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NuevaVida -> RE: You Bad "Regulars"... You know who you are! (5/19/2011 2:38:32 PM)

Arpig it's not the shirt it's the ears.

I remember one of my first threads here, in my former user name. I was totally taken to task and not too kindly. A few kind forum members were a bit more graceful in their disagreements, and we are still friends to this day.



Arpig -> RE: You Bad "Regulars"... You know who you are! (5/19/2011 2:42:44 PM)

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Eventually I give even the moronic a second chance if they stick around long enough
I think that's the key. If they stick around long enough, they become part of the scenery, they become part of the flavour of the place. There are some who just don't ever get better (a certain Holocaust denier who is fixated on sovereignty comes to mind), but even they are now just part of what makes the forums such a fun place. I miss some of the maniacs who have moved on.

There's only a handful of people on here I really dislike, and its usually based on just one post or series of posts. Somtimes its a more long term thing, a dislike that grows over time based on their posting style. So sometimes, longevity is a negative.



juliaoceania -> RE: You Bad "Regulars"... You know who you are! (5/19/2011 2:45:14 PM)

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There's only a handful of people on here I really dislike, and its usually based on just one post or series of posts. Somtimes its a more long term thing, a dislike that grows over time based on their posting style. So sometimes, longevity is a negative.


A case of familiarity breeding contempt!



SexyBossyBBW -> RE: You Bad "Regulars"... You know who you are! (5/19/2011 2:45:34 PM)

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania
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'm sorry for being a "bad" regular M


Here I thought you were one of the good ones, at least by P&R standards[:D]
Thanks Julia. I like your posts, but you have to agree our standards are pretty low in the P&R section.[:D] M



NuevaVida -> RE: You Bad "Regulars"... You know who you are! (5/19/2011 2:46:58 PM)

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But what I meant was that on fetlife individual users create a group. The user owns the group and decides who can post and who cannot. Here, we have moderators, and they work for CM. They have a particular TOS that they abide by, instead of a bunch of group with many inconsistent rules. Most of these groups are smallish too. Also, their interface sucks for having threaded conversation


I figure with over 27,000 groups on Fet there's something for everyone. All groups have to abide by the overall TOS of Fet and can (and do) include additional, stricter rules, which differ from group to group. I tend to like the groups that don't tolerate "trashing" people but then I'm kind of kumbaya like that. [:)]



juliaoceania -> RE: You Bad "Regulars"... You know who you are! (5/19/2011 2:49:08 PM)

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ORIGINAL: NuevaVida

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But what I meant was that on fetlife individual users create a group. The user owns the group and decides who can post and who cannot. Here, we have moderators, and they work for CM. They have a particular TOS that they abide by, instead of a bunch of group with many inconsistent rules. Most of these groups are smallish too. Also, their interface sucks for having threaded conversation


I figure with over 27,000 groups on Fet there's something for everyone. All groups have to abide by the overall TOS of Fet and can (and do) include additional, stricter rules, which differ from group to group. I tend to like the groups that don't tolerate "trashing" people but then I'm kind of kumbaya like that. [:)]



I remember joining one group there that had a title about brutal honesty.... and then shortly have I joined I thought... "There is nothing brutal about honesty", and I never posted there again.

There were some funny groups there... silly ones... I love silliness, but in the end I like the interface here much more.



Arpig -> RE: You Bad "Regulars"... You know who you are! (5/19/2011 2:49:31 PM)

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I tend to like the groups that don't tolerate "trashing" people but then I'm kind of kumbaya like that.
Stay the fuck out of P&R then. [;)]



heartcream -> RE: You Bad "Regulars"... You know who you are! (5/19/2011 2:50:21 PM)

