LaTigresse
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Excellent post. I don't really know how to put my own feelings together better. I love uniqueness. I love celebrating uniqueness. I love exploring different cultures and what they have to offer, to enrich all of our lives. (being a foodie, especially food...) BUT, I hate the 'us and them' mindset. I hate 'ism'. I hate the whole mindset of anyone that isn't us, is wrong/less/whatever. All too often, the two tend to walk hand in hand. The more 'them' celebrates their uniqueness, 'us' takes offense and treats 'them' badly. Then it becomes 'ism' and wrong. The idea of reparation, while I appreciate the intent.......to ME, it only creates more 'ism'. At some point it becomes idealistic and unrealistic. For everyone, every single person that has been a victim, every group that has been victimized, there comes a point when individuals have to stop playing the victim card as an excuse for not taking personal responsibility. Where that line is, that is the gray area. I don't know where it is. I think, for each person, each group, maybe it's a very delicately individual thing. Even within the groups. Yet, is it realistic to attempt to make reparations, assist.........indefinitely? I don't think so. But.........there will always be those that, at some level, need it and perhaps even deserve it. There will always be those that fall through the cracks, get left out....unfairly. No matter how good the intentions. Also, there will always be people like myself, that despise the victim mentality. Usually based upon our own personal shit and determination to avoid BEING a victim and instead looking towards the future... as a survivor. Taking responsibility for ourselves, our lives, our future and the futures of those in our care. We cast aside the cloak of victim with distaste and disdain. Hating it as much for ourselves as others. Despising, even if unfairly, the sense of entitlement of those that continue to wear that cloak......often in our eyes....with pride. I am not saying that our mindset is correct or just.......it just is. I don't know the answers. I do think that we are evolving in a good way and hopefully our children, their children, and so on......will learn to cope much better with this issue than we have.
< Message edited by LaTigresse -- 10/5/2011 8:28:22 AM >
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My twisted, self deprecating, sense of humour, finds alot to laugh about, in your lack of one! Just because you are well educated, articulate, and can use big, fancy words, properly........does not mean you are right!
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