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RE: Ignore your sub? - 12/1/2011 1:58:55 PM

MistrixMsE

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I use ignore as a last resort, generally when a slave/sub is being exceptionally top-from-the-bottom, repeated one sentence emails (usually without point) or violating contact protocols (excessive phone calls, texting without permission - i hate texts) etc. Generally after a very stern reprimand and warning of what is to come.

I far prefer appropriate, grown up, articulate communication.

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RE: Ignore your sub? - 12/1/2011 2:59:58 PM

stellauk

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Wow.. interesting thread.. Now that it's here...

Anger is weakness, a bit like peeing yourself. It happens every so often but usually I will go to great lengths to avoid it.

Ignoring someone to me is being immature, especially if you're beyond a certain age. We have brains, we have eyes and ears, we have tongues, we can communicate.

If I'm upset I'll say so, and I will explain what is going through my mind and what I'm feeling. Whoever I'm upset with has the same opportunity. We talk, we discuss, and we keep doing this until we reach some sort of compromise or effort.

I might not be able to do this, I might not be able to understand, and rather than ignore someone I'll say, 'please, give me some space or time here.' I'm communicating.

If I'm being ignored, I'll go off and find something else to occupy my attention.

If it's online, then I have the view that any relationship online is purely communication. When there is no communication, there is no relationship.

If I'm being ignored to get me to do something then I'll take it that I'm being manipulated. I will respond accordingly by detaching.

But in all cases in any relationship I prefer communication and talking to mindgames.

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RE: Ignore your sub? - 12/3/2011 2:45:23 PM

Rectio

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Might be a punishment. Then again, maybe he's just had enough of you for a while. Ask? React as it occurs to you to react. If he doesn't like it, he'll tell you to stop if he has any sense.

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RE: Ignore your sub? - 12/6/2011 7:24:36 AM

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It does rather depend on the status of the sub and the reason he or she is there. I am a male maid and if my mistress has nothing for me to do at that moment then it is correct for me to be stood in a corner or cupboard out of the way but handy if required and left there until required. The longest I have been stood is about 3 hours and that was in a blacked out kitchen with the door shut while my master and mistress relaxed in the lounge. As far as I was concerned that was the correct thing to do.

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