LaTigresse
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ORIGINAL: Lockit Tammy, half of getting through a chronic illness is attitude. Those that have a good base and attitude do far better medically and emotionally. When I start feeling a bit low, I evaluate many things. How am I feeling, what are my pain levels, what is going on physically and emotionally and I correct or work on whatever it is. There are times when I know for a fact it is only based on letting my balance slip in some way. That attitude, for some is a learned thing. It doesn't just happen. You have to correct your self talk. Accountability is major! You are talking about swelling and pain and try to find an excuse for it... rather than look at what you are doing that could be causing it, for example. Many people go off on this positive attitude and thinking and I consider it pop psych bs, because a lot of it is hype and a form of denial. You can realistically face the negatives and the life challenges without denying them. You can strengthen yourself with a positive attitude without the hype of never focusing on the negative or the hardships. That is denial. Whether life around me is falling apart or not, you will still find me laughing, even if I am crying from illness or pain. It is an attitude that has kept me going, happy and much better health wise. When I do hear you being positive, which isn't real often, I see it as a form of escapism or denial. A positive attitude will come when you stop lying to yourself, get real and face the life challenges with real medical answers and action in making changes. If you are stuck it isn't the illness or life challenges... it is your attitude. You have been given correct and sound information from many people. What are your answers? You don't see half of what people are saying, you focus on the things that matter the least and excuses, explanations and argument. If you were so on top of it, why besides attention did you come here? Either listen or don't, do something or don't, but get off your ass and stop whining and excusing yourself or people. The gigs up chicky. Excellent point............and pretty much a pattern we've seen over and over. I hate to be a negative Nelly but with this particular OP and her side kick.......it's never going to change. It's always going to be someone/thing elses' fault. Always excuses. Always placing the blame elsewhere. Same old bullshit, different day.
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My twisted, self deprecating, sense of humour, finds alot to laugh about, in your lack of one! Just because you are well educated, articulate, and can use big, fancy words, properly........does not mean you are right!
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