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Rape Fantasies - 6/26/2011 11:16:44 PM   
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There was another thread here that spun off to deal with attitudes towards rape and brought up a particular study that was done by researchers from UCLA and the University of Manitoba. one of the conclusions of the survey was that 1 out of 3 men would consider rape if he thought he would get away with it. some of the other interesting conclusions of that survey, though, were the following:

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  •   38% said the victim enjoyed being raped, while 47% of the women said the woman enjoyed being raped.
  • 8% of the men said the victim could have stopped the rape, while 57% of the women thought she could have stopped it.
  • 36% of the men thought *all women* would enjoy victimization, while 32% of the women thought *all women* would enjoy victimization.


the most interesting part of that, for me, is the last section -- 32% is pretty close to 1 of 3, very close to the same ratio of men who would consider rape.
One of the things i found interesting was that men seemed to have been asked about their "self-reported likeliness to rape" after reading an eroticized pornographic rape scenario (on page 417 here -- http://www.sscnet.ucla.edu/comm/malamuth/pdf/85ijws8_414.pdf -- it outlines the sequence of each section of the study), rather than after reading a newspaper documentation of an actual rape, which came later in the sequence.  (NOTE: these studies were conducted in the 1980s, so it's very difficult to find information on them that hasn't been reduced to a soundbite or quick quote.)

Also, here's a link to an article from Psychology Today -- http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/all-about-sex/201001/womens-rape-fantasies-how-common-what-do-they-mean -- which points out that there are differences in the way things are worded that change the way a person responds (say with 52% of women claiming to have had a fantasy about being "overpowered by a man," vs. 32% saying they had a fantasy about being "raped")

so what's your take on rape fantasies? do you have any? if so, are yours more from the perspective of the aggressor or the victim? do you ever give any thought to why you have them? have you acted on any of them?
personally, i have a variety of them, ranging from the erotic to the aversive, to reference the PT article, but i also distinguish between a fantasy that happens under certain conditions, and a terrifying reality. they're very different things, but i think sometimes they get confused for people.




(Note: i'm by no means excusing instances of the crime of rape, nor is this meant to be a discussion about the crime of rape. this thread is concerned with people's fantasies.)


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RE: Rape Fantasies - 6/26/2011 11:22:46 PM   
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Am I the only one who finds it terrifically sad that a thoughtful, scientific approach to the subject has to have a giant disclaimer at the end to avoid knee-jerk reactions?

Anyway, my opinions on this subject are fairly well-documented so I won't go into them, I just wanted to share my disappointment with the necessities of civilized life.


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RE: Rape Fantasies - 6/26/2011 11:30:36 PM   
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knee-jerk reactions are a sport on this board. so the disclaimer is pretty necessary. ^.~

if you don't mind, care to link me to previous expressions of your opinion? i went looking via the search function to see what i could find but didn't find anything was recent enough.




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RE: Rape Fantasies - 6/26/2011 11:37:14 PM   
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  Give me control of a social study's terms of reference and the way it's executed and I'll make it say whatever you want.  This is why I take most social sciences with a grain of salt.  The results tend to be interpreted through the experimenter's lens of perception and as a result is incredibly subject to confirmation bias.

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One of the things i found interesting was that men seemed to have been asked about their "self-reported likeliness to rape" after reading an eroticized pornographic rape scenario
  This is an example of exactly what I mean.  Social proof and the acquiescence to authority bias the results of such a study to an incredible degree.  It is astonishingly dishonest and reeks of an agenda.

In my experience, rape fantasies are common, even amongst women who have been raped.  The theme seems to be akin to being overpowered along with a concomitant absence of responsibility, rather than true violation.  I think confusion arises because rape fantasies are simply nowhere near actual rape on the spectrum of human experience.  One is a violation, the other - event at its most extreme - is a consensual violation by someone you've approved in some way.

That's as far as I can go - the experience is foreign to me.  I don't fantasise about rape at all.  It's just not wired into me at any level.  Rough, demanding use and abuse sex, yes.  Actual violation of a woman who doesn't desire it, no.