Heyyy I see that very poster I mentioned who has stopped posting but still is present time to time up top RIGHT NOW. Speak! hehe



nancygirl34652 -> RE: You Bad "Regulars"... You know who you are! (5/19/2011 2:52:15 PM)

just catching up with this on the 5th page so pardon me if i am repeating anyone.  i do not post often but i am always lurking here reading....so you regulars, i know who you are....lol....suffice it to say, i really do not take anything anyone says here too seriously...i like to read differing opinions....i like to laugh at some of the really funny things.....and i like that i can do searches on some topics and read some interesting information and advice on subjects i am interested in.....whether someone is posting for the first time or for the 1,000th time carries no weight with me.....i either agree with you or not...lol....and then i just continue reading what someone else has said on another topic.  There is no one poster or group of frequent posters that influences me in any way....but i do like to learn new things and that is usually why i come here.



juliaoceania -> RE: You Bad "Regulars"... You know who you are! (5/19/2011 2:55:40 PM)

Ahhhhhh... a lurker!.... the regulars love eating lurkers the most.... (you actually have one handcuff to your credit, so maybe you are not a lurker after all)



LaTigresse -> RE: You Bad "Regulars"... You know who you are! (5/19/2011 2:55:51 PM)

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

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There's only a handful of people on here I really dislike, and its usually based on just one post or series of posts. Somtimes its a more long term thing, a dislike that grows over time based on their posting style. So sometimes, longevity is a negative.


A case of familiarity breeding contempt!


Very much so.



mynxkat -> RE: You Bad "Regulars"... You know who you are! (5/19/2011 3:01:19 PM)

You know, with all this talk of 'trashing the newbs' going on, I think I must be doing something wrong. I've only got a couple of dozen posts to my credit as yet, but I haven't been trashed even ONCE. Ok, yea, in one thread someone disagreed with something I wrote, but I haven't been called any names or told I'm a fake or anything...what am I doing wrong here? *sad puppy eyes*

/snark

In all, or at least somewhat seriousness, I do look at post count in some cases. If I stumble across something exceptionally stupid I'll look to the left and most of the time, yep, the OP is still in single digits. That's not to say that you 'regulars' don't come across as being rather silly at times, and sometimes when you're not even trying to. But I don't consider that a reason (usually) to dislike someone.



Arpig -> RE: You Bad "Regulars"... You know who you are! (5/19/2011 3:04:45 PM)

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You know, with all this talk of 'trashing the newbs' going on, I think I must be doing something wrong. I've only got a couple of dozen posts to my credit as yet, but I haven't been trashed even ONCE. Ok, yea, in one thread someone disagreed with something I wrote, but I haven't been called any names or told I'm a fake or anything...what am I doing wrong here? *sad puppy eyes*

You're a worthless piece of crud! You're a total fake bitch!! Your posts show such a profound lack of intelligence that I wonder how you manage to remember to breath!!!


There, feel better now?



juliaoceania -> RE: You Bad "Regulars"... You know who you are! (5/19/2011 3:06:10 PM)

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but I haven't been trashed even ONCE.


You must not be trying hard enough.





NuevaVida -> RE: You Bad "Regulars"... You know who you are! (5/19/2011 3:06:41 PM)

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Stay the fuck out of P&R then.


Oh trust me, I do!!

And Julia I agree, hinsert does not have to be brutal. "Brutal honesty" is not something I buy into.



mynxkat -> RE: You Bad "Regulars"... You know who you are! (5/19/2011 3:10:37 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Arpig

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You know, with all this talk of 'trashing the newbs' going on, I think I must be doing something wrong. I've only got a couple of dozen posts to my credit as yet, but I haven't been trashed even ONCE. Ok, yea, in one thread someone disagreed with something I wrote, but I haven't been called any names or told I'm a fake or anything...what am I doing wrong here? *sad puppy eyes*

You're a worthless piece of crud! You're a total fake bitch!! Your posts show such a profound lack of intelligence that I wonder how you manage to remember to breath!!!


There, feel better now?


Gee, yes, thank you Arpig!!! Oh I feel ever so much better now.

juilaoceania- I promise I'll try harder, especially now that Arpig gave me some hope!



