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RE: Are Women attracted to submisive men? - 10/3/2011 8:48:04 AM

nick51068

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Well i dedeted the being married part because that is all people consentrated on and i got nothing but grief. So i just said fuck it.

Additionally, Ms. Locket, i was not trying to offend You when i said You were bat shit crazy. i like crazy Women and the more You talk the hotter You get!!!!

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RE: Are Women attracted to submisive men? - 10/3/2011 8:55:55 AM

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Lockit, you know I love you, but this line is funny as hell! You should put it in your sig! "Additionally, Ms. Locket, i was not trying to offend You when i said You were bat shit crazy. i like crazy Women and the more You talk the hotter You get!!!!"

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RE: Are Women attracted to submisive men? - 10/3/2011 8:58:16 AM

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That is like there being a fire and someone Calling "Fire!" and you saying everyone is concentrating on the fire.

You are married. I am sure your poor wife does not know you are here. You are lying to her, the one you took vows with. I could care less who else you tell the truth to or who you lie to, you are lying to the one person you need to be real and honest with. You dont deserve her and I hope she finds out and dumps your ass cold.

Lying men suck ass and when they "at least tell me the truth" that they are married but are lying to their wives makes me see red. Get the fuck away from me, go home and talk to your wife, your honesty is crap just like your actions. (Said to all men like this not directly to the OP, although he is in the same realm as these other rotten piglets).

As far as what the OP is saying besides lying to his wife, men who are "do-me" types bore the crap out of me. I am tired. Give a little or get the freak out of my way. I am way too tired otherwise. Buh bye.

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RE: Are Women attracted to submisive men? - 10/3/2011 12:49:08 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

Lockit, you know I love you, but this line is funny as hell! You should put it in your sig! "Additionally, Ms. Locket, i was not trying to offend You when i said You were bat shit crazy. i like crazy Women and the more You talk the hotter You get!!!!"

Like this?

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RE: Are Women attracted to submisive men? - 10/3/2011 2:12:53 PM

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Perfect! That's a great line, seriously.

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RE: Are Women attracted to submisive men? - 10/3/2011 7:11:55 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Lockit

quote:

ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

Lockit, you know I love you, but this line is funny as hell! You should put it in your sig! "Additionally, Ms. Locket, i was not trying to offend You when i said You were bat shit crazy. i like crazy Women and the more You talk the hotter You get!!!!"

Like this?

I love it!!!!

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RE: Are Women attracted to submisive men? - 10/3/2011 7:22:19 PM

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I'd prefer to have a woman for sex, or well, just about anything really.

P.S. Love Lockit's new sig too!

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RE: Are Women attracted to submisive men? - 10/4/2011 9:42:20 AM

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The op talks about his experience with nondominant women and compares them to dominant ones. Apples to oranges that. The other thing is that he is responsible for having not told the women he dated what he liked to find someone who was compatible. It's like loving opera but hiding all your opera records, not mentioning the greatest performance of Magic Flute you ever saw, etc and then whining that your partner doesn't also like opera. It could easily have been discussed upfront to determine compatibility.

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RE: Are Women attracted to submisive men? - 10/4/2011 10:32:51 AM

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ORIGINAL: HeatherMcLeather

I'd prefer to have a woman for sex, or well, just about anything really.

P.S. Love Lockit's new sig too!

I agree on both counts.

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RE: Are Women attracted to submisive men? - 10/4/2011 4:24:09 PM

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ORIGINAL: nick51068

I was reading a Mistress' blog a few weeks back and one of her statements was that most Women are not attracted to submisive guys.

So istarted to think back to my dating years and see that it is probably true. I was always very nice to my vanilla girlfreinds and still am very nice to my wife. Now other then my wife they would go out with me for a while (i guess they got board) and dump me, a few weeks later when the next guy treated them like shit they came back, i took them back and a few months later they would dump me again. This would happen 3-4 times before i would stop taking them back and i would move to the next girl that would basically do the same thing.

