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RE: A Question for Sadists - 10/15/2011 9:15:32 PM

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Do you prefer the person you play with to enjoy the pain or hate the pain? And please elaborate, if you are willing. I'm just wondering if most would be of one mind or the other, or if it's a relatively even split. Or maybe it's not even a question of one or the other but dependent on the person you're with.

Most of the time, I like him to enjoy it. Every so often, though, I just want to hear him scream for my own enjoyment, whether he's enjoying it or not. Sometimes I also like to just do things I know he hates, just to get a reaction....of course I'd NEVER do anything he had a hard limit against. Seriously, though, I wouldn't inflict my sadism on someone if he actually didn't have at least a slight masochistic bent.

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RE: A Question for Sadists - 10/19/2011 3:25:06 PM

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She doesn't have to enjoy it, but I don't want to grab someone on the street and just start whipping her either.

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RE: A Question for Sadists - 11/20/2011 6:43:37 AM

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I would not enjoy a session if i felt my partner was genuinely not enjoying it, although I do adore that inner conflict and fear as well.

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RE: A Question for Sadists - 11/20/2011 12:21:07 PM

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Part of masochism is liking stuff that you hate, puts you in unbearable pain, and/or scares the shit out of you.

There are plenty of times that my partner or I are not absolutely enjoying every second, that's not the point. The point is rather than being disturbed, filing restraining orders, or criminal charges afterwards we are closer to one another, and ideally have learned something.

I personally love it (from both sides) when oooo-oooo-owww-oooo turns into HOLYSHITWTFOWOHMYGODDONTKILLMEOWWWW.

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RE: A Question for Sadists - 11/20/2011 12:55:55 PM

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ORIGINAL: Kana

The bottom line is that she take it.
She's a slave. Her role in my life is to serve, please, and obey. If she can't do that, WTF do I own the cunt? So yeah, in the end, it doesn't matter what she thinks/feels/wants. The only thing that matters is what I want. And if I want to hurt the slut, I will.

The rest is entirely mood dependent.
(Note that I can, in many ways, control how she acts by how I set the scene and interact with her.)

Some days I like it when she grooves to it. That's when I take her down real slow, soft, kinda glide her on in and then start slow, building piece by piece, each act turning the screw until she's awash in sensation.

Others I don't care if she likes it or not. She's just a piece of meat waiting for me to slake my desires. Those are the "it" days, when it is no longer anything but an object. These are the days I walk through the door, throw my keys down, grab it by the hair and slam it against the wall. Just fucking take. No questions asked. No comments. Just quick fast ruthless use of force.Yank it to the floor, still holding its hair and start whaling away with a belt soon to be followed by sodomy, gagging it with my cock. These tend to end in ravishment and mad violent sex, lots of pinching, clamps, biting, insertions, etc...

Then there are days where I genuinely enjoy the fact that she hates it, that it's an act of straight taking/inflicting. Those are the days I like to do shit that makes her howl like a beast, make her beg and crawl, do the humiliating things that she abhors, cry, while I keep coming back for moremoremore. Those are the days cigars and such come into play, that involve heavy aftercare, hard crashes on both sides. These are the scenes that scour the soul clean.But man, they are cathartic.

uh wow

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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

And with that there isnt a dry pair of panties in the house

LMAO these deserved an encore.

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RE: A Question for Sadists - 11/20/2011 1:01:00 PM

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Aaaand that is why I want to have Kana cloned. I figure the chances that there is another man like him out there is slim to none.

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RE: A Question for Sadists - 11/20/2011 1:04:53 PM

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Right? If you could bottle and sell that......hello

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RE: A Question for Sadists - 11/20/2011 1:06:43 PM

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SELL it? Fuck no, I'd keep it for myself.

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RE: A Question for Sadists - 11/20/2011 1:07:11 PM

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I dunno. Thing is, cool and self aware as Kana is, all that shit would NOT HAPPPEN without the other half. If she did not trust him, if they didn't have the connection, there wouldn't be any gut punching hot cigar action.

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RE: A Question for Sadists - 11/20/2011 1:10:26 PM

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Miss Hibbie, all I need is a D-type who isn't squicked by the stuff I love. Kana is one such man but he's taken so I need to have him cloned. Dig?

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RE: A Question for Sadists - 11/20/2011 1:15:40 PM

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See I can relate to Fire, 100%
The other half does need to exist, but the same can be said for chicks like us. =p Some of the stuff I like, or the type of connection that fulfills me bothers some guys. I like punching, but do you know how hard it is, when you're a 5' tall female, to find a guy who is okay with doing it? =p

You kinda start to feel like there's something wrong with you after a while.

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RE: A Question for Sadists - 11/20/2011 1:20:08 PM

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Exactly Lilly. I can't count how many self-identifying sadists read my profile but don't message me. It's frustrating! So we're just going to have to have Kana cloned.

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RE: A Question for Sadists - 11/20/2011 1:28:30 PM

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Kana also behaves the same all the time.

Seriously come to the Bmore/DC area we're a bunch of crazy fucks over here.

I'm blessed to know a lot of down to earth sadists who have no issue with being sadistic. They do exist.

Also, I've always found that meeting the right people means being right with yourself. I found the one I thought for sure didn't exist, because I found what I needed within myself.

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RE: A Question for Sadists - 11/20/2011 1:37:51 PM

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Haha well I don't need a clone of someone else, I just try to learnn stuff annd see if maybe increasing my own understanding might help down the line. If I can learn a different way to express myself or a way to encourage a guy, I dunno. :p

the onne time I've been to B'more, I saw a tribe of 6ft. Tall trans prostitutes. :p it's an interestinng place. :p

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RE: A Question for Sadists - 11/20/2011 1:48:00 PM

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<grins> it's just me making a special order. I look at his posts, think "THAT! I want that!" so cloning him is easier.

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RE: A Question for Sadists - 11/20/2011 1:53:04 PM

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Well, Shorey likes punching, and Aileen is petite...so if there's two, there's more!

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RE: A Question for Sadists - 11/20/2011 1:54:18 PM

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Oh - one of our local groups brought in a guy from Oklahoma called Mason Alexander. He was really comfortable with sadism, but also talked about the "getting on with it" process. He was an interesting character. :p a lot of people found his presentations helpfulregardless of the side of the slash they were on.
A lot of people confront it, and they either choose nnot to engage it, or to find a path through it.

For me, realizing how drawn to it I am has been weird because I feel like it's a contradiction. And sometimes when you talk about it with other guys, they take it personally as a critique on who they are, like you're saying they're not good ennough, which isnn't true.

Oh yeah, he called himself an "equal opportunity pain distrubutor." =p he didn't care if you were a male or a female, and there wasn't a whole lot you could say or do that would freak him out. =p it was awesome and frightening at the same time. haha
I got to be a demo dolly for his resistance play demo, and actually drew blood. Then later that night, they auctionrf a scene with him for a fundraiser, and a Domme friend won it and gave it to me. =p That was my first try with whips, and the first orgasm I ever had from punching alone. hahaha

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RE: A Question for Sadists - 11/20/2011 1:55:11 PM

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Yeah but he's taken too. Hmmm a hybrid could be interesting. Anyone know someone who knows how to clone?

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RE: A Question for Sadists - 11/20/2011 2:07:32 PM

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All I know about cloning I learned from watching AquaTeenHungerForce, so I think we're hosed.

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RE: A Question for Sadists - 11/20/2011 2:08:40 PM

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Yeh I don't think that's a good source, thanks anyway Miss Hibbie

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