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RE: AGE. Since weight is being done. - 5/26/2006 7:26:56 AM

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When I was single, I had a ten year age limit. The reason for this came down to having experiences in common.

I'm a transplant to California, so I'm already dealing with cultural differences. I want someone that has similar tastes in music, that understands when I talk about things that were going on when I was in High School. People that were raised with the same goals and morals which tend to change from generation to generation. I've watched my mother's relationship with my stepfather go through this and it has at times added massive amounts of tension.

As a side comment: Before Master and I dated, he was dating a 21 year old (he was 36). She said, "It was so cold, stuff was running out of my nose". He asked, "Is that like Jethro Tull?" She asked, "The guy from Beverly Hillbillies?"

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RE: AGE. Since weight is being done. - 5/26/2006 7:58:05 AM

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As a side comment: Before Master and I dated, he was dating a 21 year old (he was 36). She said, "It was so cold, stuff was running out of my nose". He asked, "Is that like Jethro Tull?" She asked, "The guy from Beverly Hillbillies?"

ROFL that makes ME feel old :)

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RE: AGE. Since weight is being done. - 5/26/2006 8:12:24 AM

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Age is a factor for me; numerical age that is. I am just turned off by the the thought of being with a man more than 10 years my age. Just a personal preference of mine though.

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RE: AGE. Since weight is being done. - 5/26/2006 9:36:46 AM

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What reasons do we put to limit our choices as to age of possible partners?
Stability, or lack of it?
Possible material wealth level?
Physical match?
Experience, or lack of it?
So many things are thought to come or go with age. What might be the ones that make you seek an age range?

I am 25 but those who have taken any time to really talk to me have told me that I have 'wisdom beyond' my years, since I have expereinced and lived through so much, so my age isn't a factor to those who get to know me, I do know that a LOT of people I have talked to casually thing that a single mom in their 20s is not mature enough to have a child or that I can be as good of a mom as I am and find balance in all aspects of my life, but I do.

My preferance for partners has always been men who are older, after my exhusband that was cemented into me. 38 to 48 is about where I look, but I have talked to men a few years on either side if I see what I am looking for. Maturity, expereince, balance, stability, they know that the 'little things' mean as much if not more, etc. I have always gotten alogn with those who were older than myself, so it was a natural progression that I would be attracked to men who were/are older than myself. I want a man that I can be playing and roughhousing with children and that night go to the theatre and their won't be a fight or argument about going. Maturity and balance is a BIG think and from those I have encountered, men who are over 35 have that; they have been around long enough to see how the world really is and they know what is trully valuable in this world.

I can pass for 16 some days, so being 25 is not a big deal. Age is just like weight, its how you handle and carry it that really matters, if you dwell on something so trivial then you lose a lot in the long run.

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RE: AGE. Since weight is being done. - 5/26/2006 10:06:28 AM

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Is it possible that for some, but not all, younger ones with older ones, regardless of who has which role, the younger one is subconsciously using the other as a suppliment to a parent?

Just a thought.

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RE: AGE. Since weight is being done. - 5/26/2006 10:31:21 AM

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JuliaOceana made an interesting point. She mentioned her relationship with someone older and that had she stuck with it, she would have outlived him. So she thinks she'd like someone her own age. Now when I read this, I suddenly remember that statistically, women outlive men. So if I want someone to go through life with for a while longer, I should be with a man whos about 8 years younger than me! Perfect. LOLOL

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RE: AGE. Since weight is being done. - 5/26/2006 10:47:30 AM

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I'm not overly hung up on the age thing, but like the majority of the posters to this thread, I would certainly require that we have plenty in common. Chronologically speaking I don't have to be overly concerned with them being a whole lot older than I anyway, there aren't that many ancient sub/slaves out there..lol. Younger or a very close older, is likely better because if nothing else, I require stamina that will at least come close, if not match mine...even planting a garden, going on a poker run or zipping through a mall requires stamina (I knew what you were thinking..lol). I didn't however fall apart over the years and all the original equipment works just fine, so I do have a need for someone with "drive" (winks). Too young does tend to equate to a cultural difference, but much of that depends on their geographical location and how they grew up, aka life experiences, from what I've seen. We all have a bit of kid in us and I let mine out more often than many, it doesn't necessarily show immaturity, but it does show I like to have fun. I have met a few 30ish folks in the lifestyle that would probably have a connection, but much younger than that and I fear the differences in their "nilla" outlook would probably become an issue. Of course if some 20ish sub/slave wanted to try joining our family...you know...just as a scientific experiment..lol, who am I to say no. I fear however, in the end, it probably wouldn't work.