VaguelyCurious -> RE: You Bad "Regulars"... You know who you are! (5/19/2011 3:15:41 PM)

Don't feel bad, mynxkat - I didn't get trashed either.... [8D][8D][8D]

Which is why I tend not to have a lot of sympathy with the whole 'everyone's a nasty clique that hates new people' whine. This place has rules of etiquette, just like any loose social group, but it takes very little time to figure what they are, and it's pretty easy to stay within them and get your point across, and like any loose social group it's pretty easy to slip into.



sunshinemiss -> RE: You Bad "Regulars"... You know who you are! (5/19/2011 3:42:37 PM)

Hi Julia -
I'm replying without reading the other posts for the moment so as not to color my own response.


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For those of you who are "regulars" ( I guess you know who you are), do you feel responsible for the overall content of this board? If you have been posting on here for years, do you think this somehow makes your words have more gravity, and therefore you need to be more careful in how you post?


First, I'm a long time regular board poster. I like to think I'm not one of the douchebags although I'm sure there are those who think that I am in fact. Everybody is allowed to be wrong. (That'd be them, not me in case you are wondering [;)] who I'm talking about)

I don't think my words have more weight than someone new - in fact I love when someone new comes in with a refreshing look at things. However, there are some things that are just ... human nature rather than bdsm oriented. Communication, the need to connect, personal responsibility, using your brain, etc. are a few of those. Being into wiitwd does not negate those things away. People sometimes seem to think that it does. I don't have to communicate; I'm a big bad dom. Just do what I say. Yeah?... ah, NO. But it's not MY fault my children are taken from me. He told me to do it, and I'm a good subby and had to. Yeah?... ah, NO. I think the regular posters have seen enough of those kinds of things that we are sometimes fairly savvy to what's happening. Not necessarily any more than some new folks, just more aware that it happens maybe?

I am more careful how I post these days for personal reasons rather than having anything to do with the boards.

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For those who have not been posting here for very long, do you look at the date someone joined and their number of posts when you reply to them? If someone has been around for awhile, has a high post count, etc, does this cause you to think that they somehow have more pull around here, and and you read their posts as being more representative of what you find on this side overall?


Even though I've been here a while, I'm going to answer this too. (Look at that, I broke a rule you set up in the OP!) I look at the date someone joined and their post number. I may be gentler (or maybe not) or use less "short hand" based on that. If it's a douchebag - they may NOT know who they are - I won't suffer their idiocy any more than I would a long term poster's.

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Another thing, I am not saying anyone should care if others like us or not, I am just wondering what other people think when they come across a post that condemns the "regulars" on this board... or if they have any thoughts at all about it (and i am bored waiting for the pest guy to show up).


The condemning the "regulars"... well... anyone who groups us all together is just being prejudice. I take it with a grain of salt - generally speaking. I think it is human nature to group people together. But come on... if it was a group of quilters or cyclists or painters, woulld it be different? I actually don't know the answer to that, but I kind of guess it would be no. There are generally enough opportunities for anyone who has access to the internet to meet real people. If they choose to stay online that's their own issue.

best,
sunshine



sunshinemiss -> RE: You Bad "Regulars"... You know who you are! (5/19/2011 3:47:04 PM)

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as for longevity holding more sway. no, not always. it can work out handy though. for instance; when i first joined i had a very nice person from here pm me and give me some pointers, including a list of people deemed alright and a few to take with a pinch of salt. it was good to have someone there that when i had a query i could ask for their imput as to whether i was right.


I wouldn't consider that a "nice person". I'd consider that somebody who was telling you who you should like and not like. I'd consider it an insult and I'd have to wonder what kind of an agenda that person has. Why is that "nice person" trying to turn you away from somebody? Why doesn't that person think you are smart enough to figure it out?

best,
sunshine



sunshinemiss -> RE: You Bad "Regulars"... You know who you are! (5/19/2011 3:55:56 PM)


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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

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do at times see a newbie has been treated badly for a minor faux pas.


I have too, but I have also seen "regulars" defend such newbies. That is why I asked if there is some collective responsibility for what gets posted here.... just because someone who has been here for a long time is rude, doesn't mean that the entire board has been


It also doesn't mean that person has been rude. I also try to give people the benefit of the doubt. Even the people who have been here a lot sometimes have a bad day.



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ORIGINAL: Icarys

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ORIGINAL: NuevaVida

Just how many fingers are on your left hand??

6 why?



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