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AGE. Since weight is being done. - 5/25/2006 12:48:01 AM

Kedikat

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There are a lot of things you can change about yourself, if you really want to.
But time passes for us all. The numerical age cannot be changed.
But the number can be so meaningless in many ways. It isn't just how many years you have lived, but how you have lived them. How you live now.

A young one can have wisdom and there is no shortage of old fools. Couch potatoes come in all ages. I see some 15 years younger than I, that wear the years very badly. Some older that put Me to shame.

And the number of your years is no good indication of your agedness. But the number is used to filter out even a look.

Myself, I find I am out of My age range in so many ways. It seems to have been a continuing thread in my life, at most of My ages.

What reasons do we put to limit our choices as to age of possible partners?
Stability, or lack of it?
Possible material wealth level?
Physical match?
Experience, or lack of it?
So many things are thought to come or go with age. What might be the ones that make you seek an age range?

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RE: AGE. Since weight is being done. - 5/25/2006 12:49:59 AM

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My only real limit is on the low end so to speak. Immaturity. Yes granted that can apply to some 60 year olds but usually its them "youngins". Beyond that its just if we 'click'.

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RE: AGE. Since weight is being done. - 5/25/2006 1:04:08 AM

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My only real limit is on the low end so to speak. Immaturity. Yes granted that can apply to some 60 year olds but usually its them "youngins". Beyond that its just if we 'click'.

What would immaturity entail? There are different definitions. What is it for you?

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RE: AGE. Since weight is being done. - 5/25/2006 1:04:09 AM

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Be legal without being dead and you're in my age range.

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RE: AGE. Since weight is being done. - 5/25/2006 1:06:05 AM

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ORIGINAL: BitaTruble

Be legal without being dead and you're in my age range.

Celeste

Ahhh an ageless slut :) hehe

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RE: AGE. Since weight is being done. - 5/25/2006 1:21:02 AM

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ORIGINAL: Kedikat
What would immaturity entail? There are different definitions. What is it for you?

Lack of discretion. To much drama. Excessive anything, drinking, smoking drugs, sexual partners. Asking me for money to often (I'm not a sugar momma, lol). Did I mention discretion as I will do so again. I had a 21 year old girlfrined (femsub) for a bit until I found out she told a couple of her friends that the "lady in the big house on the hill" liked spanking others etc. They just need to know who they are, what they want, what they need and whether or not I am the right person for them. I don't mind directing and exploring with a newbie provided they have a bit of an idea what some of the core aspects are of alternative lifestyles.

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RE: AGE. Since weight is being done. - 5/25/2006 1:24:25 AM

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If i felt the control of someone, and felt the need to submit to it. It would be easier to submit to areas outside of sex to say a up to 50 yr old male body. Passed that, and im just not getting the warm fuzzies at the thought. But there is far more in the bag, than sex to this lifestyle. As a submissive, im not sure the age thing counts. My Dominant is in fact, chronologically younger than i. Yet does not seem to be the younger of the two. He is simply more mature and wise than i am. So i CAN submit. Not sure i could to someone i considered immature.
Maturity, is not chronolgically spaced out. Its how old you are emotionally. How many times has your soul been reborn. How peaceful with yourself you are. Its a matter of more than co-incidence, these qualities are less often found in 20 somethings.
When i think of myself at 20, i was unwise. Wisdom, and maturity go hand in hand with older.
Nicely.

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RE: AGE. Since weight is being done. - 5/25/2006 1:37:31 AM

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On immaturity.

I sometimes take a shot at it. Just to see if I missed something, or just want to try it again. Constant immaturity is annoying. Though I guess a real Daddy Dom might have use for it in a sub.
I might make some finer distinctions on the term. Say, inexperience in it's various forms, not really being immaturity. And that being linked to an aspect of age, as far as possibility to mature in a given time. Willful immaturity being ageless and very annoying.

one who can play at it, when the time is right............Mmmmmm yummy and spankings.