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RE: AGE. Since weight is being done. - 5/26/2006 2:05:35 PM

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Is it possible that for some, but not all, younger ones with older ones, regardless of who has which role, the younger one is subconsciously using the other as a suppliment to a parent?

Just a thought.

Considering the amount of hatemail and threats I get from daddydoms [and their 'little girls'], in my case, not a chance in hell that is true.

I seek someone that I have have intelligent conversations with and NOT have to dumb things down or act dumb myself which I have to do most of the time with men my age, its sad and sickening.

Besides, Mature men are sexy as hell. Sean Connery and other more 'mature' stars just keep proving my point.

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RE: AGE. Since weight is being done. - 5/26/2006 2:24:45 PM

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RE: AGE. Since weight is being done. - 5/26/2006 3:38:31 PM

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A lot of posts mention the ability to talk about the old days with someone. I find I seldom bother. I prefer someone who is interested in talking and thinking about todays things. Music is apart from this, as I find it timeless, it just has to be good.
I meet too many people of all ages that have no ability to carry on a decent conversation on a variety of subjects.
Mental couch potatoes.

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RE: AGE. Since weight is being done. - 5/26/2006 9:25:09 PM

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I want a partner who is mature, but who also has a wonderful sense of humor, and who can act like kid in a candy shop sometimes, full of wonder and mischief at time,

I also agree with so much of what Ladies Bladewing has said.
I'm 54 and usually date mentally mature 35-40 year olds. Although grumpy old men was a hit movie, I sure don't want to live with one. Although I've had the occasional fling with younger than that, the ones I've had, turned out to be more boast than anything else.
When someone emails me and tells me about taking me out in their 'expensive brand name car here ___________' to this 'outrageously expensive restaurant name here ________', and I don't even know this person. I know that they place their whole being on their $$ value, then I'm just not interested, no matter what age they are.
On the other side of the coin, I don't want all my meals coming from the dollar menu at a fast food restaurant either.
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RE: AGE. Since weight is being done. - 5/27/2006 7:03:41 AM

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Is it possible that for some, but not all, younger ones with older ones, regardless of who has which role, the younger one is subconsciously using the other as a suppliment to a parent?

Just a thought.

Considering the amount of hatemail and threats I get from daddydoms [and their 'little girls'], in my case, not a chance in hell that is true.

I seek someone that I have have intelligent conversations with and NOT have to dumb things down or act dumb myself which I have to do most of the time with men my age, its sad and sickening.

Besides, Mature men are sexy as hell. Sean Connery and other more 'mature' stars just keep proving my point.

Like I said... Some, but definately not all...

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RE: AGE. Since weight is being done. - 5/27/2006 11:18:21 AM

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Wow, this is a great thread, for I myself am actively looking for my D/s soulmate, and face this issue daily as I receive emails from men responding to my various personal ads.
I have gone on TONS of meet and greets, with a very open mind. I myself just turned 43, but I am a VERY young 43. Not in an immature way, but in other ways. I am very physically fit, and have an extremely high energy level. I love to do things, explore, learn, and enjoy life. I look much younger than my chronilogical age, in fact, about a month ago I was carded in a restaurant. I had kept an open mind on the age range, and have met with men as young as 26. The following have been my own personal experiences.
The younger guys just didn't interest me, not because of their age, but because of their life experiences. We just didn't have a lot to talk about. They were just coming out of school, no idea what they wanted to do for work, and either lived with parents, room mates, or had tiny apartments. For starters, they had nowhere to even play. The few times I did play with younger guys, they had no control over their sexual side, and very limited experience (if any!). Total turn off to me. I neither want to teach a top, nor fight one off because he just wants to get laid. My experience is they are too horny to take their time, they rush, they don't know what they are doing, and it has always been a very disappointing experience.
As for the upper age range, that has been all over the map as to whether it will work or not (for me). In short, my particular interest in D/s is mostly spanking, and spanking is a huge turn on. To say it plainly, I only want to play with partners that I would want to sleep with as well, whether it evolves into that or not. Most older men just do not turn me on, can't say it any plainer than that. I have found very few older men in the D/s lifestyle who have taken care of themselves, and the years show on them. I don't know why this is, as I am also dating from a vanilla site and there are tons of older men there that are in shape, athletic, and fit, etc, who love to get out and go! And it isn't just a physical thing, it is lifestyle too. Older men just cannot keep up with me. So, I have now listed my age range as about 35-45. Any younger, and we just don't click, any older and there is no attraction for me (usually). However, that being said, the love of my life was 48, but he was a young 48 who had stayed active his entire life.
So, just one girls experience and feelings on the age question. For me, I know what I like, I know what works for me, and I will continue to seek it out.
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