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RE: How many Dominants share their subs - 5/23/2006 4:24:54 AM

KennelDeSade2

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"Mine" is ownership, as I define the word. As mine, I can use, or have used, anything mine, any way, at any time.
A former slave put it very well once, when she said; "Yes, his cock was in me, but I was fucking you."
But in response to requests for her use, the answer is that: "Since I am very picky about who plays with my toys. . . Don't call us, we will call you."

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RE: How many Dominants share their subs - 5/23/2006 4:29:54 AM

odalisqueslave

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i notice you stated 'former' slave....i sense there may be 'several' of those.

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RE: How many Dominants share their subs - 5/23/2006 4:45:21 AM

FloridaISIS

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Call Me greedy, but I would never share one of Mine sexually. What's mine is mine, and I feel for Me by sharing him it will cheapen his value in My eyes, and destroy the most sacred thing we share together. This is however My personal opinion.

Many Dom/mes and subs are on the same page and enjoy loaning out the sub so to say; that's great if it's consensual. Everyone has their way of doing things.

Only time I would loan out My sub would be to a Domme friend of mine who maybe needed some help with chores around the house, or if She were hosting a party and needed a studly or femme hostess--lol. Other than that no sharing.

As for when I have subbed before, the agreement was that I was to be Master's sole form of enjoyment, and I was to be used very well by Him whenever He chose. Again call Me greedy, I wanted Him all to myself. Knowing I satisfied Every last one of His lusty needs gave Me a major high.

I feel sex is the most sacred thing a Dominant and sub can share, although W/we know how it can be..made the lil slut for the Dominants amusement--mmmmm, makes it so much more gratifying.

Peace and love,
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RE: How many Dominants share their subs - 5/26/2006 11:33:01 AM

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My first experience of sharing my sub will be happening in about 8 hours or so. A friend of ours is a switch and shall be giving my sub several firsts this evening. I am truly hoping this does not backfire upon me, but i do believe that all shall be ok

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RE: How many Dominants share their subs - 5/29/2006 10:46:22 AM

WhiteRadiance

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I am curious to hear how this turns out.. please share! lol ;)

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My first experience of sharing my sub will be happening in about 8 hours or so. A friend of ours is a switch and shall be giving my sub several firsts this evening. I am truly hoping this does not backfire upon me, but i do believe that all shall be ok

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RE: How many Dominants share their subs - 5/29/2006 10:53:19 AM

Morpheus07

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Can someone enlighten me as to the point of sharing my sub? What do I get out of the deal? I have never shared a woman intentionally, and can't imagine why I would.

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RE: How many Dominants share their subs - 5/29/2006 12:08:36 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Morpheus07

Can someone enlighten me as to the point of sharing my sub? What do I get out of the deal? I have never shared a woman intentionally, and can't imagine why I would.

Because it is a pleasurable empowering experience for both myself and my slave alandra.

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RE: How many Dominants share their subs - 5/29/2006 12:12:57 PM

MasterRenegade77

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I would never share a slave with anyone but her sisters in submission...
E/everyone I'm sure hae thier own opinions on this but I could never share that which I love with another!!!

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RE: How many Dominants share their subs - 5/29/2006 12:31:16 PM

Morpheus07

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quote:

ORIGINAL: NeedInspiration

I have to say here....

I would guess (and of course this is just a supposition on my part)... that the male Dominants here who have poo poo'ed the notion of sharing are LESS than secure about themselves, their partner's affection, their phallus size, their ability to dominate well (in terms of mindgames and bdsm games particularly) or their ability to please their partner. AND.. I'll even go out on a limb and surmise that they would "allow" their submissive woman to play (sexually) with another woman..

Call me crazy!

I wouldn't share my toothbrush, a glass of water, my tools, jewelry, or anything else of value with you, or anyone else. Why in the f**k would I share the most important person in my life with you?

I don't want what is yours either. I have no desire to prove my domliness to the greater world. This is how I was made, and for me to be happy in a relationship, it must be D/s based.

How you leap from that to the size of my (speaking for all non-sharing Dom males.) peepee, or my overwhelming insecurity is beyond me.

Do you think I worry that my toothbrush just wouldn't look at me the same if I shared it?

The fact is that some people are of the sharing type (in all things) and some are not. Just like some are outgoing and some are not, etc.

I have been like this (non sharing type) since birth, just as I have been Dominant since birth, they are not, however, related.

