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ORIGINAL: keepmehard

why do subs say that age is a factor? it sseems to me a lot of subs are just looking for boyfriends, not an experienced master

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

I'm really glad you said this.

You know, it occurs to Me that someday (in 20+ years) I am also going to be a senior citizen.  At that point in My life, chances are that there is going to be somebody out there who is at least twenty years younger than Me, who is more appealing to play with, and who has a much greater longevity factor for a long term relationship.  When that time comes, I am going to have to accept the fact that it's somebody else's stage and I've already had My turn.

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ORIGINAL: porcelaine

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

I'm really glad you said this.

You know, it occurs to Me that someday (in 20+ years) I am also going to be a senior citizen.  At that point in My life, chances are that there is going to be somebody out there who is at least twenty years younger than Me, who is more appealing to play with, and who has a much greater longevity factor for a long term relationship.  When that time comes, I am going to have to accept the fact that it's somebody else's stage and I've already had My turn.

Greetings LadyPact,

Your response is the best answer I've seen thus far on this subject. While it crops up quite frequently, I've never encountered anyone that accepts the inevitable and does it with the grace you've articulated. Well stated.

Namaste,

~porcelaine

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ORIGINAL: nakedplaything

peppermint, i totally agree with what people are saying to the op. but the bit about him finding a male submisive -  you didnt actually mean that literally did you? its hard to tell sometimes with the written word. are you actually suggesting that he simply gets a male sub to cater for his bdsm desires? please tell me your not.

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ORIGINAL: peppermint

You also have preferences.  You want a female submissive.  What is wrong with a male submissive?  Shouldn't a Master be able to Master anyone, males as well as females?  This is not all about sex you know.  You could Master a male submissive for your sadistic leanings and find a vanilla female for the sex part if you are straight. 

We all have preferences.  Some want their partner to live within a certain distance.  Others have certain height requirements.  Many are only attracted to people with a certain body type or a certain color of hair.  There are people who only want a certain race.  Strangely, we get young Doms complaining in the forums that the submissives want older Masters.  Some want to marry their partner and have a family.  There are even some who just want a regular partner to play with, no strings attached.  A submissive does not HAVE to accept any Dom, Dick, or Harry, of any age, of any size, no matter where they live,not matter what the conditions just because that person claims to be a Master. 

I am very sorry if you are finding it difficult to find a submissive.  To be quite frank, according to my male friends it is very difficult to find someone when you are over 60 let alone almost 70.  This is especially true if you would prefer to find someone younger.  Many looked for years before finding someone.  You have been a member here for a month.  Rome was not built in a day, and submissive are not found in a month when you are over 60, or any age for that matter.

I do understand the problems of older Doms and submissives.  Gary is going to be 70 in a few days and I will be 60 soon.  I do understand the difficulties of finding partners at our age.  It is especially difficult for older males as there are so many more of them than older kinky females.  However, whining as your first post in a forum will not make you more attractive to any submissive. 

Remember this please.  Until a submissive has agreed to be YOUR submissive and agrees to wear YOUR collar, the submissive has the rights to have any preferences he/she might have for whatever reasons he/she has for those preferences. 

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My take is that peppermint was simply reminding the OP that since he is complaining about younger female subs having preferences, he should realize that he himself has preferences.

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ORIGINAL: JohnWarren

Not exactly on topic, but something I think applies.

It seems that a lot of people see anyone older who emails them as someone who wants a scene relationship with them.

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You also have preferences. You want a female submissive. What is wrong with a male submissive? Shouldn't a Master be able to Master anyone, males as well as females? This is not all about sex you know. You could Master a male submissive for your sadistic leanings and find a vanilla female for the sex part if you are straight.

We all have preferences. Some want their partner to live within a certain distance. Others have certain height requirements. Many are only attracted to people with a certain body type or a certain color of hair. There are people who only want a certain race. Strangely, we get young Doms complaining in the forums that the submissives want older Masters. Some want to marry their partner and have a family. There are even some who just want a regular partner to play with, no strings attached. A submissive does not HAVE to accept any Dom, Dick, or Harry, of any age, of any size, no matter where they live,not matter what the conditions just because that person claims to be a Master.

I am very sorry if you are finding it difficult to find a submissive. To be quite frank, according to my male friends it is very difficult to find someone when you are over 60 let alone almost 70. This is especially true if you would prefer to find someone younger. Many looked for years before finding someone. You have been a member here for a month. Rome was not built in a day, and submissive are not found in a month when you are over 60, or any age for that matter.

I do understand the problems of older Doms and submissives. Gary is going to be 70 in a few days and I will be 60 soon. I do understand the difficulties of finding partners at our age. It is especially difficult for older males as there are so many more of them than older kinky females. However, whining as your first post in a forum will not make you more attractive to any submissive.

Remember this please. Until a submissive has agreed to be YOUR submissive and agrees to wear YOUR collar, the submissive has the rights to have any preferences he/she might have for whatever reasons he/she has for those preferences.

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ORIGINAL: Aileen1968

And it looks like a lot of old guys are just looking for someone to keep them hard.

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ORIGINAL: Aynne88

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ORIGINAL: RCdc

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ORIGINAL: keepmehard

why do subs say that age is a factor? it sseems to me a lot of subs are just looking for boyfriends, not an experienced master

Age does not equal experience.

Exactly. My man is 17 years older than I am but I have more 'experience" in the whole BDSM world than he does. Also, to the OP, clean your apartment or domicile or wherever that abode is. Seriously for me that slovenly background was the biggest turn off. Ick. I don't want to hook up with a slob and most women I know don't either. Just some advice.