Collarspace Discussion Forums


Home  Login  Search 

RE: Ignore your sub?


View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest
 
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Master >> RE: Ignore your sub? Page: <<   < prev  1 2 3 [4] 5   next >   >>
Login
Message << Older Topic   Newer Topic >>
RE: Ignore your sub? - 6/16/2011 12:43:52 PM   
Mainman661


Posts: 4
Joined: 10/14/2010
Status: offline 		I've only used ignoring as a severe punishment once.  24 hours.  She was not to serve me at all.  No tasks, no calling me Master, no following of any of my rules.
It was very brutal for her, I could tell.  A few hours in she was begging for forgiveness and I refused until those 24 hours were up where we discussed whether she really wanted to serve me or not.
I would only ever use ignoring as a final resort to sinking in just how severe the transgression is.  I would never use it as a form of discipline or play.
The exception of waiting patiently, in my line of sight or within reach of me, while I finished something else.

(in reply to Jenisub)
Profile   Post #: 61
RE: Ignore your sub? - 6/18/2011 7:20:25 AM   
Bstardsbitch


Posts: 154
Joined: 11/19/2005
Status: offline 		Ignore me often enough and I shall be gone when you turn around lol xx

(in reply to Mainman661)
Profile   Post #: 62
RE: Ignore your sub? - 6/18/2011 7:32:50 AM   
Charnegui


Posts: 1352
Joined: 5/1/2011
From: Puzzled
Status: offline 		Oke, now I understand.....
my mom was a domme, she'd ignore me for days when I was a child......

Ignoring someone is not done... you can do it, but make sure your sub knows it's part of the 'game'


_____________________________

There's a difference between my personality and my attitude; My personality is who I ám, my attitude depends on who you are.

(in reply to Bstardsbitch)
Profile   Post #: 63
RE: Ignore your sub? - 6/20/2011 3:53:46 PM   
SlaveOwner9


Posts: 50
Joined: 4/27/2010
Status: offline 		The OP is lacking detail.....

Is he refusing to reply to numerous emails you've sent, even after actually reading your mails?
Or is he just deleting your emails without reading them?

How long has this been going on?

(in reply to Jenisub)
Profile   Post #: 64
RE: Ignore your sub? - 6/20/2011 4:05:35 PM   
dmarc


Posts: 38
Joined: 11/9/2004
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: ChatteParfaitt

Ignoring one's sub is, unfortunately, a very common punishment in the online world of desk top doms and wannabes. A good and experienced dominant knows ignoring your sub is one of the harshest punishments there is, and only does it as a lost resort, and with due warning (i.e."If you continue in this manner, I shall have to ignore you for the rest of the evening").




This is well said, ignoring a sub in my book is simply not a suitable form of punishment, after all punishment is about teaching and helping a sub improve her relationship with her Owner. So if you don't understand what you have done wrong and there is no clear sign of the recovery of the feeling of being ignored. Its then just a failure of communication. Its unfortunate but then it shows you the truth about the skill of your possible Owner.

Just my 2 cents

(in reply to ChatteParfaitt)
Profile   Post #: 65
RE: Ignore your sub? - 6/20/2011 4:39:13 PM   
analyticalmaster


Posts: 39
Joined: 1/1/2004
Status: offline 		Like everyone else advised you, more data is required.  If he simply stopped talking to you without a real explanation, I would consider that a problem.  It is the equivalent of him running away because he doesn't understand how to handle you.

If however he told you he was going to not respond to you for a given period time, as a punishment, because you did x, y  or z, that would be understandable.  My method for ignoring a sub is the typical classic one, I favor corner time, nose in the corner, usually stripped with no music, no tv, nothing but the instruction to think about what the sub has done to displease me. I consider this to be valid punishment and usually more severe than a simple beating.  

(in reply to NuevaVida)
Profile   Post #: 66
RE: Ignore your sub? - 6/25/2011 11:40:56 AM   
UberBrat


Posts: 45
Joined: 5/14/2011
Status: offline 		I know if my Master ever ignored me, I would be absolutely devastated - that I had made him so angry/disappointed him so much that he didn't even want to talk to me, or allow me to try to make up for whatever I'd done.  He has never done this, and I truly hope he never does - i think it would probably really hurt. 

If he wanted to ignore me for whatever reason, and he explained that reason to me, and I knew it wasn't my fault (say, he was going to be really busy for a week), i might be upset, and I know i would miss him, but that would be okay.  If I'd brought it on myself, i just know i'd be extremely upset.

I think "corner time" is slightly different from simply ignoring though.  My Dom has never given me "corner time", as we use corporal punishment when I do something wrong, however if he put me in the corner, telling me how long I'd be there for, I think that would be so much easier to cope with than just being ignored (although, of course, it would still not be nice).

(in reply to analyticalmaster)
Profile   Post #: 67
RE: Ignore your sub? - 7/4/2011 6:05:41 PM   
UberBrat


Posts: 45
Joined: 5/14/2011
Status: offline 		I did something wrong tonight and I am, effectively, being ignored until the morning.  Although I had known, and expected, that if I ever received this punishment it would be upsetting, it hurts more than I had imagined.  I am completely in two minds, as to whether to continually apologise, and almost beg for forgiveness, just so I am not ignored, or to wait until tomorrow to speak to him.  I don't know what he would prefer either.  I feel horrible, and just wish he wasn't annoyed with me; i have let him down.

(in reply to UberBrat)
Profile   Post #: 68
RE: Ignore your sub? - 7/4/2011 7:36:05 PM   
fadedshadow


Posts: 751
Joined: 4/27/2009
From: a place
Status: offline 		if mistress ignored me, it would tear me apart.