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RE: AGE. Since weight is being done. - 5/25/2006 1:48:53 AM

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quote:

On immaturity.

I sometimes take a shot at it. Just to see if I missed something, or just want to try it again. Constant immaturity is annoying. Though I guess a real Daddy Dom might have use for it in a sub.
I might make some finer distinctions on the term. Say, inexperience in it's various forms, not really being immaturity. And that being linked to an aspect of age, as far as possibility to mature in a given time. Willful immaturity being ageless and very annoying.

one who can play at it, when the time is right............Mmmmmm yummy and spankings.

Kedikat

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"emotionally immature adults" seems to best fit the Op. i suppose W/we'd need to define "adult" as well, in this age of extended adolescence. However, W/we can use the legal definition for liquor, which as far as i know, is 21 years old in most states.

i expect/enjoy/respect P/pl aged 21 for the playfulness, openess and enthusiasm they so often possess. Yet i find the self-same characteristics annoying in P/pl aged 40+. Not that T/they may not be playful, open or enthusiastic.....just in a way that differs from the 21 year olds and reflects some life experience.

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RE: AGE. Since weight is being done. - 5/25/2006 1:50:06 AM

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Kedikat,

This is an ever problematic issue for me, and I am greatful we have a thread on this, thank You. I will try to elaborate, as You had asked for details.

Age limit is 26-45 for the most part. In the 4 yrs I've been in the lifestyle I have found that those I have spoken with under 26 haven't had the maturity level I seek, ie: partying, casual sex, wreckless and immature behavior overall, if they hang out in the clubs, like raving, bar hopping, and like drinking, and rolling a joint, or worse, it's an immediate write off. Having a child in the home, I can't live with anyone who enjoys such behaviors.

Ideally, I don't really like going under 30 y/o, but I do make rare exceptions. I prefer men 30-45, but I have gone up to 50.
I find the Doms and subs in their 40's seem to be on My maturity level. The partying is over, the days of casual sex is a thing of the past for most of them. They know who and what they are, and want permanency in their lives. This is where the possibilities begin.

So many of the younger ones are still finding themselves. The one Dom I had in his late 20's was a sweet guy, but as an Alpha it just didnt' work for us . I won't say more, as I do respect Him. The other Dom who was 44 was more My speed.
For me, It's all about finding a partner who wants the same things, and is comfortable in their skin. If someone has to prove their Dominance, or indiscriminately throw themself at my feet promising me the world, no thank you, but I'll pass.
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RE: AGE. Since weight is being done. - 5/25/2006 2:00:37 AM

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To be honost, and although this may sound a bit freaky, I dont think I'd be able to play with anyone close to my mom's age. That said, the one I love to play with is about 17 years older then I am, so I dont think age is too much of a factor for me.

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RE: AGE. Since weight is being done. - 5/25/2006 2:02:46 AM

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When we first met, my Master woz twice my age plus 2 years

Age, persay, isn't really a factor i don't think. i think it's somebodys attitude and how they are. i like blokes to take charge naturally, and i think the older you are the more natural it just becomes, coz of dealing with people generally. And like at work, generally the older you are, the higher up you are in the pecking order and that.

And i think like MsMacComb BitaTruble and little1 said though, younger blokes are generally more immature, which is why i've always gone for older blokes (vanilla as well). i think more mature people are just more sincere, considerate and understanding - i know that's just generalising, and there's prolly some older people out there that are just as immature as blokes my age. but You asked for our opinions Sir, so there's mine for wot it's worth.

But at the end of the day, it can be irrelevant, coz you just do as you're told and try your best to be pleasing

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RE: AGE. Since weight is being done. - 5/25/2006 2:04:49 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: FloridaISIS

Kedikat,

This is an ever problematic issue for me, and I am greatful we have a thread on this, thank You. I will try to elaborate, as You had asked for details.

