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steve2011 -> RE: Bdsm is wrong (12/6/2010 11:57:48 AM)
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Again your totally wrong i'm afraid
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ORIGINAL: lovingpet
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sorry but thats way off the mark, people may put that down to a child being naughty or bad but its actually the child being healthy. When a child is born they cry when they are upset get angry when they are angry, express joy when they are happy and in a lot of cultures this is a problem for parents, if someone enters therapy, certainly the one I do, it is about freeing those emotions again.
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ORIGINAL: lovingpet
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ORIGINAL: mnottertail
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ORIGINAL: LadyPact
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There you go, you kind of backed up what I said 'lockit', yes i'd say pretty much ALL submissive men will feel angry, some will have it buried very well, some will show it and become aggressive at times. Anger is a healthy emotion, especially for males, it's just the bodys way of saying this is wrong for me. Emotionally intelligent people will realise this and do something about it.
Then that is exactly what you should do. Take yourself to a nice vanilla site and find a 'normal' non kinky woman to have a great healthy relationship with. Forget whatever urges brought you here and you'll be just fine.
No, hold up here guys, there exists the same exact thing in the female side of submission, with the newbies (****NB: NEWBIES) and they cry, weep and gnash their teeth and rail at God, oh, why oh, why am I a submissive, and fight and piss and moan.
Not every submissive goes gentle into that goodnight.
Then sooner or later they (the greatest number of them anyway) lower themselves in that nice hot luxurious bath, and revel in it.
And of course there are a select few who rail for the rest of their lives (a certain submissive male in Ireland comes to mind) and harp and harp on the same old shit, rather than getting with whatever program is in there.
That's called repression. Like when a child has unhealthy over bearing parents, he/she will cry, scream, yell, kick, basically do everything to stop it and keep his personality but usually the parent wins and the child gets grinded down and learns to hold in emotions, sadly its a pattern that takes a lot of work to stop.
No. It's the final stage of grief. It's called acceptance and it is the one that finally frees us to move on and begin to truly live again.
You are wrong yet again. You are intentionally replacing one set of emotions with a set you have determined to be correct. As the therapist, you are in the position of authority and so you just must be right. YOU are the one causing repression. You are NOT the one healing it. You see, good therapy lets people come to their own conclusion that are functional and healthy FOR THEM, not what you think they ought to be. Therapy is about making peace with self, healing if needed and wanted, and living life on purpose instead of based off of some script that we don't even realize is there.
Man! They will give PhD's to anyone these days.
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