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Giermo -> The Voice of a Dom (7/12/2011 9:38:31 PM)
First post, thought I start off with a problem I face when being a dominant. I believe I lack a deep commanding voice. My voice is not high pitched but I feel that a proper voice is needed for making commands. In none of my previous BDSM relationship as this been brought up but it is something that concerns me from time to time. Thoughts?

peppermint -> RE: The Voice of a Dom (7/12/2011 9:46:58 PM)
Gary doesn't have an official "Dom voice." However, he sounds just find to me. Sorry, I didn't realize a Dom had to have a voice to match his actions. I thought his actions were more important than the voice his genes gave him.

myotherself -> RE: The Voice of a Dom (7/12/2011 9:47:28 PM)
Absolutely disagree. You don't need a deep baritone to be Domly. Hell, some of the male subs I know have deep voices, and they are definitely not Dom! [:)] In my personal case, I am attracted by the man and his general alpha demeanour. Master does not have a particularly deep or commanding voice - it would describe it as 'normal'. When he issues an order, he'll usually say 'coffee please' or 'on your knees girl' in a very ordinary voice. If he has to start raising his voice in tone or volume, it means I'm not obeying and, trust me, that's not a good thing! In fact, I would say that the most Domly thing he does, that never fails to make my breath quicken, my knees tremble and my nether regions dampen, is to come up behind me and whisper in my ear "fetch the cane and go upstairs' [:D]

DecadentDesire -> RE: The Voice of a Dom (7/12/2011 9:50:26 PM)
It's not the voice that's the issue, it's the fact that you believe you need the voice to be dominant. (I love it when I get a chance to go all Yoda in a post.) Seriously though, it's a testament to your own insecurity and lack of confidence in yourself. As far as traits go, confidence is one of the few that's actually required to be a successful dominant. And that's good news! Because confidence is a lot easier to get then a new voice. All it requires is a belief that you are not any less than any other man and that you have the strength of character to overcome anything God puts in your way. Beyond that, it's just something that gets better and better with age. (And the ladies love it!)

Giermo -> RE: The Voice of a Dom (7/12/2011 9:51:32 PM)
Luckily, a lack in confidence is something I do not suffer. Thank you for the replies. Reassurance is healthy from time to time.

HannahLynHeather -> RE: The Voice of a Dom (7/12/2011 10:05:11 PM)
i'm a fucking woman. i really doubt my voice counts as deep. look you're worrying about fuck all, ok. it isn't the timbre of your voice that counts, its the person using the fucking voice. she didn't submit to your fucking vocal chords now did she?

Hisprettybaby -> RE: The Voice of a Dom (7/12/2011 10:05:46 PM)
~FR~ You don't need a deep, commanding voice to be a Dom. What matters more than the voice you were given at birth is how you use it. Daddy has an average-sounding voice, but when he uses certain tones or phrases, that's when I know he means business. And when he adds "The Look." Oh yeah, that look says it all. But, I guess if your voice really bothers you that much, you could go somewhere and get voice/speech lessons..... ~Hisprettybaby~

NefariousDominio -> RE: The Voice of a Dom (7/12/2011 10:06:25 PM)
I have a very deep voice, the good commanding type you are talking about. Does it have its perks? Of course. But knowing the right words to say and when is much more important than the voice used to deliver those words. If it hasn't come up as a problem don't worry about it in a relationship context. We all have things about us we would change as if we could. Just chalk your voice up as one of them. You don't have a deep voice, I don't have washboard abs, we are who we are. And when your voice does come to your mind just sit back and think "I am a successful Dom, I'm awesome even without the voice."

littlewonder -> RE: The Voice of a Dom (7/12/2011 10:07:38 PM)
I don't think Master has any special "dom" voice...he simply has a commanding and confident voice. It's not the tone that you should be concerned with. It should be your confidence.

Giermo -> RE: The Voice of a Dom (7/12/2011 10:09:53 PM)
Ha. I made the right choice registering for this site. Thanks again, and you are all obviously right. It is not the voice but what is being said.

HannahLynHeather -> RE: The Voice of a Dom (7/12/2011 10:20:30 PM)
quote: Ha. I made the right choice registering for this site. fucking right you did, we collectively rock like nobody's fucking business.

crazyml -> RE: The Voice of a Dom (7/13/2011 12:13:17 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Giermo Ha. I made the right choice registering for this site. Thanks again, and you are all obviously right. It is not the voice but what is being said. And how it's being said, and the context within which it's being said.. they all matter too. Now if you sounded like a chipmunk... that would be a problem for some. Unless they were chipmunks.

DarkSteven -> RE: The Voice of a Dom (7/13/2011 12:46:01 AM)
Not only do you need a deep, commanding voice, but when you type, it should be in all caps as well. Using a big font helps too - ignore those jealous people who say that it's overcompensating.

Charnegui -> RE: The Voice of a Dom (7/13/2011 1:02:50 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven Not only do you need a deep, commanding voice, but when you type, it should be in all caps as well. Using a big font helps too - ignore those jealous people who say that it's overcompensating. LMAO I agree with all of thee above... The way it is said, the setting it's said.... hell even when chatting one can be very Domly, just for using words in a certain manner It's the mood, the circumstances... it is everything and anything. imho.

pwnerandpwned -> RE: The Voice of a Dom (7/13/2011 5:59:02 AM)
I don't even think you need to say the right things or in the right way either, just because each woman will have her own opinion of what is and isn't ideal dominant communication. And I think many would even change their ideals over time when forming a relationship with a specific someone. Personally, I have a higher than average voice, get giddy and excited like a child, and can't manage to be serious for more than 5 seconds, but I still found someone who wanted to let me lead them. :) (in reply to OP; I can never hit the right play button! Grr!)

LillyBoPeep -> RE: The Voice of a Dom (7/13/2011 6:06:20 AM)
on one hand, i can kinda see what you're talking about. a voice is part of "general attraction" for me, and if a person's voice doesn't attract me, i won't really get into him. likewise, a guy can go from being a "he's nice enough" to a "holy crap, take me away!" by having a voice that makes me feel that way. =p but i couldn't really put a finger on what it is that makes it that way. it's not necessarily depth. maybe tone quality? i dunno. but with that said, the right person for you will like your voice. there are people who like mine, and people who don't. i don't fret over whether or not it's pretty enough or "subby enough." that's a sign of insecurity, especially relating to something that you can't do much about -- i mean you could invest a bunch of money in voice lessons or public speaking workshops, but what's the point? you are who you are.

sirsholly -> RE: The Voice of a Dom (7/13/2011 6:44:06 AM)
quote: Now if you sounded like a chipmunk... that would be a problem for some. i can just hear Alvin bellowing "On your knees. bitch!"

sirsholly -> RE: The Voice of a Dom (7/13/2011 6:47:41 AM)
quote: You don't need a deep, commanding voice to be a Dom. What matters more than the voice you were given at birth is how you use it. The slight change in his voice when he goes from Hubby to Dominant.... :::::splat:::::

Palliata -> RE: The Voice of a Dom (7/13/2011 6:54:47 AM)
I'd just give up now, man. No point in trying if you have a hurdle like vocal tonality standing in your way.

poise -> RE: The Voice of a Dom (7/13/2011 7:46:32 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Giermo I believe I lack a deep commanding voice. I think you may have a belief that to be dominant, you must be domineering. Even the softest of whispers can carry the power to bring me to my knees.

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