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ORIGINAL: NocturnalStalker

If they cuddled after or made me leave before their boyfriend came over.

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ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19

Since when does a good fuck and a good lover mean 2 different things?

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ORIGINAL: DeviantlyD
Would you make a distinction between a woman being a lover and just a good "fuck"? If so, what makes a good lover and what makes a good fuck?

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ORIGINAL: TheHeretic

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ORIGINAL: DeviantlyD
Would you make a distinction between a woman being a lover and just a good "fuck"? If so, what makes a good lover and what makes a good fuck?

I certainly would make such a distinction. A fuck is a fuck, a lover is a package. My experience, and I've heard this in conversation with other guys as well, is that the very best fucks, the wildest, rip the bedsheets, scare the cats, and speak in a primal roar when you cum, fucks are with crazy women. Put another way, there is a good reason so many nice guys stay with utter psycho-bitches.

I could tell of an amazing four day fling in my youth with what turned out to be a bi-polar borderline schizophrenic, but I know there are many such stories.

A lover is a good fuck you like to have breakfast with.

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When you think of the best lover you've ever had, what about that woman made them the best lover? What made them exciting? Were there particular things they did?

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ORIGINAL: HannahLynHeather

i'm not a heterosexual man, so i can't speak from that point of view, but i can from mine. i have had a number of good lovers, all of them women or gay men, i have never encountered a heterosexual man who was more than a mediocre lover.

a good lover engages your entire self in the sex. your whole body and mind become an erogenous zone. she fucks all of you. a good lover studies her partner in the minutest detail, memorizing every reaction, every gasp, twitch and sigh, and using that information to deliver the most erotic and satisfying experience possible to her lover. a good lover's primary focus is on her partner. she never allows her own pleasure to distract her from her main purpose, to satisfy her lover in the most complete way she can.

a good lover is not some thing you are, it is something you do.

hannah lynn

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ORIGINAL: TheHeretic

I certainly would make such a distinction. A fuck is a fuck, a lover is a package. My experience, and I've heard this in conversation with other guys as well, is that the very best fucks, the wildest, rip the bedsheets, scare the cats, and speak in a primal roar when you cum, fucks are with crazy women. Put another way, there is a good reason so many nice guys stay with utter psycho-bitches.

I could tell of an amazing four day fling in my youth with what turned out to be a bi-polar borderline schizophrenic, but I know there are many such stories.

A lover is a good fuck you like to have breakfast with.

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ORIGINAL: blacksword404

Damn crazy women. They are crazy because they have problems controlling themselves. Now in everyday situations that is what makes them crazy. In the bedroom that is what makes them so good. No off button. But I never compare women who are just fucks to woman you have feeling for. Not a fair comparison.

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ORIGINAL: subfever

The keys were sexual: chemistry, communication, and compatibility.

First off, I was extremely attracted to her. Then, she had a gift of fluidly letting me know exactly what she wanted, which I'm sure contributed to her multiple, vocal, gutteral, and sometimes even convulsing orgasms. This hottie sometimes even briefly passed out from her orgasms. She was open-minded to experimentation, slightly on the sexually selfish side (which I didn't mind a bit, since I had to concentrate on delaying my orgasms with this firecracker anyway), and had a wonderfully high sex drive that was fortunately a few notches short of nymphomania.

I soon moved in with her, and I don't exaggerate when I say that we fucked 3-4 times a day for many consecutive months before the initial thrill finally wore off, and we settled into some semblance of "normalcy."

I was only 30 when I hooked up with this sex goddess. Though I've had many partners prior and since, I've never duplicated that level of sustained euphoric sexual compatibility.

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ORIGINAL: HannahLynHeather

a bad lover is one for whom the sex is purely about their own satisfaction.

hannah lynn

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ORIGINAL: HannahLynHeather

i'm not a heterosexual man, so i can't speak from that point of view, but i can from mine. i have had a number of good lovers, all of them women or gay men, i have never encountered a heterosexual man who was more than a mediocre lover.

a good lover engages your entire self in the sex. your whole body and mind become an erogenous zone. she fucks all of you. a good lover studies her partner in the minutest detail, memorizing every reaction, every gasp, twitch and sigh, and using that information to deliver the most erotic and satisfying experience possible to her lover. a good lover's primary focus is on her partner. she never allows her own pleasure to distract her from her main purpose, to satisfy her lover in the most complete way she can.

a good lover is not some thing you are, it is something you do.

hannah lynn

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When you think of the best lover you've ever had, what about that woman made them the best lover? Would you make a distinction between a woman being a lover and just a good "fuck"? If so, what makes a good lover and what makes a good fuck? What made them exciting? Were there particular things they did?

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ORIGINAL: DeviantlyD

For anyone inclined to respond to the original post, perhaps you could answer another question as well. What makes a lover bad? Aside from the obvious that is. I imagine a lover who just lays there or is not very engaged in the act would be bad. I'm referring to things less obvious than that. :)