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thishereboi -> RE: older men (1/24/2011 4:00:07 AM)

Because age matters to them. It's called a preference and I would venture to guess most people have them when it comes to their partners. As to some subs looking for boyfriends, yes a lot of subs consider their master to also be a boyfriend. My Mistress was also my girlfriend, so to me age mattered. 




GreedyTop -> RE: older men (1/24/2011 4:27:44 AM)

personally, I want a partner that has a similar grasp on cultural and first hand historical references that I do... I hate having to explain some things.  I don't like Mondays, for instance.




0ldhen -> RE: older men (1/24/2011 4:28:06 AM)


It matters to me. After all I have ums as old as some of those guys I've been emailed by.

Also older than me has just always been my preference. I find silver hair a big plus.




kalikshama -> RE: older men (1/24/2011 5:09:10 AM)

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kalikshama -> RE: older men (1/24/2011 5:13:38 AM)


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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

personally, I want a partner that has a similar grasp on cultural and first hand historical references that I do... I hate having to explain some things.  I don't like Mondays, for instance.



OMG, House + Bob Geldorf = WIN (and KK late for work)




crazyml -> RE: older men (1/24/2011 6:45:48 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Zevar

Perhaps you might want to rethink what it is you are trying to convey for those of us who can only reply based on the words you present.



I think there's a lesson for all of us in these words.




crazyml -> RE: older men (1/24/2011 6:50:18 AM)

Ello OP!

They say age is a factor, because, it's a factor.

And, while age may be a fairly good pointer to experience, I know enough 68 year old jackasses to know that it's not super reliable.

I've taken a look at your profile, and I'm afraid I'm with the other posters who are a little critical of it. I'd sincerely advise you to consider a rewrite that focusses on what you can bring to a relationship other than kink.

Good luck.




littleone35 -> RE: older men (1/24/2011 10:31:47 AM)

Age is not a huge factor for me.. I have lways prefred older but i would not reject a younger (35+) just because of his age. My Master is older than i . Even my ex vanillia ex bf's were older then me (except for one that was 2 montrhs younger). If i was not collared your profile OP would send me running fast away from you. I guess that makes me a not a twue submissive. Maybe you should rewrite that profile and put something you have to offera sub other than using and abosing and hurting her. Something to think on.

Matt's littleone




mysouldesire -> RE: older men (1/24/2011 12:36:49 PM)

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Shouldn't a Master be able to Master anyone, males as well as females? This is not all about sex you know. You could Master a male submissive for your sadistic leanings and find a vanilla female for the sex part if you are straight.


Peppermint......

He could not do this or he'd be cnsidered homosexual, wouldn't her? lmho




keepmehard -> RE: older men (1/24/2011 12:40:19 PM)

i want to thank everyone who answered my question and it brought me to the realization that a lot of them were right. i did sound like a 20 year old sleezeball, so i chamged my profile to what i am looking for




osf -> RE: older men (1/24/2011 12:42:00 PM)

I'm a much older sleezball




kalikshama -> RE: older men (1/24/2011 12:46:45 PM)

Well, that is an improvement, bravo for heeding our advice.

Two sentences aren't enough for me however. I recommend you flesh it out a bit and add some vanilla interests. I'd like to know you are a person, not just a life support system for a whip.




sexyred1 -> RE: older men (1/24/2011 1:09:24 PM)

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ORIGINAL: keepmehard

i want to thank everyone who answered my question and it brought me to the realization that a lot of them were right. i did sound like a 20 year old sleezeball, so i chamged my profile to what i am looking for


That was WAY better. Good for you for taking the advice and not getting upset.




angelikaJ -> RE: older men (1/24/2011 1:29:47 PM)

How are you defining experience exactly?

2 years ago the man who is my Master now found me here.

He began gaining experience when he was in college.
This year he turns 20 years your junior.

That is plenty experienced and yet, he wanted a whole person to serve him and not just a series of orifices.

I serve Him with joy and devotion.

