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Rochsub2009 -> RE: A very Awkward question... (9/5/2011 9:17:04 PM)
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ORIGINAL: IrishMist
I guess what I am asking, to be blunt, is "how do you handle being sexually used in that way, IF you are straight'?
I'll preface my answer by saying that I hate threads that basically ask "Does doing XYZ make me gay?"
IMO, "gayness" is not determined by physical activites. Rather, it is determined by one's mental state. I'm sure that some will immediately argue against that POV, but let me clarify what I mean.
I am completely straight. I have no interest in interacting with another male sexually. I feel no attraction towards men. I don't fantasize about men. In fact, every Domme that I've ever been with knows that male-on-male sex is a hard limit for me.
Despite that, if someone were to offer me $10,000,000 to suck a cock, I would probably suck it. I wouldn't enjoy the act. But to me, it would be a simple matter of cost versus benefit. The benefit in this instance is very clear. To me, the benefits outweigh the cost, so I would do it. But I wouldn't feel the least bit "gay", even though I had performed an act that some would say is "gay". As I mentioned earlier, IMO gayness is a mental state. And my mental state would not have changed. I would still be sexually attracted to women exclusively.
As far as the specific question in your OP, I don't feel homosexual if a woman takes me with a strap-on. The fact that it is a woman performing the act eliminates that train of thought (at least for me it does).
Frankly, I don't like the physical sensation of strap-on sex. Some people do. I don't. However, I do enjoy the feeling of submission that it gives me. IMO, there is something inherently dominant about f*cking someone else. When a man mounts a woman and f*cks her, it is a very dominant position. Similarly, if two lesbians are having strap-on sex, I would assume that the one wearing the strap-on feels more dominant, aggressive, and in control. The one receiving the strap-on probably feels like she's in a more submissive position, as well as the more passive role.
That's how it makes me feel. The idea that a woman is f*cking me makes me feel very submissive. She is doing something to me that is one of nature's clearest shows of dominance. Moreover, she is doing something that men are supposed to do to women, not vice versa. The mere fact that she is doing it to me serves as a mental and physical reminder of her dominant position in our relationship. I am hers to do with as she will. She can (and will) f*ck me anytime she wants to. The act has both literal and figurative meaning.
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