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RE: Subs can you shed some light - 10/20/2011 7:27:30 PM

atursvcMaam

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I simply cannot bring myself to allow anyone to have any power or control over me why does it seem so easy for all of you?

Is it simply that you have not found another who impresses you that much, or are you unwilling to give of yourself to that extent? This is not intended to be snarky, but you question has piqued my curiosity. Pleasing Mistress, or causing Her amusement, and allowing Her to use me to work out Her frustrations etc. has tended to have its own batch of rewards. but i am very much a masochist. I do enjoy seeing Her smile and hearing Her laugh, so it tends to work well for both sides.

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RE: Subs can you shed some light - 10/21/2011 8:30:00 AM

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to the OP - You may not necessarily be a dom or a sub, you may just like kinky sex. You don't *have* to give yourself a label to have fun you know :)

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RE: Subs can you shed some light - 10/26/2011 12:21:47 AM

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ORIGINAL: oneluckysub

I knew that submission was for me from a very young age. It is easy to me because it makes sense.

I have always enjoyed taking care of people and making sure their needs have been met. I enjoy it even more when I am taking care of someone whom I care greatly for. I have always been attracted to dominant, take charge kind of men so discovering D/s relationships was a natural progression that I discovered after another failed vanilla relationship.

My submission to another person is how I balance my life. Without it, I become crabby and almost anxious because the rest of my life takes over. I have a high stress, high power job. I am great at it and would not change it for anything as I love what I do. I am the go to gal that fixes everything and is the one with all the answers. In my home life, I am the easy going, laid back time. I found that in relationships I need to have someone else take the lead. I need to have someone else tell me what to do with rules and consequences for failure to abide by the rules. I am not into pain and punishment for pain and punishments sake though so I do my best to follow the rules. Plus I dont want to disappoint the rule setter for my failure to follow his commands.

As for the kinky sex part, well that is awesome also.

Giving control of my entire being to my Dom is the most satisfying experience tI have ever had. Knowing that I can trust him to do things to me or have me do things to/for him is amazing to me. Being with someone who takes me to a place where time stops and I am at my most peaceful, its what I live for. Its easy for me to submit because my heart and soul seeks submission like moths to a flame.

i couldn't have said it better myself i feel the same

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RE: Subs can you shed some light - 11/9/2011 11:45:42 PM

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I can feel it way down deep inside me. I was born to submit.
It pleases me to please him. Simple as that.

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RE: Subs can you shed some light - 11/13/2011 5:24:54 AM

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i have read the question and all the repies here but still cannot come up with an answer other than to say it just comes so naturally, it feels so right and so comfortable.

i am a very strong person but around Master i just turn into His slave His sub, completely controlled by Him. Punishment is part of the dynamic but not wanting to blow my own trumpet, it is rarely administered because i would never dream of disobeying Him.

i just love him so much i am His.

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RE: Subs can you shed some light - 11/13/2011 8:41:31 AM

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Back2the future, what's HLS? Did a google and came up w/nothing.

Perhaps the answer to your question can be answered with a simple question...Is your nature more that you are pleaser, or prefer to be pleased? As a sub, my pleasure comes from pleasing others. Generally, that is my nature, but as many have pointed out here, that also happens best for me when in the presence of a good, strong, fair, alpha personality (in my case one that is male), whom I like, admire and respect enough.

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RE: Subs can you shed some light - 11/13/2011 10:26:37 AM

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ORIGINAL: Rokobilli

I was curious to learn. What is it that drives you to love your Doms so much that you would do everything you do for them. What is it that makes you want to be trained and disciplined by them and have rules set by them that you are willing to follow so easily. Is that something that you have to learn to like or does it come naturally to you. The reason I ask is because I have tried to be a sub but I cannot bring myself to want to obey anyone regardless of any punishment or rules set I simply cannot bring myself to allow anyone to have any power or control over me why does it seem so easy for all of you?

Trust ...and the vulnerability of allowing that trusted person to basically have the keys to me. It is ironically the most freeing thing i've ever experienced, in a nutshell. The punishment factor seems to work for me because i know the issue has been addressed and resolved, never to be held against me and repeatedly brought back up. I've seen some vanilla couples fight for years over past issues.....just a vicious cycle.

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RE: Subs can you shed some light - 11/15/2011 10:19:55 PM

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Pssssst, here's the big secret.

Only scroll down if you have the guts to really know.

You might be a little embarassed to find this out.

i realized this at one point when a fledgeling Dom asked me how i could be so stupid as to let a mere Woman enslave and torment me. It took me a while to phrase the appropriate response.

i did not address his "mere woman" comment, but told him that my explanation should be kept quiet, and with appropriate gender adjustment probably will apply to any subissive he might ever encounter.

are you ready??????

Don't tell MiLady, but....

i let Her win.
He was very quiet for quite a while, and has been quite respectful ever since, both to me, and most subs he is with.

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RE: Subs can you shed some light - 11/20/2011 11:42:19 AM

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I feel it naturally. That want to please and make someone else happy but its a bit of a test for myself within the play realm where no matter how hard i'm hit or how many bruises I know will be there later I won't show any sign of weaknesses . I never want them to see me cry or beg. I guess its just my own power struggle.

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