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RE: Rape Fantasies - 6/27/2011 12:18:21 AM   
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i think very few normal people actually fantasize about the crime, which isn't what i'm talking about.
i'm talking about the fantasy bit of it only.

on FL there's a group called CASE Play -- "Consensual Aggressive Sexual Expression." the people who started the group wanted to get away from using the word "rape" in order to differentiate from the crime, and to help people avoid some of the "i must be a creep" feelings that prevent people from expressing rape fantasies. when i joined that group, it caught on with a few of my friends who had similar fantasies but weren't sure how to express them -- CASE was a "safer" way to do that.

i think even for men who have these types of fantasies, there's an element that the "victim" somehow wants it to happen. (again, not talking about the crime.) i know for me, even if the fantasy goes towards the aversive side, there's still the fact that i want it to happen because, well obviously it's my own fantasy, and in my sex life, i'm a fan of pain and brute force. ironically, it seems that most of the men i meet are more bothered by the idea of rape fantasies than i am, though; i have yet to live any of them out. =p


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RE: Rape Fantasies - 6/27/2011 12:20:02 AM   
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I've heard of those who've been raped and who have fantasies about it, although I know it certainly isn't all rape victims. I don't know what the numbers are, but despite that, I find it puzzling that there are any victims at all who would have rape fantasies. I can't help wonder what it is in their psyche that eroticizes such an act.

To answer the OP, no, I have no rape fantasies, nor have I ever had them.

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RE: Rape Fantasies - 6/27/2011 12:27:06 AM   
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ooo another note: can we also avoid making it an issue of sanity, or the lack thereof? =p
not saying that's what you're doing, but i could kinda see it going that way.

i'm interested in what goes on in people's heads, too. personally, i have a history of sexual abuse in my childhood, but in my own mind, they are two very different things.


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RE: Rape Fantasies - 6/27/2011 12:49:14 AM   
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ORIGINAL: DeviantlyD

I've heard of those who've been raped and who have fantasies about it... I find it puzzling that there are any victims at all who would have rape fantasies. I can't help wonder what it is in their psyche that eroticizes such an act.



For many, it's not just a "fantasy", but something they actively seek out with a Dominant partner, because psychologically, it's a means to replay a profound life-event where they had NO CONTROL, by adding CONTROL -- by way of consent.





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RE: Rape Fantasies - 6/27/2011 12:54:07 AM   
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Thank you for starting this threiad and especially for the links that you've included.  If I am remembering correctly, there was another thread that mentioned the 'one in three' males would commit rape if they could get away with it, and the way the statistic was being used had more holes than could even be looked at. 

Rape fantasies?  Yes, I have them though I will mention here that I am the aggressor.  I have had the opportunity to play these out on occasion and I find them to be a lot of fun.  It's a huge turn on as a role play or pre-arranged scenario.  I would have to think that it's something that works for Me because of the power and control aspects.  We all know that the studies have been done on the actual crime that real rape has little, if anything to do with sex.  It's really the power and control that Dominants want, so it seems a logical conclusion.


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RE: Rape Fantasies - 6/27/2011 1:00:46 AM   
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it's actually something I've been thinking about quite a bit lately.

I'm in a relationship where the decision as to where, how and when the sex happens is entirely up to him. I may not be in the mood, but that's just tough. That's the deal. It's as rough as he wants it to be, and to be honest I'm 100% A-OK with that

So the issue of consent between he and I is moot. However, if he wanted to do the 'jump out and grab me without letting on it's him' scenario, then let's just say he'd need an ice pack for his groin for quite a long time, lol

I don't get off on 'fear play' - mind fucks do bad things to me. Fortunately that's not something he's particularly interested in either.

I guess what it boils down to is that if he wants me to resist, I will do it. And really, really enjoy it too. But in the end it's just a game.

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RE: Rape Fantasies - 6/27/2011 1:02:26 AM   
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thanks for sharing LadyPact -- that's interesting because you mostly hear about it with a male aggressor. so that's definitely a perspective i haven't really thought about much.
but you're right; rape itself is often not really about sex (except in a case where it's specifically eroticized, i'd guess) but more about the power and control.
for me, the fantasies generally are about those things, as well as objectification to a degree. fear and other types of mindfuckery can be a big part of it, too.