You joined here not even 2 months ago and yet you seemingly do not understand the value of patience.

Perhaps you could find out where the local munches are and go there... meet people and offer your wealth of experience to those in your community.
It might be a good way to meet people local to you.

My question to you is are you interested in women your own age... does seasoned experience count in that instance as well?

And since you seem uninterested in training someone who is uncertain but yet have specific wants then it might be well for you to try to lose the frustration when what you wish for doesn't immediately appear.

Cultivating patience and a sense of humor could serve you well in the long run... but I would give up the need for immediate gratification.

Good things do come to those who wait. I should know: I was here for 18 months or so before He found me.

Best wishes in your search.




LadyPact -> RE: older men (1/24/2011 2:06:24 PM)

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ORIGINAL: keepmehard

i want to thank everyone who answered my question and it brought me to the realization that a lot of them were right. i did sound like a 20 year old sleezeball, so i chamged my profile to what i am looking for

I'm really glad you said this.

You know, it occurs to Me that someday (in 20+ years) I am also going to be a senior citizen.  At that point in My life, chances are that there is going to be somebody out there who is at least twenty years younger than Me, who is more appealing to play with, and who has a much greater longevity factor for a long term relationship.  When that time comes, I am going to have to accept the fact that it's somebody else's stage and I've already had My turn.





preytolife -> RE: older men (1/24/2011 2:28:21 PM)

I like older men. I just like them to be in the same or a similar life stage with me. I want to have the option of sharing everything with them...and frankly a 60 or 70 year old can't, and they don't attract me. My ideas on age are actually a lot more loose than some peoples. I like people 22-40ish. I could swing upwards 5 years in a pinch but most just aren't worth that. I do want more than sex, and I'd rather not tempt fate that I might have to nurse an elderly Master in his old age.

There's nothing wrong with boyfriends, or in mixing D/s with dating... But I want neither a sterile version of BDSM totally separate from my life (and love) or a white picket fence lifestyle where we dress in leather on weekends and Call each other LordDOMEDOM and petslaveyofthehouseofDofmontezuma but only "in-Dungeon". I don't believe most people see any problem with a nice middle ground.




Aynne88 -> RE: older men (1/24/2011 2:33:33 PM)

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ORIGINAL: RCdc


quote:

ORIGINAL: keepmehard

why do subs say that age is a factor? it sseems to me a lot of subs are just looking for boyfriends, not an experienced master


Age does not equal experience.


Exactly. My man is 17 years older than I am but I have more 'experience" in the whole BDSM world than he does. Also, to the OP, clean your apartment or domicile or wherever that abode is. Seriously for me that slovenly background was the biggest turn off. Ick. I don't want to hook up with a slob and most women I know don't either. Just some advice.




JstAnotherSub -> RE: older men (1/24/2011 3:46:55 PM)

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ORIGINAL: keepmehard

why do subs say that age is a factor? it sseems to me a lot of subs are just looking for boyfriends, not an experienced master


They should all be whupped!  How dare they want to have a say in who they submit to.

Fuckin wannabes.




peppermint -> RE: older men (1/24/2011 4:56:52 PM)

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ORIGINAL: mysouldesire

Peppermint......

He could not do this or he'd be cnsidered homosexual, wouldn't her? lmho


I don't see why he would be considered homosexual.  Sexuality and whether one enjoys topping someone of the same gender are two different matters.  Gary loves to top men.  He loves to do CBT.  However, sexually he is straight.  I do understand that many men fear being called gay or at least bi if they top both men and women.  I also know men who would love to give it a try if they were sure no one would find out in their home territory.




Hillwilliam -> RE: older men (1/24/2011 5:46:45 PM)

To the OP

I had a phone call out of the blue today. A former playmate called to say she is back in town for a couple of months and needs 'hard use'. She is less than half my age. It CAN be done if you dont come off as a whiner or a perve.

Ok, we're ALL perves but no more pervy then normal for the site.

Adjust your profile and attitude and realize that subs are people too with hopes and dreams and needs and preferences and.......




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