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KeepMeUnderneath -> RE: Why are women obsessed with pics? (5/22/2011 10:11:51 PM)
I agree. I understand that, and after knowing someone as a friend then yes, I will happily send a photo. Just, I can't have people look for it.

SweetDommes -> RE: Why are women obsessed with pics? (5/22/2011 10:45:57 PM)
I work in a job that it could cause me problems if people at work knew that I'm a Dominant. I don't show it off, I don't 'brag,' I certainly don't put it in their faces ... but am I going to hide? No. If my coworkers are on this website, well ... they don't have too much to say about me being on here, do they? They are too ... This could also cause me significant problems with my family ... I'm still not going to hide. Are you hurting your chances by not being willing to share pics? Yes. But if you aren't comfortable with it, then you either need to accept that you have just narrowed the field, or learn to get comfortable with it. For us, at least, if someone doesn't trust us with a picture of himself when our pictures are already up, then there is no point in trying to establish a relationship.

KeepMeUnderneath -> RE: Why are women obsessed with pics? (5/22/2011 10:59:36 PM)
With out knowing the full situation I suppose it's very hard to understand. I do agree with what you are saying. If it was a vanilla meeting webpage or something like that, then yes I'd have no problem sharing photos, but it's the assosciation. This is a private side of my life which I like to keep private. Just by being here alone I have shared a intimate secret with potentially thousands of strangers. But there has to be some discrepency. I can't reveal myself here and then let my lifes work go to waste, because then that would undo who I am now. I would no longer be able to the Alpha in my vanilla life which would mean, I would no longer be able to seek the kind of women I seek which is one who enjoys the challenge of cracking a hard nut so to say. I appreciate women who show photos publically. I think it takes courage but the keyword here is 'publically', theres a public line and a private line. I don't want to intertwine the two. If I meet someone off here, as I said, she is more than welcome into my public life so long as she leaves whats private about us (Kink/Fetish/ BDSM etc), private. BUT, because I am openly not willing to divulge my physical identity to everyone, I can also appreciate that some members of the opposite sex would feel the same as I do and am happy to accomodate women who have no photo. Especially because, I come from a skin deep back ground where I truly and honestly appreciate a personality over a pretty face anyday. But where are they?

LadyConstanze -> RE: Why are women obsessed with pics? (5/23/2011 1:43:39 AM)
As people have said, it doesn't need a picture of your face, something that says a bit about you, be it coffee cup, a chair, anything... Leaving it blank just seems a bit bland, nobody wants bland...

VaguelyCurious -> RE: Why are women obsessed with pics? (5/23/2011 1:50:37 AM)
FR Refusing to have/send a picture says 'I do not trust you to know what I look like'. That? Not a good basis for the exploration of a relationship. If you can't show me your face you are not ready to have a relationship with me, and I'm not going to waste my time on people who are not ready.

KeepMeUnderneath -> RE: Why are women obsessed with pics? (5/23/2011 2:11:52 AM)
Lady Constanze - I like your approach

LadyConstanze -> RE: Why are women obsessed with pics? (5/23/2011 2:31:04 AM)
Another idea would be to wear a mask, a hood or a hat (that has half of your face in shadow) as a picture, people get a feel for you but you're not "out" and you don't have to worry about the boss, colleagues or neighbours seeing you, and if they do, look surprised and ask "You really think that looks like me? What kinda website is it?"

KeepMeUnderneath -> RE: Why are women obsessed with pics? (5/23/2011 2:59:22 AM)
I think I have found a solution, thank you very much. Your advice has helped the most :D

RedMagic1 -> RE: Why are women obsessed with pics? (5/23/2011 3:01:11 AM)
Reading through this, I now believe you are profoundly uncomfortable with your sexual urges. Do you have any experience at all? You sound like a gay man who has only dated women and is looking for a guy for the first time, abd is afraid of being gang raped and left tor dead. Meet a woman willing to dom you off a sugar daddy site if you're that paranoid. Being on a site like that should fit into your Alpha social circle. Honestly, if I were a woman I wouldn't want to meet you, because you sound freaked out. I would be afraid of being an "experiment" instead of relationship potential.

KeepMeUnderneath -> RE: Why are women obsessed with pics? (5/23/2011 3:15:32 AM)
Oh yeah. You hit the nail on the head.

