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Is kinky sex an attempt to fill a void caused by an ina... - 5/29/2011 5:49:56 PM

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Is that it?

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RE: Is kinky sex an attempt to fill a void caused by an... - 5/29/2011 5:51:08 PM

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No, Phil, that is not it.

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RE: Is kinky sex an attempt to fill a void caused by an... - 5/29/2011 5:52:38 PM

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To Me, kinky has always been a way of life...kinky is normal, normal is boring. Therefore, not necessarily filling a void, just avoiding ennui.

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RE: Is kinky sex an attempt to fill a void caused by an... - 5/29/2011 5:52:52 PM

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Well, lemme see. In my case I had a wonderfully vanilla and loving relationship with Carol for 12 years before collaring her. So clearly I wasn't filling that void. I'd have to guess that we had a "kinky sex" void in our lives which we are attempting to fill with "kinky sex".

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RE: Is kinky sex an attempt to fill a void caused by an... - 5/29/2011 5:54:08 PM

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I had put a rather snarky response (albeit funny) but then I decided to just give you the truth. The truth is no....Initially I came to kinky sex itself because it was the only way I could stay present during sex.

*truthful information overload now*

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RE: Is kinky sex an attempt to fill a void caused by an... - 5/29/2011 5:56:55 PM

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I think you must not know (and I mean know as in actually know in person) many kinksters.

Kinky sex is not a replacement for love. It is also not mutually exclusive with love.

The fact that you think it might be and yet you still do it some of the time says more about you than anyone else. Not everybody switches off emotionally when kink is involved - in fact in my experience you're in a minority so small as to basically consist of, well, you.

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RE: Is kinky sex an attempt to fill a void caused by an... - 5/29/2011 5:58:32 PM

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God you are an idiot.
So what about the people who love each other and have kinky sex too? Or did that explode your mind...?

You've never actually been in love have you? I'd say you haven't had much, if any, experince in kink either.

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RE: Is kinky sex an attempt to fill a void caused by an... - 5/29/2011 6:00:18 PM

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douche.

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RE: Is kinky sex an attempt to fill a void caused by an... - 5/29/2011 6:00:28 PM

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ORIGINAL: Kalista07

No, philly (can I call you philly?)... But I have a question for you....

Are all your inane posts just a way to get some Domme to come beat your ever loving ass or break your fingers????? Is that it Philly?? Is that it???

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The Domme won't be necessary, I'll fill in. I've had it with the negative attention seeking crap of this poster...

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RE: Is kinky sex an attempt to fill a void caused by an... - 5/29/2011 6:05:35 PM

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Is this Kevin? with a Domme?

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RE: Is kinky sex an attempt to fill a void caused by an... - 5/29/2011 6:06:50 PM

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You have some issues, dude, and I do not need to ask questions about you to figure it out. I only have to look at the questions you ask

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RE: Is kinky sex an attempt to fill a void caused by an... - 5/29/2011 6:08:05 PM

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ORIGINAL: ExquisiteStings

To Me, kinky has always been a way of life...kinky is normal, normal is boring. Therefore, not necessarily filling a void, just avoiding ennui.

Now there's someone I havent seen for a while! :)

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RE: Is kinky sex an attempt to fill a void caused by an... - 5/29/2011 6:08:54 PM

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ORIGINAL: Lucylastic

Is this Kevin? with a Domme?

You know, everytime I read a thread/post written by the OP, I wonder the same thing.

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RE: Is kinky sex an attempt to fill a void caused by an... - 5/29/2011 6:10:19 PM

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Since the girlfriend sits with him and reads the posts, I'll just direct this to her.

Hi there and welcome to Collar Me. Could you do the folks on the forum a favor? Take him to the bedroom, tie him up, smack him around for a little while, and then fuck his brains out. He's obviously quite obsessed with BDSM, which usually doesn't get this bad if folks who want it so much get a bit of kink every now and again. If you aren't willing to do this yourself, at least let him to go a pro for the beat down. He'll either come home so horny that you'll be fucking for days, or he won't want sex at all because he got a taste and isn't interested in vanilla. One way or the other, he'll start being more honest with himself and possibly more honest with you.

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RE: Is kinky sex an attempt to fill a void caused by an... - 5/29/2011 6:10:21 PM

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No. Kinky sex is like listening to your favorite song,
only in surround sound with the volume turned up.
You ought to try it sometime!

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RE: Is kinky sex an attempt to fill a void caused by an... - 5/29/2011 6:12:14 PM

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Please fellow forum members don't make this personal,if you don't like the question ignore it. If you wish to answer it please do, discussion is good. :-)

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RE: Is kinky sex an attempt to fill a void caused by an... - 5/29/2011 6:14:25 PM

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ORIGINAL: PhilSlave

Please fellow forum members don't make this personal,if you don't like the question ignore it.

I don't think you get to ask such a deliberately inflammatory question, with all the implied insult to anyone engaging in kinky sex, and then say that. That's disingenuous to say the least.

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RE: Is kinky sex an attempt to fill a void caused by an... - 5/29/2011 6:19:00 PM

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Since the girlfriend sits with him and reads the posts, I'll just direct this to her.

Hi there and welcome to Collar Me. Could you do the folks on the forum a favor? Take him to the bedroom, tie him up, smack him around for a little while, and then fuck his brains out. He's obviously quite obsessed with BDSM, which usually doesn't get this bad if folks who want it so much get a bit of kink every now and again. If you aren't willing to do this yourself, at least let him to go a pro for the beat down. He'll either come home so horny that you'll be fucking for days, or he won't want sex at all because he got a taste and isn't interested in vanilla. One way or the other, he'll start being more honest with himself and possibly more honest with you.

Enjoy!

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RE: Is kinky sex an attempt to fill a void caused by an... - 5/29/2011 6:32:56 PM

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No. Kinky sex is like listening to your favorite song,
only in surround sound with the volume turned up.
You ought to try it sometime!

:D haha

i love you.

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RE: Is kinky sex an attempt to fill a void caused by an... - 5/29/2011 6:37:40 PM

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Apparently in your mind it is.

And I can see your dilemma: you crave kink and yet you really don't like the idea of it.

All of your postings point to that.

Do yourself a huge favor and find a kink aware therapist... (do a google search for kink aware professionals) and spend time looking at this seriously with assistance.
Because otherwise you will be forever on the edge of self-loathing and it is impossible to have real intimacy with anyone (including yourself) while you are stuck in that state.

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