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ORIGINAL: myotherself

I'm in a relationship where the decision as to where, how and when the sex happens is entirely up to him. I may not be in the mood, but that's just tough. That's the deal. It's as rough as he wants it to be, and to be honest I'm 100% A-OK with that



i can totally relate to that, too -- kind of a consensual nonconsent thing? my last relationship had this aspect to it, too, and it was totally a-ok. =p haha


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RE: Rape Fantasies - 6/27/2011 1:14:39 AM   
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i can totally relate to that, too -- kind of a consensual nonconsent thing? my last relationship had this aspect to it, too, and it was totally a-ok. =p haha



lol - absolutely!

It links back to the OP and previous comments about rape being about control, not sex...and I think that for me the sex is almost secondary. Wonderful, but secondary. It's the control that he loves, and it's his having control that I love.

For that reason, he can't take what I've already so freely and lovingly given.

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RE: Rape Fantasies - 6/27/2011 1:47:16 AM   
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ORIGINAL: DeviantlyD

I've heard of those who've been raped and who have fantasies about it... I find it puzzling that there are any victims at all who would have rape fantasies. I can't help wonder what it is in their psyche that eroticizes such an act.



For many, it's not just a "fantasy", but something they actively seek out with a Dominant partner, because psychologically, it's a means to replay a profound life-event where they had NO CONTROL, by adding CONTROL -- by way of consent.


I understand your point. For me, I just can't envision doing it. Yet another example of where each of us has our differences. I also can't help wonder just how emotionally and psychologically healthy it is for the victim. Does it provide any resolution? Is it a continual loop that constantly repeats itself?

Other than this explanation, the bottom line is, I just don't understand the appeal of rape fantasies at all.

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RE: Rape Fantasies - 6/27/2011 2:59:03 AM   
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ORIGINAL: LillyBoPeep

ooo another note: can we also avoid making it an issue of sanity, or the lack thereof? =p
not saying that's what you're doing, but i could kinda see it going that way.

i'm interested in what goes on in people's heads, too. personally, i have a history of sexual abuse in my childhood, but in my own mind, they are two very different things.



i too have a history of sexual abuse in my childhood. this for me made some of my fantacies extremely hard to deal with emotionaly and it's actually only in the last couple of years that i have spoken about them. i had a huge level of guilt over what i was thinking about and i think that come from also how early i started having those fantacies.

it started when very young just wishing someone would kidnap me, steal me away from my mum. i couldn't tell her what was going on because i knew she wouldn't believe me (an 8yr olds thinking from experience of other situations) and as everything was always my fault she would blame me. i wanted the person who stole me to be nice, but they had to take me so that if anything went wrong and i had to go back home it hadn't all been my fault.

by the time i was 11 we had moved and the abuse had stopped. there was nothing that was good in the abusive situation and the fear was like nothing else i have experienced. but then why would i then progress my wish of being kidnapped as a form of escape to one of sexualisation? i still can't work out how it evolved into what it has, but it did and rather quickly. i think the comment above about taking a situation you have no control of and turning it to fantacy so you then gain control is correct.

i have spoken to my playmate about it quite indepth as it is something i'd like us to do (infact to an extent we kinda have) and his take on it is that i was growing up and becoming sexual in myself, but because of what had happened i felt guilty for enjoying the feelings. therefore, by tying it in to my kidnap wish i was taking the responsibility of that sexual feeling away from myself and placing it on another. ergo it wasn't my fault. but also under those conditions of it being my fantacy I was in total control, not the actual aggressor.

therein lays the crux of fantacy 'rape' as opposed to actualy forced criminal rape. in your head, or actually acted out with another you, the 'victim' are in complete control, but in r/l criminal rape you have no control at all. i think a study that bases its results on people reading a fantacised version of a rape story as opposed to a r/l crime isn't getting real answers. also, maybe the 1-3 who said they'd do it if they thought they could get away with it are more on the fantacy side of the deal rather than the criminal side considering what they just read.

all i know for sure is that the thought of it very much turns me on. the experience i had with my playmate proved to me that i indeed find consenting non-consent a massive turn-on. so having talked it through with him and knowing he's ok with it, and being on sites like this and knowing i'm not the only one, i've given myself permission to enjoy it for what it is and to stop feeling guilty about it.

