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AAkasha -> RE: Why are women obsessed with pics? (5/25/2011 8:47:27 AM)
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ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze
Simple solution, if you want good conversation then just put up posts that are good, I have contacted people on the other side a few times because I had a question about a post, wanted to discuss something they have said, or just to compliment them, never bothered me if they had a picture or not, several of the people I talk to regularly (not just on here, we also are in contact via email or we talk on the phone) have no picture up, doesn't bother me, but with most we exchanged pics, vanilla ones, just like you do with friends, nothing compromising about it...
Now you're in Oz, most of us are in the US or Europe - do you think that having a picture of your face would be so terrible? You know if we would have talked for months and we'd be interested to see who we are talking to. What could happen to you? Nobody would jump on a plane and start plastering your picture all over the place with the header "Kinky" - much more likely that a colleague who didn't get promoted and carries a grudge or a girl you might have dumped does something like that as misguided retaliation and the most likely would make up something much worse.
It's alright to be careful but being paranoid is not very attractive.
This is a great suggestion and one I would echo. If you want good conversation with kinky people who are going to welcome a back and forth but not necessarily demand a picture up front, then increase your visibility by posting here and getting to know people (or on similar message boards). There are many posters on CM that I feel I "know" from a personality standpoint and enjoy their commentary, but I don't think I've ever seen a picture of them. Also, there have been some "love connections" via message boards, this one included, where two people hit it off and begin to enjoy private conversations and one thing leads to another.
If you demonstrate patience, I think it will also pay off because no one can accuse you of being a here today, gone tomorrow sub, if you have a credible history. I am extremely cautious about who I send personal pictures to, or share personal information with, but no one can give me a hard time about it and accuse me of just being elusive because I plan to 'vanish' for no reason. I've been posting here long enough, and on the internet in general since 1995; I think it's fairly established that I'm not going anywhere.
Akashs
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