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ORIGINAL: Tristan

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My point had nothing to do with BDSM at all. Anyone in a relationship who states that things going on in their partner's life that don't include them is TRIVIAL is behaving like an immature asshole.

Am I blunt? Yep. Do I have patience for bullshit? Nope. Do I think that just because someone is new, we should coddle them when they make absolutely ridiculous statements like that? Hell no.

Regardless of BDSM or not, anyone who feels they need to slap someone a couple of times to get their point across is not ready to be anyone's "master." Anyone who wants to slap someone around to get through to their partner that HE is now in control, NOT her parents needs a couple whacks upside the head himself.

You think I was too blunt? Don't give a shit about that either. You want to play in the deep end of the pool, you damn well better know how to swim. Yes, he is young. I would have said he same thing to someone who had "been around" for years and made the same statement.

But you can feel free to coddle him all you want.

Quite possibly the reason so many arguments occur on these boards is that much information is lost in writing about complex emotional issues.  Everyone who responded to this post is reading something differently into the post.  To accurately describe a situation, one would have to write pages (or novels) rather than paragraphs.  For that reason, there are many ways one can read any of these brief individual posts.  I tend to believe it is better to ask the poster for clarification rather than automatically assuming the worst. 

I will leave it to IntimateDarkness to tell us (if he wants) how well you summarized his intents by your statements above.  I read things differently partly because I chose to assume that anyone who appears to sincerely be asking for advice is probably not an "immature asshole".  Yes, this is my interpretation because I believe that an immature asshole is the last person that will ever ask advice let alone honestly own up to mistakes.

No one is asking anyone to cuddle anyone else.  Also, being blunt is fine as long as you are on the right track.  However, it is easy to get off track with the brief nature of discussion board posts.  Nearly everyone who responded to this post did so from a different interpretation of the original post.  You are no more likely to understand IntimateDarkness' intent or situation than anyone else.

Finally and most importantly, labeling someone an "immature asshole" does not create a good learning environment for people to come here for advice. 

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ORIGINAL: Tristan

Quite possibly the reason so many arguments occur on these boards is that much information is lost in writing about complex emotional issues.  Everyone who responded to this post is reading something differently into the post.  To accurately describe a situation, one would have to write pages (or novels) rather than paragraphs.  For that reason, there are many ways one can read any of these brief individual posts.  I tend to believe it is better to ask the poster for clarification rather than automatically assuming the worst. 

I will leave it to IntimateDarkness to tell us (if he wants) how well you summarized his intents by your statements above.  I read things differently partly because I chose to assume that anyone who appears to sincerely be asking for advice is probably not an "immature asshole".  Yes, this is my interpretation because I believe that an immature asshole is the last person that will ever ask advice let alone honestly own up to mistakes.

No one is asking anyone to cuddle anyone else.  Also, being blunt is fine as long as you are on the right track.  However, it is easy to get off track with the brief nature of discussion board posts.  Nearly everyone who responded to this post did so from a different interpretation of the original post.  You are no more likely to understand IntimateDarkness' intent or situation than anyone else.

Finally and most importantly, labeling someone an "immature asshole" does not create a good learning environment for people to come here for advice. 

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ORIGINAL: IntimateDarkness

I never responded to Miss LadyLafayette because its quite clear that she's just attempting to project her own inner qualities. I skipped most of her posts except for the first one but I took the liberty to read them today and what jumped out right away for me is that every single one of her posts involves her resorting to name calling of some sort, usually circling around a repetitive label or how she "doesn't give a shit" and other little fits of emotion. Clearly she can't stand for the assumed immaturity of others but makes every exception for her own. And as for how she can imagine a situation as simple as the partaking in a forum of questions and answers in a sincere manner where something can be gained through meaningful discussion as "coddling" well, you don't have to ask or think hard as to who probably wants coddling to begin with.