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RE: Rape Fantasies - 6/27/2011 5:33:02 AM   
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Thank you Lily for starting this thread. The topic is important for anyone interested in the origins of human sexual fantasy.

In order to differentiate it from actual rape, I call these consensual non consenting fantasies "ravishment" fantasies. It is my belief most females have them, and I would go so far as to say close to 100% of sexually sub females have ravishment fantasies. They are, in my mind, at the very heart of the dom/sub power exchange, regardless of the genders involved. (As LadyP pointed out, sexually dominant females have ravishment fantasies as well, with themselves as the aggressor.)

Where do these universal ravishment fantasies come from? It's my opinion they are hard wired into our brains. This is from Awareness, who, although I do not always agree with him, is capable of articulating the sexually dominant male perspective:

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That's as far as I can go - the experience is foreign to me.  I don't fantasise about rape at all.  It's just not wired into me at any level.  Rough, demanding use and abuse sex, yes.  Actual violation of a woman who doesn't desire it, no.


From a sexually sub female point of view, I have to say the sex I enjoy best is when the male takes me and does exactly what he wants. It does not matter what he does, it can be slow and sensual, it can be hard and passionate. What gets me off is that I have no control over it.

I believe this kind of primal brain wiring is quite typical of sexually sub females. (Now add someone with a bit of masochism, and they would probably like it much rougher than I would. For me, it's all about CONTROL.)

That lack of control in the female and total control in the male is again, at the heart of all ravishment fantasies, and all the springboard for all sexual power exchange.

In exploring where this fantasy comes from, I point out that the first form of marriage was marriage by capture. Females were abducted from neighboring tribes as a basic method of acquiring a wife w/o committing incest. The female being in control of who she had sex with was not a consideration.

There is much written on the subject. Here's a (relatively) short overview from Wiki.

Bride kidnapping, also known as marriage by abduction or marriage by capture, is a practice throughout history and around the world in which a man abducts the woman he wishes to marry. Bride kidnapping still occurs in countries spanning Central Asia, the Caucasus region, and parts of Africa, and among peoples as diverse as the Hmong in southeast Asia, the Tzeltal in Mexico, and the Romani in Europe. In most countries, bride kidnapping is considered a sex crime, rather than a valid form of marriage. Some versions of it may also be seen as falling along the continuum between forced marriage and arranged marriage. The term is sometimes used to include not only abductions, but also elopements, in which a couple runs away together and seeks the consent of their parents later; these may be referred to as non-consensual and consensual abductions respectively. However, even when the practice is against the law, judicial enforcement remains lax, particularly in Kyrgyzstan and Chechnya. Bride kidnapping is distinguished from raptio in that the former refers to the abduction of one woman by one man (and his friends and relatives), and is still a widespread practice, whereas the latter refers to the large scale abduction of women by groups of men, possibly in a time of war (see also war rape). Some modern cultures maintain a symbolic kidnapping of the bride by the groom as part of the ritual and traditions surrounding a wedding, in a nod to the practice of bride kidnapping which may have figured in that culture's history. According to some sources, the honeymoon is a relic of marriage by capture, based on the practice of the husband going into hiding with his wife to avoid reprisals from her relatives, with the intention that the woman would be pregnant by the end of the month.[1]



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RE: Rape Fantasies - 6/27/2011 6:35:18 AM   
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i think a study that bases its results on people reading a fantacised version of a rape story as opposed to a r/l crime isn't getting real answers. also, maybe the 1-3 who said they'd do it if they thought they could get away with it are more on the fantacy side of the deal rather than the criminal side considering what they just read.

i agree with you there, which is sort of what inspired this thread. when i was looking for information on the survey which was being touted as total truth, i started wondering as i read about it, how many of these people are answering out of fantasy? if you have a percentage of women that's roughly 1/3rd of the population of female responders, who believe that all women would enjoy victimization, is that a reflection of their own fantasies? if a man has a fantasy about rape where it happens under these particular circumstances and the female character enjoys herself and is actually consenting in some way, then i dont think he's thinking of the crime at all, but of a fantasy situation where no one is actually hurt. (if you've ever read erotica with a "rapey edge" to it, it always seems to come to the round-about conclusion that the female actually did want it to happen or became a consenting partner, by either putting in a position where she is free to leave and doesn't, or by "going into her head" and examining her thought processes while it's happening - it's not on the road with reality because it's a fictional scenario happening under particular circumstances.)