Now we always had fun and these girls always wanted to still be freinds. In fact they would call me after they dumped me to hang out. So it is not like they didn't like me as a person, they just didn't want to be my GFs.

Now this brings me to my question. Are the Dominant Women on CM attracted to submisive men when it comes to having just plain old sex, or would You prefer to have a non-submisive guy for that? And is that why cuckolding is popular with dominant Womwn and why Dommes often reserve the right to have other men then their subs. Non-sub men are for sex and sub man are for doing what you say, playing with, spanking and suffering for Your pleasure.

Would love to hear people's thoughts.

Whatever.

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RE: Are Women attracted to submisive men? - 10/5/2011 8:08:12 AM

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i'm sure alot of them are. i am myself. it depends on the man too.

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RE: Are Women attracted to submisive men? - 10/7/2011 8:08:46 AM

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I think when people read a profile they read way to much into it....like saying im looking for friends and chat but later go on to say would like to play , WELL!...arent we all looking for friends and maby a little chat.............but on the other hand do those words imply that the general community expect You to be celebate....then call you a liar when you might be intersted in play?...Im a sub male and have played with several Dommes, all whome professed to only want service..NSA....After 25 mins of flogging or laundry or chat ,most wanted to hop in the sack, and i was expected to comply because SHE was a Domme....there was only one Domme who didnt ,and only wanted service(i crave her ),,she knows whome she is ...anyway...im sick and tired of Domme wimmen saying every guy is a liar and a cheat looking for wank fodder, mabey some of You Dommes should admit your only domme because You failed in the vanilla world!

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RE: Are Women attracted to submisive men? - 10/7/2011 8:15:08 AM

LadyHibiscus

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Dude, you know that your post will be up forever, for every dominant to see, right? But I imagine that winning attitude shines through right away anyhow.

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RE: Are Women attracted to submisive men? - 10/7/2011 11:29:23 AM

Lockit

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quote:

ORIGINAL: me4oru

I think when people read a profile they read way to much into it....like saying im looking for friends and chat but later go on to say would like to play , WELL!...arent we all looking for friends and maby a little chat.............but on the other hand do those words imply that the general community expect You to be celebate....then call you a liar when you might be intersted in play?...Im a sub male and have played with several Dommes, all whome professed to only want service..NSA....After 25 mins of flogging or laundry or chat ,most wanted to hop in the sack, and i was expected to comply because SHE was a Domme....there was only one Domme who didnt ,and only wanted service(i crave her ),,she knows whome she is ...anyway...im sick and tired of Domme wimmen saying every guy is a liar and a cheat looking for wank fodder, mabey some of You Dommes should admit your only domme because You failed in the vanilla world!

Since you posted this on this particular thread.... where the guy was lying and was wanking and then because you just viewed my profile, I can kind of jump to the conclusion you might be talking about me in some part. So... let's talk.

If I say no strings... which I don't do service with no strings as I don't do service without a relationship... but if I have said it... I meant it! No flogging... no play... no strings whatsoever. I don't exchange services, not for anyone, I don't care what he looks like or what he has done. Keeps things real simple. In fact, I have turned down help in all sorts of things from moving, to home repair or helping me with research for one thing or another. Most often no strings means strings or expectations of some sort... kind of like... lets just be friends and sooner or later they do want to be more than friends and add some benefits.

Call me jaded if you will... you may live as a man... but I have been dealing with men for a whole lot of years and I can count on both hands and no more, from the men around here that really wanted to be friends and really wanted to help me without later wanting more by convincing me they were my friend first as a manipulation to get their foot in the door and the cock someplace else. No thank you. I just don't go there. I fend for myself and expect no service.

