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RE: Have a question? Need some thoughts from people.. - 5/11/2011 7:48:39 PM

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And he knows damn well i signed up for energy exchange/power exchange not energy drain.....

Um someone missed an on-ramp to the idea that exchange is a 2 way street. I'm weighing in that shipping flat rate is the wise way to handle it. It's traceable should he claim you didn't return items and it prevents a red neck coming out party on the front lawn when you go to drop things off. Avoid a Jerry Springer ending at all cost.The time for face to face conversation was when you were unhappy. Messy and dramatic endings are a bad precident to set.
On a personal note: I agree that house keys and items identifying you as in their service belong to the house and should be returned. BUT items like chastity belts, dildos etc are something that shouldn't be shared for hygine. As a Domme if I buy an impliment for a sub that can't be shared it stays with them when they depart. Seriously what type of top would offer your replacement a used butt plug?

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BLOCK him from contacting you via email, phone, text and every other way possible until youve moved on and are healed from the experience.

People who use emotional and mental manipulation dont just suddenly grow out of it. He will try again when he realizes you are serious about not coming back.

Ditto, get a new number if you need to.

< Message edited by theRose4U -- 5/11/2011 7:51:45 PM >

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RE: Have a question? Need some thoughts from people.. - 5/11/2011 9:25:03 PM

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Either accept it as it is or move on.

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RE: Have a question? Need some thoughts from people.. - 5/11/2011 10:39:22 PM

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But, i don't feel as bad about it as i thought i would. Guess that says a lot that it was the right thing to do

Please try to stick with this feeling. The next few weeks will be tough; concentrate on school and realize in a few short months you will be ready to start over.

Best of luck on your exams and have a great summer vacation !

edited because after reading the subsequent posts i realised my comments were redundant, well i hope so anyway.

but i will echo what everyone else is saying, block, ignore texts or change youre sim card.

kudos by the way - that was never going to be a situation you could have dedicated youreself to for a long stretch of time, so why risk screwing up youre studies and youre head over it.

now stick to this and move along.

all the best x

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RE: Have a question? Need some thoughts from people.. - 5/11/2011 11:08:23 PM

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in a way this is a lesson in reality. what seems like a hot idea and should be fun starts to become a whole lot heavier in real life.

i dont happen to think there is anything wrong in an inexperienced woman looking for hot fun and wanting what she wants. inexperience in the totallity of Ms and all that that implies is all part of the learning curve we enter into when we first arrive.

what was wrong here, i think, was that a mature man believed that an inexperienced college student had enough comphrehension of what she was entering into and expected her to be the good little slave sitting patiently for her Master to call.

his expectations of her were unrealistic and in the end quite destructive. IMO

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