Age limit is 26-45 for the most part. In the 4 yrs I've been in the lifestyle I have found that those I have spoken with under 26 haven't had the maturity level I seek, ie: partying, casual sex, wreckless and immature behavior overall, if they hang out in the clubs, like raving, bar hopping, and like drinking, and rolling a joint, or worse, it's an immediate write off. Having a child in the home, I can't live with anyone who enjoys such behaviors.

Ideally, I don't really like going under 30 y/o, but I do make rare exceptions. I prefer men 30-45, but I have gone up to 50.
I find the Doms and subs in their 40's seem to be on My maturity level. The partying is over, the days of casual sex is a thing of the past for most of them. They know who and what they are, and want permanency in their lives. This is where the possibilities begin.

So many of the younger ones are still finding themselves. The one Dom I had in his late 20's was a sweet guy, but as an Alpha it just didnt' work for us . I won't say more, as I do respect Him. The other Dom who was 44 was more My speed.
For me, It's all about finding a partner who wants the same things, and is comfortable in their skin. If someone has to prove their Dominance, or indiscriminately throw themself at my feet promising me the world, no thank you, but I'll pass.
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A fairly broad age range. I notice the fact of having children in your life is an issue, as it should be. For Me it is somewhat an opposite issue.
Having children should impose a needed level of " maturity " upon your life. They also can be an outlet to enjoy immaturity with them. But it is of course a lifelong commitment to a solid base for them. I seek ones without dependant children, because even though I am generally mature, I allow My self more freedom and taking chances, than if I did have children. This makes a bit of imbalance in My numerical age, and My lifestyle age.

All My life I have sought friends and partners that are " mature " in some ways ( often beyond our years ), but "immature" in others, due to not having others dependant on a steady and secure life provided by me.

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RE: AGE. Since weight is being done. - 5/25/2006 2:09:50 AM

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Due to the situation of My Mothers life, I had to mature very early in many ways.
In My teens, this maturity let Me see the world clearly.
I was on My own at 15.
It worked out that I always took care of Myself and others, but continue to live in young ways.
So when I look at others numeric age, I always look more to their situation, actions, knowledge and experience to figure out how old they may be.

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RE: AGE. Since weight is being done. - 5/25/2006 2:31:58 AM

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ORIGINAL: Kedikat

A fairly broad age range. I notice the fact of having children in your life is an issue, as it should be. For Me it is somewhat an opposite issue.
Having children should impose a needed level of " maturity " upon your life. They also can be an outlet to enjoy immaturity with them. But it is of course a lifelong commitment to a solid base for them. I seek ones without dependant children, because even though I am generally mature, I allow My self more freedom and taking chances, than if I did have children. This makes a bit of imbalance in My numerical age, and My lifestyle age.

I want a partner who is mature, but who also has a wonderful sense of humor, and who can act like kid in a candy shop sometimes, full of wonder and mischief at time, if he can't interact with My child on his level, then no amount of maturity is going to be of benefit. I feel life isn't worth living if one can't enjoy it and have some fun along the way.

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Time for this gal to get some sleep. I'll be watching the thread later in the day.

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RE: AGE. Since weight is being done. - 5/25/2006 2:40:23 AM

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ORIGINAL: FloridaISIS

I want a partner who is mature, but who also has a wonderful sense of humor, and who can act like kid in a candy shop sometimes, full of wonder and mischief at time, if he can't interact with My child on his level, then no amount of maturity is going to be of benefit. I feel life isn't worth living if one can't enjoy it and have some fun along the way.

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Time for this gal to get some sleep. I'll be watching the thread later in the day.

"Wonderful sense of humor"
One thing that really bothers Me about text conversing is the pitfalls of trying to express humor. Especially dark or sarcastic humor. The tone of voice, the look in the eye, tilt of head and of course crooked smile is not present. And timing is completely shot. I try to tone down My humor online, to avoid the unintended insult so many take from it, and the total falling flat of a true gem :)

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RE: AGE. Since weight is being done. - 5/25/2006 2:41:59 AM

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ORIGINAL: Kedikat

Due to the situation of My Mothers life, I had to mature very early in many ways.
In My teens, this maturity let Me see the world clearly.
I was on My own at 15.
It worked out that I always took care of Myself and others, but continue to live in young ways.
So when I look at others numeric age, I always look more to their situation, actions, knowledge and experience to figure out how old they may be.