RedMagic1 -> RE: Why are women obsessed with pics? (5/23/2011 3:28:07 AM)
Was that a sarcastic response? I really suggest you think about what I said. I've dated models too, if that matters to you. My read is that you're seeing a boogie man who isn't there. Why couldn't you figure out Lady C's suggestion on your own? It wasn't that hard. You have some emotional block in the way of your problem solving skills. My two cents anyway, take free advice for what it is worth.

KeepMeUnderneath -> RE: Why are women obsessed with pics? (5/23/2011 3:43:25 AM)
I'm uncomfortable with showing my face on the internet because in the past it has been used to try and discredit me. Last thing I need is for a photo of me to be found here so that everyone can presume me to be a pervert.

VaguelyCurious -> RE: Why are women obsessed with pics? (5/23/2011 3:55:03 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: KeepMeUnderneath Last thing I need is for a photo of me to be found here so that everyone can presume me to be a pervert. Do you have any idea how unattractive that sounds? That's how you view us? You think any woman would want to be with a man who sees her like that?

LadyConstanze -> RE: Why are women obsessed with pics? (5/23/2011 3:58:14 AM)
Does your avatar mean to suggest you are a bit tight fisted? [;)] Sorry, just couldn't resist...

PeonForHer -> RE: Why are women obsessed with pics? (5/23/2011 4:14:18 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze Another idea would be to wear a mask, a hood or a hat (that has half of your face in shadow) as a picture, people get a feel for you but you're not "out" and you don't have to worry about the boss, colleagues or neighbours seeing you, and if they do, look surprised and ask "You really think that looks like me? What kinda website is it?" Your arse is in the shade in your avatar, Lady C. Am I to take it that it's not your botty at all?

BonesFromAsh -> RE: Why are women obsessed with pics? (5/23/2011 4:19:21 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: KeepMeUnderneath I'm uncomfortable with showing my face on the internet because in the past it has been used to try and discredit me. Your current photo/avatar says to me "rules with an iron fist"....interesting, indeed. quote: Last thing I need is for a photo of me to be found here so that everyone can presume me to be a pervert. Hmmm, nothing quite like playing judge and jury. [8\|]

PeonForHer -> RE: Why are women obsessed with pics? (5/23/2011 4:20:39 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: KeepMeUnderneath I'm uncomfortable with showing my face on the internet because in the past it has been used to try and discredit me. Last thing I need is for a photo of me to be found here so that everyone can presume me to be a pervert. I think . . . that finding a Domme involves taking risks, KMU. That's really what it boils down to. I hesitated at using a face pic here myself, till I said to myself, 'Look, are you really going to end up on your death bed having stayed single for evermore because you didn't want to risk embarrassment?' They can shove their hang ups up their arses.

LadyConstanze -> RE: Why are women obsessed with pics? (5/23/2011 4:22:54 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PeonForHer quote: ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze Another idea would be to wear a mask, a hood or a hat (that has half of your face in shadow) as a picture, people get a feel for you but you're not "out" and you don't have to worry about the boss, colleagues or neighbours seeing you, and if they do, look surprised and ask "You really think that looks like me? What kinda website is it?" Your arse is in the shade in your avatar, Lady C. Am I to take it that it's not your botty at all? And my face is hidden with a mask, lol, but you can testify that it is me underneath that mask, as for my arse, I can be a bit of one but usually my botty is not used to identify me... I mean if anybody would ask me to drop my clothes to make sure it's me, I think that person might hear a few words...

PeonForHer -> RE: Why are women obsessed with pics? (5/23/2011 4:28:51 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze And my face is hidden with a mask, lol, but you can testify that it is me underneath that mask, as for my arse, I can be a bit of one but usually my botty is not used to identify me... I mean if anybody would ask me to drop my clothes to make sure it's me, I think that person might hear a few words... Sometimes I don't think you know men very well, Lady C. Most of us wouldn't need a woman to drop her strides in order to discern the shape of her jacksie in the finest detail. Though, admittedly, we'd appreciate her willingness to help by de-trousering, certainly.

RedMagic1 -> RE: Why are women obsessed with pics? (5/23/2011 4:30:52 AM)
I've seen a face pic of Lady C. I also believe almost any man would be willing to meet her just on the strength of her main profile photo. And I've wanted to get a closer look at that rear end of hers for a long time!

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