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RE: How many Dominants share their subs - 5/29/2006 12:43:12 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: NeedInspiration

I have to say here....

I would guess (and of course this is just a supposition on my part)... that the male Dominants here who have poo poo'ed the notion of sharing are LESS than secure about themselves, their partner's affection, their phallus size, their ability to dominate well (in terms of mindgames and bdsm games particularly) or their ability to please their partner. AND.. I'll even go out on a limb and surmise that they would "allow" their submissive woman to play (sexually) with another woman..

Call me crazy!

Your Crazy! and of course your supposition is even crazier.

some share some don't... neither is a better way.... just better of the persons involved! The motivations to share or not to share are going to varied... some for rather sound reasons. some for no reason at all it except it was a good idea at the time. There is no universal hole to put this peg to. We are all unique in our reasons of the two choices to share or not to share. Even these two choices are going to have hybrids in that some things are going to be shared and some things are not going to be.

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RE: How many Dominants share their subs - 5/29/2006 1:20:57 PM

ownedgirlie

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~fast reply~

Well I was just shared yesterday, for the first time. What did I get out of it? Growth, experience, strength, to be made to feel how I needed to feel. What did he get out of it? He watched his slave work like mad to please him. He watched her zone in on him with total focus. He had the pleasure of being her beacon, and feeling her bond to him when she looked for a lifeline.

Together we grew. As one who always said "No one is touching my slave," he did something he hadn't done before. Mind you, he controlled the environment and placed very limited restrictions on the man who joined us, but it was an amazing experience which brought us closer than before.

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RE: How many Dominants share their subs - 5/29/2006 7:10:27 PM

WhiteRadiance

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This is so very awesome. I am happy for you both. :)
When you say you were made to feel like you needed to feel.. can you elaborate please? What did you need to feel that you were not feeling and did you know you were lacking something?

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ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie

~fast reply~

Well I was just shared yesterday, for the first time. What did I get out of it? Growth, experience, strength, to be made to feel how I needed to feel. What did he get out of it? He watched his slave work like mad to please him. He watched her zone in on him with total focus. He had the pleasure of being her beacon, and feeling her bond to him when she looked for a lifeline.

Together we grew. As one who always said "No one is touching my slave," he did something he hadn't done before. Mind you, he controlled the environment and placed very limited restrictions on the man who joined us, but it was an amazing experience which brought us closer than before.

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RE: How many Dominants share their subs - 5/29/2006 7:26:15 PM

ownedgirlie

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quote:

ORIGINAL: WhiteRadiance

This is so very awesome. I am happy for you both. :)
When you say you were made to feel like you needed to feel.. can you elaborate please? What did you need to feel that you were not feeling and did you know you were lacking something?

Thank you...

Elaboration as to exactly how I needed to feel - Hmm, it's too soon to describe yet. I am still processing what occured, and everything that occured after that (it was an interesting weekend). As for what I was lacking - not so much lacking but needing more growth. I suppose in a way that is lacking, isn't it?! Master is always pushing me to the very edge of what I can handle, and the result is a further deepening of my submission.

Maybe I can write more about it in a day or two (or three) when my mind adjusts a bit more. It was very powerful.

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RE: How many Dominants share their subs - 5/29/2006 7:38:35 PM

Skuggi

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Sharing the sub - not for a million....if you make a contract with the submissive you simply honor it.
But sharing it - never - not my cup of tea and not here in the scene i'm a part of.

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RE: How many Dominants share their subs - 5/29/2006 7:44:02 PM

ownedgirlie

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Not sure where contract or honoring a contract comes in. He & I don't have a contract. There is nothing to honor or dishonor. What he says goes. :And he knew I needed this so he did it. When all was said and done, I thanked him for it.

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RE: How many Dominants share their subs - 5/30/2006 6:11:05 AM

LuckyAlbatross

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie

Not sure where contract or honoring a contract comes in. He & I don't have a contract. There is nothing to honor or dishonor. What he says goes. :And he knew I needed this so he did it. When all was said and done, I thanked him for it.

Congrats on having such a great experience. Even if you had been shared and decided it wasn't what worked for you or served your sense of self, I'm glad you were willing to have the experience.

When people ask why I am poly, other than saying "I have no clue" (which is true) I will say that I simply feel I have so much to give that I can't imagine giving it only to one person, that I feel more ME when I give to others.

