stellauk
Posts: 1360
Status: offline
|
Personally I have a theory that D/s is strongly linked to creativity and much of that what we identify as being dominant or submissive comes out of the soul, rather than the personality or nature.
Any creative process is actually a cycle of four stages - examination, intuition, imagination and application. The second stage of this cycle is spiritual, it comes from deep within and is expressed through flows of energy which we exchange with others through interaction. Interaction is important, because without any interaction there is no creativity.
This is why for many people BDSM is something which is sexual, erotic, sensual. What better example of human creativity is there than the very act of sexual intercourse, which gives us the possibility of creating a completely new human being just like us?
But it is much more than this. It is living. Creativity is a fundamental element of human nature, we are not born dominant, we are not born submissive, but we are born creative, and any form of creativity, from writing a story, taking a photograph, cooking a meal, making love, working, brings us fulfillment and pleasure. We identify ourselves with that part of the process or cycles which we feel most comfortable with fulfilling.
It is through BDSM that we learn to share that deep sense of fulfillment and pleasure through intimacy with others, irrespective of our gender, our sexual orientation, and the role we adopt in such interaction. It does not matter, because whatever role we assume is creative and the creativity and interaction together, with the flows of energy between us, is what brings us fulfillment, pleasure and satisfaction mutually in our intimacy.
It doesn't matter what role you assume, because in the relationship and interaction, or dynamic so to speak, you are being creative, you are giving, you are part of a relationship which is mutually creative and mutually rewarding. The Dominant for example provides guidance, leadership, pain, and the submissive for example through service, through accepting pain and discomfort for the Dominant's pleasure, through submission and making themselves the instrument of the will of the Dominant.
There is D/s in almost any human interaction you can think of, if you see it from a certain perspective and the creative process as a whole requires both our control and our submission. The problems we face when it comes to acceptance is that we are conditioned from an early age to think and behave in certain ways, to interact with others in certain ways, and through this we are encouraged to accept and embrace various prejudices about relationships, about love, about human interpersonal communication which perhaps don't exist in reality. We are conditioned away from certain behaviours and it is perhaps accepting once again these behaviours which makes our own individual personal evolution challenging as we become who we identify as.
But whichever way you look at it it all comes back to creativity and interaction - which is why almost all that we do and associate with BDSM is based on action and reaction, and it is also based on a relationship which is not mutual or equal, but inequal. Why is this so?
It is so because, I feel, we are sharing one creative process or cycle together between two people rather than each having their own individual cycle of creativity in the relationship where it is possible to interact and create for others without engaging in any sort of dynamic. Here in BDSM the creative process or cycle is shared, both Dominant and submissive share the same cycle, and this is why no cycle can ever complete itself, nor any dynamic work, without the cooperation and creativity of both working in unison or harmony. The Dominant needs the submissive in order to complete the cycle or process and vice versa.
Without that cooperation - the decision of the Dominant, and the cooperation and the obedience of the submissive - the cycle breaks down and so too does the dynamic. Each play their part, each are being creative with the objective of seeking the fulfillment and satisfaction of both, each one is giving something and contributing to the cycle, and this is also why, when you stop and think about it, your dynamics and relationships are all based on a complex arrangement of different cycles, cycles within each other, cycles which occur sequentially, some randomly, some in unison and simultaneously, but all of them requiring the creativity and input from both in the dynamic.
< Message edited by stellauk -- 4/2/2011 10:01:08 PM >
_____________________________
Usually when you have all the answers for something nobody is interested in listening.
|
RE: acceptance problems when Entering D/s - 
Profile
Couple that up with an intense NEED to actually HURT, both physically and emotionally...you have a time bomb on your hands lol. 
And I finally feel like a sated, happy, desired sexual being. 
New Messages
No New Messages
Hot Topic w/ New Messages
Hot Topic w/o New Messages
Locked w/ New Messages
Locked w/o New Messages
Post New Thread