I think sometimes it's what stage in life they're at, rather than age.....For instance, it's a lot easier(without getting into sematics about irresponsible parents etc) for someone with children to understand the responsibilites, the joy, the pain, the guilt, the worry of it, than someone with none.

I lived for two years with someone 20 yrs younger than myself( I had four children and grandchildren) and although we certainly shared a similar outlook on LIFE ( principles, morals etc)...it was the stage part that ultimately ended the relationship as it was, although we remain close friends.

From my experience( and I'm aware that it is just that), I certainly find that it's just easier and more comfortable to be around someone that can relate more closely to me.

My daughter at 22 is a single parent and because of that is more mature in certain ways than her childless friends.....she had to grow up and deal with responsibilites that they haven't had to, and learn what it's like to have to put a small being before herself and all that it entails.

Certain types of life experiences will mature people in different ways ......rarely are we mature on all levels, whatever chronological age we are.

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RE: AGE. Since weight is being done. - 5/25/2006 2:47:03 AM

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A smart any aged person has it on a dumb any aged person. Young, old or in between.

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RE: AGE. Since weight is being done. - 5/25/2006 2:53:05 AM

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ORIGINAL: shivvy

When we first met, my Master woz twice my age plus 2 years

Age, persay, isn't really a factor i don't think. i think it's somebodys attitude and how they are. i like blokes to take charge naturally, and i think the older you are the more natural it just becomes, coz of dealing with people generally. And like at work, generally the older you are, the higher up you are in the pecking order and that.

And i think like MsMacComb BitaTruble and little1 said though, younger blokes are generally more immature, which is why i've always gone for older blokes (vanilla as well). i think more mature people are just more sincere, considerate and understanding - i know that's just generalising, and there's prolly some older people out there that are just as immature as blokes my age. but You asked for our opinions Sir, so there's mine for wot it's worth.

But at the end of the day, it can be irrelevant, coz you just do as you're told and try your best to be pleasing

My most passionate and intense relationship was at 30, with an 18 year old. Lasted 4 years. The only thing that finally killed it, was the inability of her to believe she was truly loved. Insecurity of not just youth, but of her past finally could not be overcome. It lead to insane jealousy in her. I wonder if another has found a way to solve it in her? I hope so.
Other than that, it was joy for us both. I enjoyed helping her grow in so many ways, even as she was My sub. At least she was better prepared for life in many ways after our relationship. I found we matched well in many aspects of age, and differed in complimentary ways in others.

At 16 I met a very submissive 17 year old. We were together 4 or 5 years. she was in a very big hurry to get old. I finally left her to find the life she wanted. I had a lot more to do in life.

So much more than the number of the years to consider.

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RE: AGE. Since weight is being done. - 5/25/2006 3:10:19 AM

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What reasons do we put to limit our choices as to age of possible partners? Stability, or lack of it?
Possible material wealth level?
Physical match?
Experience, or lack of it?
So many things are thought to come or go with age. What might be the ones that make you seek an age range?

When I come to think about it I don't really have a defined upper age limit, it's more to do with having things in common with a person and most of the time I have found I have more in common with my own age group than of someone who is 20+ years older than me. In saying that I can think of a guy who is 15 years older than me who I have a huge crush on but that comes from having lots in common with him and the fact he takes good care of himself.

I don't think I could have a relationship with someone 45+ because thats just getting too close to my parents ages and that just weirds me out too much.

The other thing that would put me off going out with someone older is I want someone who I feel comfortable taking home to meet my parents. I'm pretty close to my family and their approval is something that means alot to me, I want them to be able to get on well with my partner.

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