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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

Hey Lockit,

That wasn't how I read the OP's post. I read it not so much as advice but as a dry way of saying 'I've had this shitty experience with a man claiming to be single when he wasn't'. I think I might even write it the same style, in the OP's position. If I were to be advising anyone in such a post, it'd be myself.

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ORIGINAL: zephyroftheNorth
Not that I know of but I once met up with a guy who used inches when he should have used millimeters.

Interesting - I met a woman once who used inches when she should have used yards.

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ORIGINAL: zephyroftheNorth

Dammit that sounded clearer in my head. Possibly because the sentence included the words "to describe the length of his cock"

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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

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ORIGINAL: zephyroftheNorth

Dammit that sounded clearer in my head. Possibly because the sentence included the words "to describe the length of his cock"

Yep, I admit I hadn't quite honed that come-back to perfection.

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ORIGINAL: zephyroftheNorth


At least I have the excuse that it was very early in the morning. What's yours?

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ORIGINAL: Iamsemisweet
Actually, no, I don't believe my friends would have responded in the same way that the people here have to this OP. In fact, I don't think if the OP had made the same comment to a group of strangers, but in person, that they would have responded the same way people here have.  I don't think my friends would speak for "everybody else", either.   But, then again, we aren't really friends here, are we?  What most of us are is anonymous strangers, some of whom feel the need to vent their aggression on others (i.e. the P & R section).  Maybe that is what the OP needs to learn.
OP, some of us have been there.  I was married for many years, so I was new to dating too.  If it really offends you (it does me) and you don't want to waste time with people who are married (regardless of whether they consider themselves married or not), lots of courts have records available on line, and local newspapers often print who has filed for divorce or separation also.  You can find this stuff out in advance, without too much effort.

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ORIGINAL: Lockit
The title of this thread is... Watch out for the term Single. I see that as a warning of some sort. I am going on a take of many of her threads, for which at least this older bitch domina finds herself shaking her head and wondering how someone even older than I am, could be so ignorant to realities most have seen by age twenty.

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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

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At least I have the excuse that it was very early in the morning. What's yours?

I don't need one. Everyone loves me even when I balls things up.

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ORIGINAL: Iamsemisweet
Actually, no, I don't believe my friends would have responded in the same way that the people here have to this OP. In fact, I don't think if the OP had made the same comment to a group of strangers, but in person, that they would have responded the same way people here have.  I don't think my friends would speak for "everybody else", either.   But, then again, we aren't really friends here, are we?  What most of us are is anonymous strangers, some of whom feel the need to vent their aggression on others (i.e. the P & R section).  Maybe that is what the OP needs to learn.
OP, some of us have been there.  I was married for many years, so I was new to dating too.  If it really offends you (it does me) and you don't want to waste time with people who are married (regardless of whether they consider themselves married or not), lots of courts have records available on line, and local newspapers often print who has filed for divorce or separation also.  You can find this stuff out in advance, without too much effort.

OK, I'll give you the bit about "everybody else".  Let's go with a term like "common knowledge" instead.  Something like the subject that some people lie about their marital status isn't a big secret.  Even a person not involved in dating of some sort is exposed to it because the subject is all over tv, movies, music, books, and magazines.  Considering all of that, I think it would be really tough to find a mature individual who doesn't know that some married people lie in order to cheat. 

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ORIGINAL: zephyroftheNorth

It's not as though married men lying about their marital status is brand new or indigenous to online tj. Someone would have to be living in solitary confinement to not know that.

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ORIGINAL: zephyroftheNorth

It's not as though married men lying about their marital status is brand new or indigenous to online tj. Someone would have to be living in solitary confinement to not know that.

well, someone that was a stay at home mom for a couple of decades, yeah, thats a form or solitary confinement...

I guess i like to give most people the benefit of the doubt and not judge most too harshly.. its pretty easy to say something online and it not come across the way you meant it too, of course.. If someone doesnt like the OPs view then the post is small tatters in the scheme of life tho...

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ORIGINAL: Iamsemisweet
Well, you might be surprised at some of the things that I consider common knowledge that other people just don't seem to know.  It happens. I am an honest person myself, and yes, it still surprises me when people try to lie or cheat me.
I think a newbie section that is heavily moderated would be a fine idea. Much better than asking a question that others consider silly and having them go all "mean girl" from junior high on your ass.

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ORIGINAL: Lockit

I don't believe for one moment that older people are ignorant to cheating spouses, AIDS or rubbers as they used to be called long ago. Four decades ago, rubbers were used to prevent diseases we knew about then and pregnancy. A few decades later, we knew of more diseases and thanks to Masters and Johnson and different people exploring sexuality, we learned a great deal unless we didn't wish to learn it or lived under a rock.

There is no place for ignorance in any adult that is thinking wisely about their life. Ignorance in this form is something I see as denial.

Many men of a certain age were used to going free or cover-less when there was less to worry about. They thought a vasectomy was enough. They wanted to ride that pony bareback and still wish to. Lots of ladies will allow that, turning from the truth that most know if they have a television, news paper or computer.

I cannot say that a long term marriage is an excuse to not know what is going on in the world and if you have lived through the friggin 60's and onward... you ought to know a bit more than what is being exhibited on this thread and a few others.

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ORIGINAL: Iamsemisweet

So why not just not respond to threads you find stupid or ignorant?  That would actually take less effort on your part.

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ORIGINAL: Lockit

I don't believe for one moment that older people are ignorant to cheating spouses, AIDS or rubbers as they used to be called long ago. Four decades ago, rubbers were used to prevent diseases we knew about then and pregnancy. A few decades later, we knew of more diseases and thanks to Masters and Johnson and different people exploring sexuality, we learned a great deal unless we didn't wish to learn it or lived under a rock.

There is no place for ignorance in any adult that is thinking wisely about their life. Ignorance in this form is something I see as denial.

Many men of a certain age were used to going free or cover-less when there was less to worry about. They thought a vasectomy was enough. They wanted to ride that pony bareback and still wish to. Lots of ladies will allow that, turning from the truth that most know if they have a television, news paper or computer.

I cannot say that a long term marriage is an excuse to not know what is going on in the world and if you have lived through the friggin 60's and onward... you ought to know a bit more than what is being exhibited on this thread and a few others.

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ORIGINAL: CeriseNin
And even they know that some spouses are cheaters and liars, even the soccer moms know this. Hell, plenty of them have lived through it, or gossiped about it over afternoon tea.