_____________________________

your living nightmare

(in reply to UberBrat)
Profile   Post #: 69
RE: Ignore your sub? - 8/30/2011 11:43:16 AM   
climax2


Posts: 10
Joined: 8/5/2011
Status: offline 		I haven't made a selection/decision for a dom.  But I have had several doms that pursued, seemed to drop off the map, and then show back up again.  I just don't have time for this.  Sometimes I think it would be so much easier to say what you mean rather than play the dance. 

(in reply to NuevaVida)
Profile   Post #: 70
RE: Ignore your sub? - 11/28/2011 4:58:04 AM   
MMasterMM


Posts: 27
Joined: 6/16/2005
Status: offline 		Shut up & listen

< Message edited by MMasterMM -- 11/28/2011 5:13:31 AM >

(in reply to PetiteOralSub)
Profile   Post #: 71
RE: Ignore your sub? - 11/28/2011 5:04:09 AM   
MMasterMM


Posts: 27
Joined: 6/16/2005
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: Bstardsbitch

Ignore me often enough and I shall be gone when you turn around lol xx


yeah! Just maybe your being ignored; because you make someone feel ignored.

(in reply to Bstardsbitch)
Profile   Post #: 72
RE: Ignore your sub? - 11/28/2011 8:35:14 AM   
LafayetteLady


Posts: 7683
Joined: 5/2/2007
From: Northern New Jersey
Status: offline 		How many pages back did you go to find this thread? And then to resurrect it only to make sarcastic comments?

(in reply to MMasterMM)
Profile   Post #: 73
RE: Ignore your sub? - 11/28/2011 9:15:18 AM   
OsideGirl


Posts: 14441
Joined: 7/1/2005
From: United States
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: MMasterMM

Shut up & listen
Speaking of which...maybe you should read the TOS. The admins frown on resurrecting threads this old.


_____________________________

Give a girl the right shoes and she will conquer the world. ~ Marilyn Monroe

The Accelerated Velocity of Terminological Inexactitude

(in reply to MMasterMM)
Profile   Post #: 74
RE: Ignore your sub? - 11/28/2011 9:23:04 AM   
DesFIP


Posts: 25191
Joined: 11/25/2007
From: Apple County NY
Status: offline 		And on being snarky in the forums just because someone you don't know from Adam didn't agree to your  "kneel bitch" unwanted email.

_____________________________

Slave to laundry

Cynical and proud of it!


(in reply to OsideGirl)
Profile   Post #: 75
RE: Ignore your sub? - 11/28/2011 9:23:52 AM   
kalikshama


Posts: 14805
Joined: 8/8/2010
Status: offline 		*snort*

(in reply to DesFIP)
Profile   Post #: 76
RE: Ignore your sub? - 11/28/2011 9:24:56 AM   
LaTigresse


Posts: 26123
Joined: 1/15/2006
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: MMasterMM

Shut up & listen


Well aren't you just a precious little thang.


_____________________________

My twisted, self deprecating, sense of humour, finds alot to laugh about, in your lack of one!

Just because you are well educated, articulate, and can use big, fancy words, properly........does not mean you are right!

(in reply to MMasterMM)
Profile   Post #: 77
RE: Ignore your sub? - 11/28/2011 11:46:30 AM   
MadamDouceVoix


Posts: 17
Joined: 11/23/2011
Status: offline 		While admittedly, ignoring ANYone is a hardcore form of punishment, I do not find it, when unannounced, to be anything less than inhumane.
Regardless of health issues, ignoring a sub without warning, can render him or her disoriented and worst case scenario, physically, mentally and emotionally impotent.
Personally this is not something I would ever want to risk.


_____________________________

Teeth like razors, mouth full of honey...
Always for the Love, sometimes for the money...
Voice to make you solid, blades to make you bleed...
Always for the Pleasure, never for the greed...

(in reply to NuevaVida)
Profile   Post #: 78
RE: Ignore your sub? - 11/28/2011 3:35:19 PM   
Mazterlock


Posts: 24
Joined: 11/28/2011
Status: offline 		Some submissives act out because they crave more and more serious punishment. Pain and humiliation are actually a "reward" that they seek by acting badly. This is a version of topping from the bottom and it can be confusing for the Master and destructive to the relationship. A very conscious and clear decision to make the submissive NOT the object of attention can be required and it can be good training. Telling a submissive to stand in a corner facing the wall and leaving her there for awhile is different than ignoring her but the core idea is to show the slave that acting badly will result in less attention to her instead of more. It's complicated, I know. But, this can be a necessary part of training, especially a pain slut who is also an attention whore.

(in reply to NuevaVida)
Profile   Post #: 79
RE: Ignore your sub? - 11/28/2011 3:59:55 PM   
LafayetteLady


Posts: 7683
Joined: 5/2/2007
From: Northern New Jersey
Status: offline 		There is a huge difference between letting someone know that due to their behavior, there will be no contact for "x" amount of time, and someone who just ignores someone with no explanation. While I don't find ignoring someone to be the least bit beneficial, the latter is more likely to cause someone to walk away. While acting out for attention may be confusing to the top, ignoring them is confusing to the bottom. That's a lose-lose proposition.

(in reply to Mazterlock)
Profile   Post #: 80
Page:   <<   < prev  1 2 3 [4] 5   next >   >>
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Master >> RE: Ignore your sub? Page: <<   < prev  1 2 3 [4] 5   next >   >>
Jump to:





New Messages No New Messages
Hot Topic w/ New Messages Hot Topic w/o New Messages
Locked w/ New Messages Locked w/o New Messages
 Post New Thread
 Reply to Message
 Post New Poll
 Submit Vote
 Delete My Own Post
 Delete My Own Thread
 Rate Posts




Collarchat.com © 2025
Terms of Service Privacy Policy Spam Policy

0.109