Whether you felt this yourself or not, I'm glad it served you and that you have a new item on your buffet to enjoy.

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RE: How many Dominants share their subs - 5/30/2006 8:02:22 AM

ownedgirlie

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Thank you, LA. He would not have done it if he wasn't confident I would handle it. He had been exploring my mind on the subject for some time. And he was right there for those "hmm I'm not so sure about this" moments so I could stare into his eyes and feel him.

Whether or not he does it again is up to him. He knew I needed to know he could and would whore me out if he chose, and I needed to know what that felt like (the man was unknown to me).

It had been a fantasy of mine, and we all know that fantasies sometimes translate differently when becoming a reality. I am grateful he did it. I'm sure he had to be certain he wanted to deal with it, too. He is typically quite possessive about his property. So, in different ways, it was a stretch for both of us.

As for those here who have said, "I love my girl too much to share her," please do not imply that those who DO share their girls, love them any less. If anything, he looks at me with even more care in his eyes now, knowing I would do what I did for him.

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RE: How many Dominants share their subs - 5/30/2006 8:16:00 AM

thetammyjo

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Morpheus07

Can someone enlighten me as to the point of sharing my sub? What do I get out of the deal? I have never shared a woman intentionally, and can't imagine why I would.

You get to show off how well you trained your slave -- remember this isn't just about sexual sharing.

You might get to help your slave fulfill a fantasy or two of his own.

You might get well-known in your community for being helpful and for having a helpful slave.

In other words, it has to be worth it to both of you.

If I denied Fox the opportunity to help out others at conventions or among our friends, he'd feel bad about himself. Sorry, I have no interest in a slave who feels bad about himself. Same thing with his sexuality -- he's bisexual, I'd consider myself mean if I said he couldn't be sexual with a man.

Overall I think most people answering in the negative are really thinking only of sharing as sexual -- slaves, at least most I've known in meatlife, do a lot more than have sex.

One of the most pleasant conventions I've been to was when a master I respect gave me his slave for a few events (it was our first time to this convention) and the slave in question showed us around. To me this said 1) we were valued newbies and guests, 2) this master really trusted his slave to show him in a great light, and 3) they knew that slavery is beyond just sex and moves into a full world of service.

Now I would not judge someone negatively for not offering such service to me; I just won't think better of them either.

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RE: How many Dominants share their subs - 5/30/2006 4:56:46 PM

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quote:

I have to say here....

I would guess (and of course this is just a supposition on my part)... that the male Dominants here who have poo poo'ed the notion of sharing are LESS than secure about themselves, their partner's affection, their phallus size, their ability to dominate well (in terms of mindgames and bdsm games particularly) or their ability to please their partner. AND.. I'll even go out on a limb and surmise that they would "allow" their submissive woman to play (sexually) with another woman..

Call me crazy!

So-o-o-o-o, I am an insecure individual with a small dick, uncertain if mine loves me and I am incapable of being dominant in my relationship nor am I capable of pleasing mine sexually? All because I choose not to share her with others, though if I had the opportunity to see her do it with another woman, I'ld go for it...I think that sums it up very succinctly. Thank you, I had no idea that my life and relationship with mine had been based on such a previously delusional basis.

I take it back, I am NOT an asshole, I just have a small penis,

C

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RE: How many Dominants share their subs - 5/30/2006 5:40:31 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: CERCKL

quote:

I have to say here....

I would guess (and of course this is just a supposition on my part)... that the male Dominants here who have poo poo'ed the notion of sharing are LESS than secure about themselves, their partner's affection, their phallus size, their ability to dominate well (in terms of mindgames and bdsm games particularly) or their ability to please their partner. AND.. I'll even go out on a limb and surmise that they would "allow" their submissive woman to play (sexually) with another woman..

Call me crazy!

So-o-o-o-o, I am an insecure individual with a small dick, uncertain if mine loves me and I am incapable of being dominant in my relationship nor am I capable of pleasing mine sexually? All because I choose not to share her with others, though if I had the opportunity to see her do it with another woman, I'ld go for it...I think that sums it up very succinctly. Thank you, I had no idea that my life and relationship with mine had been based on such a previously delusional basis.

I take it back, I am NOT an asshole, I just have a small penis,

C

Hilarious. You cut through that.

As for me, it depends on the person and the relationship. They are all different.

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