LillyBoPeep
Posts: 6873
Joined: 12/29/2010
Status: offline
|
even pedestals are based on simplified/stylized/fetishized versions of reality. they are limited scope, and made up of assumptions, accepted behavior and stereotypes. a pedestal is no better than a cage when they are both made of the same thing.
women don't prance around in hosiery to feel our delightful femininity -- they're not very comfortable for the most part, they roll up, they bind, sometimes the crotch is too low or the waist is too high. that's the way this perception of "femininity" fits many women, too -- people have a preconception of what is "feminine" and what isn't -- but many women just don't fit it to a T. people judge your worth on how you fit it, and what do you do as a woman when you are female but you dont fit the ideal of "femininity"? espousing some belief in the power of femininity doesn't do much for women at all except to further box them in.
example: i am a female submissive. many people discount my behavior and my actions because they feel that that's what i should be doing anyway. =p because their perception of femininity is demure, soft, submissive. well how does that make me feel about myself? that there's no conscious thought to what i'm doing? im just acting out rote instinct based on my chromosomes? that discounts the work and time and thought i put into everything i do.
do you understand that?
and many female Dominants have to deal with being either extremely opposite of that, or with people professing that they are really submissives because they want to wear a dress and make-up once in a while.
edited to add: here's how the statistical thing about "men make all the evil!" boils down for women and becomes a cage. you do know that women commit crimes, right? women rape men, women abuse and kill. their children. women strap on bombs and blow themselves up in public squares, sometimes women use their "wiles" to motivate horrible behavior by men because they know they have that power. women are pretty diabolical at times and while men are more obvious about their aggression, women are often passive aggressive and sneaky. a husband may shoot his wife, but a wife might poison her husband with antifreeze in his favorite soup, all while pretending to care for him.
women fart, women poop, women egg on bad behavior in men, and snipe about each other behind everyone's backs.
those are HUMAN things. women are human and do bad things, too.
when you state this blindingly brilliant opinion that women are not the perpetrators of evil, women are soft and sweet and made of sugar, you're forgetting or totally factoring out the SPICE.
you limit your scope of what women are, and then when a woman engages in a human behavior like being spiteful or hurtful or doing something bad, it turns the world upside down and you believe in your heart of hearts that something MUST be wrong with her.
nope, she's simply being a human being.
no human deserves a pedestal. we just want to walk on earth with the rest of you.
< Message edited by LillyBoPeep -- 2/9/2011 8:41:01 AM >
|
RE: query to fd's about forced fem involving sheer hosiery - 
Profile
New Messages
No New Messages
Hot Topic w/ New Messages
Hot Topic w/o New Messages
Locked w/ New Messages
Locked w/o New Messages
Post New Thread