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LaTigresse -> RE: Would you be less inclined to submit to a man who'd been raped? (9/18/2011 6:48:55 AM)
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As for the topic.
I get that a lot of women are, or would be, squicked at the idea of 'their man' being with a guy. Considering the ewww factor that our society has instilled in us from day one, I get that. It is a big part of homophobia and violence towards gays, especially gay men.
We can argue what part of that eww, is nature and nurture till we are all blue in the face and our fingers are raw. It doesn't really matter though.
The only aspect of it that I consider, is that I know for a fact that sexuality is a sliding scale. Very very few people, contrary to what they say, or sometimes even believe of themselves, are 100% hetro or gay. That is where I believe the societal conditioning comes in. If a person, male in this instance, is attracted to women and society is making the male attraction hell, he is very likely going to stiffle the male attraction and go with the women.
BUT.......what happens IF he did experiment at some point in life? He believes himself, has convinced himself, he is straight. He very likely feels shame for his past experimentation and because of the stigma, will deny it ever happened. But what if the person/s he experimented with has a reason to 'out' him. OR. what if he meets a man that he feels an overwhelming attraction to? What if he falls in love with a man? After all, as much as we WANT to control everything in our lives, we cannot force ourselves to love, or not. What happens when the woman he loves discovers some part of the above?
How then is male bisexuality different than female bisexuality? Why is it somehow more acceptable and less 'ewwwww'? I don't think you can determine whether that eww factor is nature or nurture. Whatever it is, it is so solidly instilled into who we are at this point in time.
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