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RE: Public and immediate punishment. - 5/13/2011 12:57:18 PM

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So I have a sub I'm getting to know who is a little more bratty and uppity than I've had in the past. She will try to rile me up sexually in public when I don't wish it and can't do anything about it. I'd like to offer her some "immediate feedback", because otherwise she will continue causing me discomfort. Of course, I don't want to draw unwanted attention so I need some thoughts on punishments that can be used discreetly in a restaurant or bar.

Pinches and hair tugs are good, bending a thumb back as well. But I'd like some more ideas, particularly using devices.

Thoughts?

You could go for a quick stab her in the eye with the corner of the menu. No? I probably wouldn't neither, but she does need a short, sharp reminder of who she is.

What about having her attempt to order in French, knowing that she doesn't speak French while the waiter speaks impeccable French?

or

"Right, you are a fucking idiot, tell you what, you're not getting any food, nor wine. Sit there, don't speak, don't look at me, look at the floor for the next hour while I eat, drink wine and make conversation with anyone except you". I'd go with this one.

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RE: Public and immediate punishment. - 5/15/2011 6:18:03 AM

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I f you don't like it, just tell her . simple as that. Be ready to explain why . Some will say "because I said so" is enough, but I like to find out for myself why the "because I said so" works for me (ie, why i like or dislike what I am talking about).

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RE: Public and immediate punishment. - 5/15/2011 8:38:49 AM

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I sternly grab my sub by the back of the neck, look her in the eye, and tell her to quit misbehaving, explaining what she is doing wrong... or give her "the look", if you know what I mean. If there needs to be any actual punishment, then she is made to keep quiet and ignored until she can't stand it anymore. If we're home, she's immediately sent to bed without any lights or entertainment while I watch TV in the living room. I've never made her stand in a corner or anything, but that might be worth trying. Assuming your sub is masochist, using pain to publicly punish her might not get the response you want, and is more play than anything. Lack of attention and clearly expressing your displeasure might go further, or at least it does with my sub. It might be something to consider if you haven't already.

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RE: Public and immediate punishment. - 5/15/2011 12:13:57 PM

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RE: Public and immediate punishment. - 5/15/2011 5:16:43 PM

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Yeah. How about the next time you see her you say, "Stop doing that."

This would absolutely be effective for me.

Bratty, disobedient behavior always seems disrespectful.

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RE: Public and immediate punishment. - 5/15/2011 7:14:05 PM

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I don't think the key to building good long term relationships is to dump someone , or have the threat of being dumped constantly in the back ground, when the relationship is new, the moment they displease you, Shit my first dominant submissive relationship wouldn't of lasted as long as it did, if he took the dump her when displeasing approach.

he stated he's tried many times to correct the behaviour, its not "the moment they displease you". its continued and willful disregard of the dominant's stated wishes. look if thishereboi and i actually agree, we pretty much fucking have to be right.

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eta...wow after reading through from the post i replied to i see i seem to be in the majority. i'm not used to that. its a weird feeling.

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RE: Public and immediate punishment. - 5/16/2011 5:16:40 PM

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Interesting thread. . . . .
I, personally, can't see any dom tolerating that type of disrespect.
I am all about playing games and having fun but my subs also know 'the look' and failing that, all horseplay ends with a simple - "Do you really want to test my patience?"
No raised voice required.

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RE: Public and immediate punishment. - 5/16/2011 6:09:37 PM

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ORIGINAL: golemx

It's pretty early on in the relationship. The time in private hasn't had time to develop. I'm looking for tools to work in both.

Have you tried communication?

[Edit; Never tab and expect it to do what you want.]

Did it not work? Why are you with someone who is only going to test your patience and show such impudence? Express your displeasure, and what you damn well expect, and if it's not going to work out, fine. Find someone who can handle behaving well.

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