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ORIGINAL: CalifChick

status:  successful first date, first base
status:  three dates, third base, and if we don't fuck on the next one I'm moving on
status:  fourth date, we've had sex
status:  dating, but haven't met his parents yet
status:  dating, but only every other weekend, as he has his kids the other weekends and we're not ready to introduce me to his kids
status:  not sure if I want a future with this guy, kinda iffy on how he treats waitstaff
status:  friends with benefits until one of us finds someone we want to be monogamous for
status:  can't decide if we should divorce or not
status:  fucking my boss, biding my time until we break up and I sue for sexual harrassment and hostile work environment

Cali

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ORIGINAL: CalifChick

Loki, the one-armed midget wrestlers were the part of our relationship that I agreed to ke........

Oh.

Yeah.


call me
 

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ORIGINAL: CalifChick

edited to say... you're right darling, I'm sorry.

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ORIGINAL: BeautyDebased

*smiles*

I generally choose to ignore those who find fault or feel the need to throw insult at others, as someone happy with their life I don't have that need but I guess, each to his/her own.

I am also pretty sure a Dom knows he is being monitored by the sub during a time of consideration, for my Master and I we saw it as an engagement, just not a vanilla one as it were, before I was collared to him and in my eyes became the luckiest slave girl on earth.


Beauty.

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ORIGINAL: FukinTroll

::SNIP:: uniformed flying monkeys ::: SNIP:::

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status: successful first date, first base
status: three dates, third base, and if we don't fuck on the next one I'm moving on
status: fourth date, we've had sex
status: dating, but haven't met his parents yet
status: dating, but only every other weekend, as he has his kids the other weekends and we're not ready to introduce me to his kids
status: not sure if I want a future with this guy, kinda iffy on how he treats waitstaff
status: friends with benefits until one of us finds someone we want to be monogamous for
status: can't decide if we should divorce or not
status: fucking my boss, biding my time until we break up and I sue for sexual harrassment and hostile work environment

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Without the quoting, I think there may be a communication issue.  To Me, when someone says they don't "get" something, it means that they don't understand, not that they don't practice it.  That they can't wrap their minds around how other people might think or live differently. 

Unfortunately, this seems to be another area where opinion seems to be trumping experience and knowing people who have chosen a different way. 

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ORIGINAL: TNDommeK

I have often seen on profiles "under consideration by <insert name here>" Im just curious but what are your thoughts on consideration online?

Focus:
"Under consideration" is about separating a naive newbie sub from the greater informed and knowledgeable community so as she'll never know that the "dom/me" likely has less clues about domination than she does.

It's about him maintaining exclusive access. Sure, it's a control dynamic - just as kidnapping and imprisoning someone is. IE, it really only benefits one of the two parties concerned....

We poke fun at the fakes and wannabes all day but they do have a gift for getting to and isolating the new meat, first. My personal favourite is when the sub "under consideration" puts in her profile that all contact with her must first go through "Sir/Lord/Master Emptyhead" for his approval.

As if any self respecting Dom/me is gonna skip through those hoops....

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The new trend seems to be that as long as a person wants to shout about how they are only going on uninformed opinion, it's all good.

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ORIGINAL: BeautyDebased

I hope that gives others hope too, if you misunderstand me I do apologize but it was never intended.

...kind of shocked at the replies really, I'd have thought it someone didn't like how I responded or if maybe I was doing something that may appear mean they would have the courtesy of IM'ing me.

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ORIGINAL: BeautyDebased

Wow.....It's just something I do :(,

I am sorry if you read it that way, none of my posts have been condescending, just stating that being under consideration can work or I kinda thought that's what I was doing.

I hope that gives others hope too, if you misunderstand me I do apologize but it was never intended.

I never realized some people on the forums were so aggressive, maybe trying to help isn't a good idea.

Some of the smilies are creepy too, I use an emote instead...and have on many forums, most never thought anything of it, myself included...kind of shocked at the replies really, I'd have thought it someone didn't like how I responded or if maybe I was doing something that may appear mean they would have the courtesy of IM'ing me.

Saying someone looks like a idiot or stupid because of a few words on their profile isn't nice either, I don't care what people have on their profiles, everyone's entitled to do it their way, whatever works for them.





Beauty.

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ORIGINAL: CeriseNin

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ORIGINAL: BeautyDebased

Wow.....It's just something I do :(,

I am sorry if you read it that way, none of my posts have been condescending, just stating that being under consideration can work or I kinda thought that's what I was doing.

I hope that gives others hope too, if you misunderstand me I do apologize but it was never intended.

I never realized some people on the forums were so aggressive, maybe trying to help isn't a good idea.

Some of the smilies are creepy too, I use an emote instead...and have on many forums, most never thought anything of it, myself included...kind of shocked at the replies really, I'd have thought it someone didn't like how I responded or if maybe I was doing something that may appear mean they would have the courtesy of IM'ing me.

Saying someone looks like a idiot or stupid because of a few words on their profile isn't nice either, I don't care what people have on their profiles, everyone's entitled to do it their way, whatever works for them.

Beauty.

You know what else isn't nice? Wrapping your bullshit insults in smiles and fake niceties. Either have the guts to say it straight out, or don't even bother.

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ORIGINAL: Focus50

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ORIGINAL: CeriseNin

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ORIGINAL: BeautyDebased

Wow.....It's just something I do :(,

I am sorry if you read it that way, none of my posts have been condescending, just stating that being under consideration can work or I kinda thought that's what I was doing.

I hope that gives others hope too, if you misunderstand me I do apologize but it was never intended.

I never realized some people on the forums were so aggressive, maybe trying to help isn't a good idea.

Some of the smilies are creepy too, I use an emote instead...and have on many forums, most never thought anything of it, myself included...kind of shocked at the replies really, I'd have thought it someone didn't like how I responded or if maybe I was doing something that may appear mean they would have the courtesy of IM'ing me.

Saying someone looks like a idiot or stupid because of a few words on their profile isn't nice either, I don't care what people have on their profiles, everyone's entitled to do it their way, whatever works for them.

Beauty.

You know what else isn't nice? Wrapping your bullshit insults in smiles and fake niceties. Either have the guts to say it straight out, or don't even bother.

Since you've quoted it, I've gotta assume you read the same post I just did.... So the gist of your reply here is that a new poster needs to demonstrate the same crude, aggressive and cliquey style as you just have, or not at all?

BeautyDebased, no-one likes a "smiling assassin" - it makes you appear sociopathic (and creepy). If you're gonna confront a stranger(?) as you did initially with sirsholly, then put yourself in a r/l situation and ask yourself if you'd be smiling at the time. Me. I don't mind a smiling assassin in r/l, because one has fair and reasonable opportunity to reply with a "Liverpool kiss".... Such is how it provokes.

Overall, I'd say thicken your skin a tad, that people will jump at a chance to get offended, esp when they have a point. I thought your "smile" was a nervous afterthought to take the edge off your words rather than overt condescension. But it made you an easy target for a (small) "feeding frenzy" - and the above post is how cowardly mob-rule tends to degenerate.

Focus.

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ORIGINAL: kalikshama

/demands cookies first/

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I see your cookie skills are coming along nicely... I may have to put you under consideration after all