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all i know for sure is that the thought of it very much turns me on. the experience i had with my playmate proved to me that i indeed find consenting non-consent a massive turn-on. so having talked it through with him and knowing he's ok with it, and being on sites like this and knowing i'm not the only one, i've given myself permission to enjoy it for what it is and to stop feeling guilty about it.

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indeedily; i think that's the conclusion i'm really going for. =p i don't believe there's anything wrong with the fantasies, and nothing to feel guilty about in regards to them. i used to feel guilty about things i felt, which is almost standard once you've internalized an "it's all my fault" point of view, but i'm trying to avoid doing that now.


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RE: Rape Fantasies - 6/27/2011 6:50:59 AM   
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ORIGINAL: ChatteParfaitt

In order to differentiate it from actual rape, I call these consensual non consenting fantasies "ravishment" fantasies.

ah ha - that's a good term. =)

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It is my belief most females have them, and I would go so far as to say close to 100% of sexually sub females have ravishment fantasies. They are, in my mind, at the very heart of the dom/sub power exchange, regardless of the genders involved. (As LadyP pointed out, sexually dominant females have ravishment fantasies as well, with themselves as the aggressor.)

i think it's a logical conclusion for many people who either seek to be controlled, or to do the controlling. LadyP mentioned that in her response; many Dominants like to express power and control, and that's one way to do it.

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That's as far as I can go - the experience is foreign to me.  I don't fantasise about rape at all.  It's just not wired into me at any level.  Rough, demanding use and abuse sex, yes.  Actual violation of a woman who doesn't desire it, no.


From a sexually sub female point of view, I have to say the sex I enjoy best is when the male takes me and does exactly what he wants. It does not matter what he does, it can be slow and sensual, it can be hard and passionate. What gets me off is that I have no control over it.

I believe this kind of primal brain wiring is quite typical of sexually sub females. (Now add someone with a bit of masochism, and they would probably like it much rougher than I would. For me, it's all about CONTROL.)

i know that's pretty true in my own experience. i don't think people with "rape"/ravishment/"c.a.s.e."/force fantasies are fantasizing about being terrorized, either. i can understand the disconnect when a man says there's no way he can fantasize about ACTUALLY committing the crime of rape, in spite of a penchant for rough sex. they're not the same, and fantasy rape isn't the same thing as the crime, either.




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RE: Rape Fantasies - 6/27/2011 7:11:26 AM   
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ndeedily; i think that's the conclusion i'm really going for. =p i don't believe there's anything wrong with the fantasies, and nothing to feel guilty about in regards to them. i used to feel guilty about things i felt, which is almost standard once you've internalized an "it's all my fault" point of view, but i'm trying to avoid doing that now.
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Unfortunately, people (both make and female) do feel guilty about them. They automatically equate ravishment fantasy with rape (as so many people do, thus the huge disclaimer on Lily's first post). Unless and until you can differentiate the two, having these sorts of fantasies makes you feel pretty creepy, since societies taboo against rape is so very strong.

As a young teen growing up and having what I now realize were relatively routine ravishment fantasies, I felt incredibly guilty and that I was the only female in the world that had these fantasies. That makes you feel like an outcast, you know?

Despite the very strong taboo again rape, so many rapes occur. Most females will be raped at least once over the course of their lifetime. You have to wonder why that is. Is it a blurring in some people's definition of rape and ravishment? When you look at the stats Lily posted, you see how often a rapists thinks the female "wanted it" or "enjoyed it."

When you toss in the fact that a certain percentage of rape victims climax, that only further muddies the waters. Let's be very clear here, I am not condoning actual rape in any way. What I *am* saying is that connections between sex and power and rape have not been all that thoroughly explored. It's just not politically direct to do so.

And I think the fascination with these issues and the desire to explore them on a personal level is at the heart of many people's power exchange dynamics.