I don't think all men are liars and cheats. A great deal of them around here are, but that doesn't pan out so much in person. I think a lot of men around here hide behind a monitor and keyboard and are willing to say most anything to get what they want. Many will present as honest and friendly, but if you don't give the goods until you know they are... they are history. lol Now... who is jaded here? Me because I call it like I have experienced it or... them for actually being so jaded that all they wanted was playtime and when they realized I meant what I said, they ran off? Jaded in the sense of... damn the bitch really does want a relationship and didn't fall for my pretty words and I don't get any... fucking bitches that don't put out on a site like this! I see that as jaded as well.

As for that vanilla relationship thing not working out and not being able to find a guy... I have a harder time finding a guy around here. I did well in vanilla. That statement was very rude.

Just a word to the wise.. I hope. If you are going to dis domina's because they are so jaded that they think all men are liars and cheats... you might not want to push that point on a thread where the man does lie to someone and is cheating. Know and pick your battles before you step all over yourself.

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RE: Are Women attracted to submisive men? - 10/7/2011 4:05:00 PM

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Fetishes are not welcome here, only manbitches, trust me bro lol.
Try, FetLife.com, it's pretty good. :)

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RE: Are Women attracted to submisive men? - 10/8/2011 1:25:01 AM

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Cuckolding is NOT popular with dominant women. It's a fetish, but not one that is hugely populated outside of male fantasy.

When I am interested in someone sexually, I don't care about their orientation. Same with those I love. People first, whatever second.

Your comment is awesomely refreshing. I look around at a lot of these male "sub's" profiles(doesn't hurt to checkout the competition) and I think "wtf?". I guess it is two pronged for me, my own monogamous desires, and if you look up videos of genuine "cuckold relationships", you can see something die inside the "cuckoldress". It makes me sad to see it.

And if I may be so bold: to me4oru, stfu. Look at it from a gender neutral perspective. If a male dom is playing with a female sub would it be "undom like" for him to want to bang his sub? If anything, there isn't any action more dominant. Because dominant=assertive, aggressive. And kink isn't all there is. But I guess your one of those types who thinks in order for a gal to be dominant she has to do everything you want her to do? Granted a sub doesn't have to go along with the programing(you could refuse, in some cases like engaging in sexual activities without std test's would be a very good reason), but it is the Dom after all who writes and directs the storyline. If you have a problem with that, maybe you should try to dom a sub in order to bottom from the top or something.

And P.S
It is Woman/Women, Gal, Chick, and/or Dame(I would add Babe but I have seen that used in a gender neutral fashion). The way you used "wimmen" came across as very hateful and is inappropriate period. Bigotry has no place in the 21st Century,regardless of whom it may be aimed at.

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RE: Are Women attracted to submisive men? - 10/11/2011 9:27:10 PM

mons

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i am interested in submissive guys something so
tender but manly and giving it all to me with
trust and hope oh yes they are something else!
that cuckolding is for the birds 'not every domme
wants that , where are the men getting their information?

mons hi all :0:

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RE: Are Women attracted to submisive men? - 10/11/2011 10:28:56 PM

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The old adage "it takes one to know one" comes to mind. Be careful that rock you cast doesn't bounce back onto that splendid glass palace you've made for yourself.

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RE: Are Women attracted to submisive men? - 10/11/2011 10:32:03 PM

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BINGO !!!

Absolutely true. No woman wants a pushover. Where is the joy in that? Submission from a man that is meek and has no power to submit is no giving his submission so much as simply given up and comes across as settling in life. We women pick up on that quite readily and sense that desperation and it is imminently unattractive in either sex.

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RE: Are Women attracted to submisive men? - 10/14/2011 9:32:10 PM

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I would say that women are more commonly attracted to a submissive man when he appears to be "normal" in vanilla situations; they like guys with "normal", masculine mannerisms. However, those women who are attracted to submissive men like it if their men meet those requirements but then are also submissive on the inside; they may defer to her, and be submissive in the bedroom. Over all I doubt there will be many women who will fall in love with a guy who is blatently submissive in his general personality, and acts like a passive pushover towards her.

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