods. I do not at all speak for anyone but myself and how I perceive the question, thus I will say the following:

Respect as in esteeming another or a feeling or attitude of admiration and deference toward somebody or something can indeed be quite appropriately offered to someone who has proven to be worthy of such. In another reference of considering respect one could assume it to be related to a state of being admired deferentially or with thoughtfulness due to certain characteristic traits that are consistently demonstrated by an individual.

Respect is not unique to those who identify as Master , as you more than likely know. I am not attempting to influence your position regarding respect. I am simply explaining my viewpoint for your consideration on the subject and in response to this thread which you began.

One could also view respect in regards toward another or as in being polite in the greeting offered to somebody as totally appropriate, in most instances. I tend to offer a consideration toward people in general, yet do not relinquish my respect for another without duly exchanging with that person, regardless of their orientation or identification, in a way that assures me of the congruency and integrity of another, characteristically speaking.

Respect can also refer to not going against or violating something or someone and choosing to pay due attention to and refrain from violating the laws of the land or another's privacy and personal boundaries. To be considerate toward somebody or something and to show consideration or thoughtfulness in relation to somebody or something indeed is a noble and polite choice as a gesture towards others.

However as respect is related to those of us who identify as a Master, respect is not something that is automatic. I would not want someone to refrain from asserting their right to know who I am prior to choosing to respecting me for the man that I am. I do agree with the notion that to be courteous toward all people is a standard that I value and practice in all of my interactions.

Nonetheless, virtual reality & in daily living presents issues that surround being able to be certain of another’s character without truly taking the time to become fully acquainted with that person. In conclusion, I do share in your thoughtfulness toward people yet do not necessarily expect someone to respect me due to my being a Master that is dominant.

However if I take the time and effort & consent to mutually become acquainted with another, then my expectations do shift from what I originally expect in the beginning stages of knowing myself regarding respecting myself. I surely am not the type of man that passes judgement on people. Instead I believe how we as individuals behave and interact with others is what brings forth our consequences, that might full well prevent others from affording the respect that might be expected by some, being a Master or not.

Thank you for the thread, as it generated much to consider on the subject of respect.

Take good care!

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RE: Masters only below, submissive behavior and being s... - 11/21/2010 9:38:22 PM

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ORIGINAL: anniezz338
But, overall, isn't there a certain respect to TRUE Masters/Doms in general in the community? I mean, yes, I understand someone who isn't your Dom telling you to go do corner time would be out of line. And I may be off base saying this, but I would see my Dom expecting me to show some respect to other Doms, even if they get out of line, I can still just walk away. It didn't even cross my mind to respond to "Question for Masters Only!" post.

It's impossible to establish who is and who isn't a 'True' Dom or Master simply by their self-identification. If anything it requires an appreciation of their constant input on the boards over time - which, to those who can read such things - establishes their credibility.

Accordingly, questions addressed specifically to those who self-identify as dominant are pointless. In person you could identify someone as dominant by their body language, demeanour and tonality. On the net, no such mechanisms exist. So effectively you're either required to take everyone's word, or you have to simply dismiss the issue as academic.

Thus, so-called 'Masters' who chastise subs for posting in specific threads are A) insecure and B) stupid.

Assertion of authority over others doesn't make you dominant. And indeed if you're dominant you know full well it's the way that you conduct yourself which causes respect - not the claiming of a title which you've effectively granted to yourself.

Respect is earned. Always.

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RE: Masters only below, submissive behavior and being s... - 11/21/2010 10:58:33 PM

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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1
I wrote a cmail to jujubeeMB one time. She read it, but never replied. I never followed up, and I kept posting as though nothing had happened. Whatever respect she might have for me, I am sure she would have less if I had gone apeshit on her for disrepecting my dominant awesomeness by failing to write me back.

Yep, tons of respect for you - more now that I know that. I very likely saved your email, intending to respond to it, like I do with all the emails I get from people on the boards. My response rate is like 25% because any time I have to be on CM (not much) is dedicated to pretending I know stuff on the boards

Yanno, this explains lotsa things.

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ORIGINAL: gungadin09
Wow, what a bitch. (Just kidding jujubee- i love you. Kidding!)

Tell me about it! Jeez, I should probably be spanked or something...
*looks around hopefully*

*meanders by with this*
Careful what you ask for.

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RE: Masters only below, submissive behavior and being s... - 11/22/2010 2:05:49 AM

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ORIGINAL: anniezz338
I've made some right and wrong decisions all my life and overall did pretty good...but I've always felt this lack of being grounded (I have no children also). I wonder if that would be a common feeling an s type would have being alone for long periods of time.

Annie if I can just give my opinion on the question above, I don't think this is in any way related to one's orientation - dominant, submissive etc rather I think that a number of people who are alone for a long time may feel this.

Even though discovering bdsm can be so exciting and give us so much insight into ourselves I feel it is wise to be cautious about attributing a lot of things to our orientation when they simply are people things.

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