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RE: Rape Fantasies - 6/27/2011 8:26:30 AM   
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I can't help wonder what it is in their psyche that eroticizes such an act.
i've been raped and i have fucking rape fantasies, so i'm going to answer this to the best of my limited ability. first let me clarify a couple of things.
1. i'm not talking for anybody but myself.
2. please try to take the post as a whole. i'm trying to describe my mental state while being beaten and raped. its a very difficult thing to fucking nail down, there was some serious shit going down and i had rather a fuck of a lot on my mind. i wasn't really analyzing my reactions at the time. so i may not succeed in saying what i'm trying to express.
3. i have rape fantasies, not ravishment fantasies (well i have those too sometimes, but you get the fucking point).
4. i have these fantasies as a result of being raped, not in spite of it. i never had them before.
5. rape itself is fucking well not eroticized for me. it isn't really a sexual fantasy at all.

being raped is fucking horrible, absofuckinglutely mind numbingly horrible. but if its a violent rape it is also a fucking rush. adrenalin is pumping, endorphins coursing, heart pounding. all the shit a sub looks for in a fucking scene. there's a fucked up form of subspace involved as well, a rapespace if you will. and it is about power, it's all about the fucking power.

not, however, the power of the rapist, but the power of the victim. when i was raped i felt fucking empowered like never before or since. i had a sense of power and control. not over the situation, but over my attackers. it had fuck all to do with wanting it or not. i didn't want it at all, i wasn't even aware of my attackers till they fucking attacked me. the power i felt was the power was to rouse the fucking predator in my attackers and draw them on to the point where they attacked violently, simply by existing. as fucked up as it sounds (and it sounds right fucked up to me too) i felt very strong, and powerfully female. I will stress that i never felt this way with a john, once they paid it wasn't the fucking same, even when they got violent, it was just those two times when the men involved lost all fucking control and were completely violent lust driven primitives. it was like i had stumbled on the ultimate truth of what it is to be female. to be able to, without a fucking conscious thought or action, simply by being a woman, to strip a man of millenia of socialization and civilizing influences and reduce him to a fucking primitive animal state.

i did not enjoy the rapes, i did not and do not hold any fondness for my attackers, nor do i look back on the attacks as anything but horrible, except for that sense of personal female empowerment. its a real mind fucker.

i realize this runs counter to my conscious views, but one cannot control what one feels in a moment of great stress. so my rape fantasies are all about regaining that very unique sense of feminine empowerment again. it has nothing to do with the sex, it is all to do with power, my power as a woman over my attackers. a weird fucking power over them that renders me fucking helpless, that makes me their prey.

its totally fucked up, but its a heady fucking brew. a swirling mess of conflicting emotions and thoughts and self awareness, and yes a good degree of self loathing tossed in for good fucking measure. confusing as all fuck, that's for fucking sure. but not really guilt inducing, more worrying, as in "i must be fucking crazier than all hell to have these feelings!"

anyway that's what's in my psyche relating to rape and rape fantasies.

and the fucking delicious irony of it is that the poster who asked will never get the answer because they fucking put my on hide! bwahahahahahahaha!

< Message edited by HannahLynHeather -- 6/27/2011 8:27:54 AM >


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RE: Rape Fantasies - 6/27/2011 8:32:41 AM   
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dang hannah -- now that is a thought provoking post, and i can really relate to this:

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it was like i had stumbled on the ultimate truth of what it is to be female. to be able to, without a fucking conscious thought or action, simply by being a woman, to strip a man of millenia of socialization and civilizing influences and reduce him to a fucking primitive animal state.
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i realize this runs counter to my conscious views, but one cannot control what one feels in a moment of great stress. so my rape fantasies are all about regaining that very unique sense of feminine empowerment again. it has nothing to do with the sex, it is all to do with power, my power as a woman over my attackers. a weird fucking power over them that renders me fucking helpless, that makes me their prey.


dichotomies like that are part of what motivate my fantasies, too.

i once thought to myself that if i knew for sure i wouldn't be killed or get a disease, it wouldn't seem quite so horrible to me. (note: this is my own weird imagining, and has nothing to do with anyone else.) i then felt pretty weird for feeling that.

but for me it is very much about these different kinds of power, control and lack of control -- if the "attacker" is taking control because of his lack of ability to control himself... well that's an interesting train of thought, isn't it?




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