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RE: Training vs being owned - 7/25/2011 12:27:21 AM

SexyBossyBBW

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if you're monogamous, then i assume you'll choose a man who doesn't want to share you. you can always tell the Dom training you that being shared is a hard limit.

My sentiments exactly!
Sharing is a very personal thing. Some people can wrap their minds around it, given a D/s or M/s situation, even if they find it difficult to stomach; but this isn't something I'd recommend learning to love, and obey, if it isn't who you are at the core. M

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RE: Training vs being owned - 7/25/2011 9:55:46 AM

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The whole concept of training outside of a committed relationship is pretty alien to me, tbh. When I first decided I wanted to find out exactly what I enjoyed, I just met people I'd got to know and like and had play sessions with them. Some wanted to take it further, but I had to make it clear I didn't want anything other than to gain experience and find out exactly what I enjoyed or disliked.

When I did decide what I wanted, I set out to find someone who I could have a committed D/s relationship with, and when I finally found him, I set out to train him within our relationship, to my personal needs, wants and desires. Everyone has different ones, so I can't see how someone 'training' you will be beneficial to a future dominant, as they might have different requirements. It does sound like you're just his plaything, and he has no intention of any sort of long term relationship, and now you are developing feelings for him, it could be very harmful to any future relationships for you when he has finished 'training' you.
I apologise if all of this has already been said, and I sincerely hope you can find your way. :)

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RE: Training vs being owned - 7/25/2011 3:15:32 PM

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hello,
If you feel safe with him why not do as he asks? what has he asked that will offend you? if nothing then get into your training as soon as you can and as deep.

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