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is age a automatic deal breaker - 5/9/2011 4:15:54 PM

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Hypothetically you meet someone who is the bull to your whip ( I know it was corny but Im sure you get the point) , yet theyre younger than you. Do you put your superficiality aside or are your preferences your preferences.

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RE: is age a automatic deal breaker - 5/9/2011 4:22:28 PM

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In my case, I wouldn't mind finding and being with the right person, whatever age they are (legal, of course); except for the fact that my two daughters have exacted a promise from me...no one younger than they are, and preferably someone well into their 30's.
As I respect my daughters, I have to respect their wishes, and I treat this as a hard limit.

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RE: is age a automatic deal breaker - 5/9/2011 4:23:44 PM

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And since you are a year younger than my eldest daughter, then that leaves you out, no matter how enticing your profile pic is! *LOL*

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RE: is age a automatic deal breaker - 5/9/2011 4:28:37 PM

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I prefer younger, so I'd be fine with it. It's dating older that's the problem for me. If the person was more than five years older, that would definitely be an issue unless s/he was a-freakin-mazing. Generally speaking, I'm just not romantically interested in someone old enough to have an AARP card. There are a couple of people I know from the message boards I might consider, but most of the time older = deal breaker.

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RE: is age a automatic deal breaker - 5/9/2011 4:37:42 PM

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And since you are a year younger than my eldest daughter, then that leaves you out, no matter how enticing your profile pic is! *LOL*

now dont I feel sexy!...LOL!...to have a daughter thats my elder that would definately make you a MILF!. BTW your legs are awesome and giving some rare scientific experiement where I could be older than your daughter....you know LOL

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RE: is age a automatic deal breaker - 5/9/2011 4:44:14 PM

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While there may be superficial aspects to someone deciding age was a deal breaker, there are also very realistic reasons for age being a deal breaker. I have very good reasons for age being a deal breaker... had there been a deal in the first place. Could I enjoy a younger man? Yes and I have, but... and there always is one... we were in different places in life. I have had my children and they have had children and I can't and wouldn't want to raise another. I cannot tell you how many have said... I don't want children, it will be okay... we work well together, lets do this. Only to find a while later they have rethought that children thing or something else.

I don't like drama and at some point there is most likely going to be some drama. His mama wants to kill me... his family raises hell... people ask what my son would like to drink... my grandkids wonder who that young guy is and why he's kissing grandma. Most likely these things could be worked through, but I don't want to do them. Been there, done that... I'm retired.

I married a younger man. We bought a house. Now this wasn't my first house by far, but it was his. He didn't get certain things, but oh how he had to be the big man and think he knew what he was doing simply because it made sense to him and he wanted to prove something to me. That was our first fight. lol I am not going to experience life lessons all over again.. because he needs to go through them and learn them.

Even if you just wish to play and not do anything so serious as a relationship... there could be things that come into play, feelings could become more and then what? I don't go walking into human drama if I can avoid it. It causes gray hair and wrinkles.

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RE: is age a automatic deal breaker - 5/9/2011 4:48:34 PM

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I'm not quite sure what, exactly, you mean by "a bull to my whip"... but if what your asking is, "If a potential partner is wonderful in all other ways, is a younger age a deal breaker?" then the answer is "No it's not." If they're perfect then they're perfect. It's just really unlikely that I would find an appropriate match in the 18-30 age bracket.

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RE: is age a automatic deal breaker - 5/9/2011 4:52:52 PM

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I'm not quite sure what, exactly, you mean by "a bull to my whip"... but if what your asking is, "If a potential partner is wonderful in all other ways, is a younger age a deal breaker?" then the answer is "No it's not." If they're perfect then they're perfect. It's just really unlikely that I would find an appropriate match in the 18-30 age bracket.

you hit it right on the head...HEy SUE me for the corniness LOL!

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RE: is age a automatic deal breaker - 5/9/2011 4:55:03 PM

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I am more in Lockits boat on this one. Though I do not have readily set age limits I well aware with age come maturity, experience and many other things. I easily can see in younger women the things I no longer have the patience or desire to put up with. Add to that the fact that I know no 30 year old is going to have the BDSM experience or skill to play at the level I play at. I would have to say I generally seek +/- 5 year range on average. If someone is exceptional I might go a little further outside that range.

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RE: is age a automatic deal breaker - 5/9/2011 4:57:17 PM

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75% or more of women in this site are in older than they are,
I can understand that, & yet myself do not think of myself with ayounger girl, in older smoking women in boots ( i dont know they steal my eyes in a moment)
& when i talk to them or even contacing them, i got a slap in the face, or just friends zone, & not other than that.
Makes me kind of hopeless & speachless most of the time,
& will never do that where i live anymore.

