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Areas that shouldn't require training. - 1/4/2011 4:44:44 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		After watching a good number of threads that have been coming up around here, I thought it might be educational to have Dominant women contribute to a thread about training and areas we expect new submissives to know, whether they are new to the lifestyle or not.

I'll start off and then everyone can join in........

Manners - I refuse to accept the idea that I should have to train anyone in common courtesy.  A male should know how to speak to a woman and treat her with dignity.  That includes written communication.  All of those lessons that your Mother taught you apply, whether you're talking to kinky people or not.

Clothing - I honestly expect a submissive to know that most people have no real desire to look at his ass or his genitals.  That includes profile pics.  Think about it, guys!  How many people do you know in your real life that honestly want to see these parts of your body?  If you know some that do, I want you to think about how few they are when compared to the entire population. 

Character - I should not have to teach you right from wrong.  That was the job of the person that raised you.

Ignorance - Ignorance is never acceptable as there is always a cure for it.

Decorum -  Until you get to know someone, there really is a thing that is commonly known as TMI. 


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RE: Areas that shouldn't require training. - 1/4/2011 5:04:08 PM   
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RE: Areas that shouldn't require training. - 1/4/2011 5:17:12 PM   
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RE: Areas that shouldn't require training. - 1/4/2011 5:35:43 PM   
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Keep it up.  This thread is already producing some gems. 

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RE: Areas that shouldn't require training. - 1/4/2011 5:46:52 PM   
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Unfortunately the art of Chivalry and being a Gentlemen seems to have gone by the wayside. It is a lost art with the age of the internet. The funny part is, its the small things in life we take for granted that can have the biggest impact on others. The simple act of holding a door open, pulling the chair out for the lady at dinner, or just asking how your day was can make a big impact.

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RE: Areas that shouldn't require training. - 1/4/2011 5:50:50 PM   
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RE: Areas that shouldn't require training. - 1/4/2011 5:53:43 PM   
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Status: offline 		I could not agree more. It does not take any special education to know how to take a shower and get a haircut and stay out of a woman's personal space. I am constantly appalled at the dumb crap I see.

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RE: Areas that shouldn't require training. - 1/4/2011 6:21:10 PM   
Tantriqu


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Status: offline 		I'll echo the common courtesy:
DO: say please and thanks, and be prompt/ on time/ available. The sexiest thing a man can do on a date, vanilla or otherwise, is hold the door . . . for the little old lady behind me.

Don't: act like a 'do-me' bottom;
call yourself or anyone else a bitch; or
lie on your profile ["Welllll, i said i was sub/single/straight/local/available, but I will be . . . soon . . . prob'ly . . .maybe . . . kinda . . . sorta . . . would like to be . . . except now i'm a switch married bi- guy in jail in the Torres Straits, but that shouldn't matter."]

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RE: Areas that shouldn't require training. - 1/4/2011 6:28:13 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: mummyman321

Lady Pact,
Unfortunately the art of Chivalry and being a Gentlemen seems to have gone by the wayside. It is a lost art with the age of the internet. The funny part is, its the small things in life we take for granted that can have the biggest impact on others. The simple act of holding a door open, pulling the chair out for the lady at dinner, or just asking how your day was can make a big impact.



It's not that they CAN make a big impact, it's actually that they DO....

Maybe I am terribly old fashioned but simple manners will never go out of style! it's not submissive, it's not dominant, it's just a sign that you are a thinking adult and weren't raised by a bunch of wild wolves (and no offense meant to a wolf pack, who usually doesn't introduce themselves by showing their dicks)

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RE: Areas that shouldn't require training. - 1/4/2011 7:28:30 PM   
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RE: Areas that shouldn't require training. - 1/4/2011 8:41:35 PM   
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Unhooking a brazier with one hand?

What?

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RE: Areas that shouldn't require training. - 1/4/2011 8:44:09 PM   
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quote:

Unhooking a brazier with one hand?


Depends on whether you burn your hand.

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RE: Areas that shouldn't require training. - 1/4/2011 8:54:58 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: mummyman321

Lady Pact,
Unfortunately the art of Chivalry and being a Gentlemen seems to have gone by the wayside. It is a lost art with the age of the internet.


I'd add to that statement that the art of being a lady has gone by the wayside as well. Just as every man is not necessarily a gentleman, not every woman is a lady.

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RE: Areas that shouldn't require training. - 1/4/2011 9:06:30 PM   
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Status: offline 		reading the profiles of the person before contacting. read postings to see what they think and why and listen and pay attention to them.

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RE: Areas that shouldn't require training. - 1/4/2011 9:13:47 PM   
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Taking rejection well.

I honestly can't deal with somebody who will sing my praises to the high heavens at one moment, then attempt to degrade me into doing their bidding.

That's just a little too moody for me.

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RE: Areas that shouldn't require training. - 1/4/2011 9:19:24 PM   
sexyred1


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Status: offline 		May a submissive female say that all that has been suggested here is also relevant to what submissive women  expect from Dominant men?

None of this behavior should require training above and beyond what one's mother might have taught them as LadyPact said.

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RE: Areas that shouldn't require training. - 1/4/2011 9:31:54 PM   
SweetDommes


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Status: offline 		Honestly, it applies across the board. We've been contacted before by female submissives who could use a few lessons in manners. And I know people who identify as dominant, switch, submissive, male, female, straight, gay, bi, whatever - all of whom could use a few lessons ... preferably applied with a 2x4 to the head to help them sink in faster LOL

I do agree with pretty much everyone so far - manners, and paying attention to the PERSON being contacted are up there at the top of the list, and in general, if you have those, the rest will fall into place.

< Message edited by SweetDommes -- 1/4/2011 9:32:48 PM >

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RE: Areas that shouldn't require training. - 1/4/2011 9:40:04 PM   
seekingOwnertoo


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Status: offline 		Nice thread LP ...

and as You know, i could not agree more, with You, and with LH's comments earlier!


Yet i feel i have said this on the Forums for months ... and of course ... no men listen! ;-)

So i am delighted, You, the Ladies try to say it!




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RE: Areas that shouldn't require training. - 1/4/2011 10:32:24 PM   
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Status: offline 		I was always happy to or wanting to see my x's butt, he had a mighty fine ass in my opinion, course just cause I liked it didn't mean others would be so hot to trot to view it I understand.

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Clothing - I honestly expect a submissive to know that most people have no real desire to look at his ass or his genitals.  That includes profile pics.  Think about it, guys!  How many people do you know in your real life that honestly want to see these parts of your body?  If you know some that do, I want you to think about how few they are when compared to the entire population. 


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RE: Areas that shouldn't require training. - 1/4/2011 10:33:39 PM   
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