PS: one of them told me, that you are in the age of my son, yet she was 2 years older than me.........

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RE: is age a automatic deal breaker - 5/9/2011 5:06:05 PM

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Sorry, I have too many years to even think the young ones are sexy. They just look like kids to me and I'm not attracted to kids. So call me superficial.

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RE: is age a automatic deal breaker - 5/9/2011 5:12:36 PM

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Happy Mothers Day, peppermint

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RE: is age a automatic deal breaker - 5/9/2011 5:13:53 PM

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when I was dating I've always done so with men around my own age. The couple times I dated much younger or older than me was always problematic due to the age gap in particular. Plus dating someone closer to the age of my child or my father is just creepy.

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RE: is age a automatic deal breaker - 5/9/2011 5:14:09 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: mech1nomics

Hypothetically you meet someone who is the bull to your whip ( I know it was corny but Im sure you get the point) , yet theyre younger than you. Do you put your superficiality aside or are your preferences your preferences.

Seems you have your own superficiality, since you used that word to describe the preferences of others.

When I was 25, age didnt matter. Now that I am.. almost.. 46... I would find it impossible to see anyone more than 10 years younger than me as a potential promise... I dont care how he handles that whip.

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RE: is age a automatic deal breaker - 5/9/2011 5:16:55 PM

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Age is a funny thing... The number of years spent roaming the earth does not automatically make a person more mature. If that were the case running for office would be a much more civil affair. I have known many 30's and 40's aged people who lack any meaningful level of maturity, and teenagers who are more mature than I am.

Experience, on the other hand, is a completely different animal. Someone who has studied and practiced BDSM for any amount of time is going to be in another class from the neophyte, regardless of age. To be fair, there are those who delight in training the new, or learning from an experienced sub.

Everyone has their own set of criteria that their hind brain deems "safe." It's called having a type. It's part of how the brain learns, and how we select the people we select.

If age is the only factor that one can think of as a reason to not see someone, even after having met them, then the person doing the rejecting really should have a good hard look at their reasonings. If you're of comparable maturity, and everything clicks... then age is just a number. Delight with them in the thrill of each new discovery, or learn from their mistakes and become better for it. If the idea of an age difference evaporates in the chemistry and it works... then it works. You've found something that many people are looking for: someone whom you enjoy being around, and who enjoys your company in return. Not everyone is so lucky. Even those who are with people that are close to them in age have marriages/collars/"it's complicated" fail. That's life. There are no guarantees.

To sum up: If it really bothers you, don't do it. That may be something else bothering you and it's just coming out as their age. If it doesn't bother you, and it doesn't bother your partner, then do your thing and have fun! Screw what other people think.

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RE: is age a automatic deal breaker - 5/9/2011 5:18:38 PM

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Although I fiind the perfection of youth to be quite beautiful, give me a lady who knows some things, seen more than one county fair and a rodeo, understands a few things about life, who has memories of such things as albums, living with 3 or 4 tv channels and once served as the remote control on the tv and I would be just fine!

If she has a taste for some classic R&B all the better!

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RE: is age a automatic deal breaker - 5/9/2011 5:18:58 PM

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I'm 53. I don't want to become physically & emotionally involved with someone who studied Watergate as "history", for me, it was "current events". Same with sports... when I was born, the baseball Giants & Dodgers hadn't yet moved out west... And I walked uphill to school both ways. In the snow. Barefoot.

And I proudly carry my AARP card. Now get off my lawn!!!!

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RE: is age a automatic deal breaker - 5/9/2011 5:19:08 PM

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I don't have a problem with the age gap.It seems as those that contct me are much younger then I. age has its advantages ie lots of experience..I current have 3 women and the oldest is 28,I am 60 so there you go smile..Bounty

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RE: is age a automatic deal breaker - 5/9/2011 5:23:18 PM

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I can not help but see folks that are way younger than me as kids. I can still learn from them and appreciate their wisdom in many things, but to think about them in a sexual way just creeps me out.

I have always been attracted to men older than my self, the ex was 13 years my senior. It is just what trips my trigger.

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RE: is age a automatic deal breaker - 5/9/2011 5:23:41 PM

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Although I fiind the perfection of youth to be quite beautiful, give me a lady who knows some things, seen more than one county fair and a rodeo, understands a few things about life, who has memories of such things as albums, living with 3 or 4 tv channels and once served as the remote control on the tv and I would be just fine!

If she has a taste for some classic R&B all the better!

Tease!!

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