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RE: AGE. Since weight is being done. - 5/25/2006 9:14:22 AM   
redpetals


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Status: offline 		i have met some amazing men much younger than me..however the only man i have met who could dominate me is my  Master.
its been said before its not age but the experience makes the Master..yet  there will never be a substitute for real chronilogically aged wisdom.(is that a word?wheres my Master?) people really are like wines..the good ones get a rich bouquet and the bad ones just get stinky.
bottoms up..

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RE: AGE. Since weight is being done. - 5/25/2006 9:27:38 AM   
ADomDoc


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ORIGINAL: cuddleheart50
I like someone around my age, so we at least have some things in common, I don't think that someone 20 will have the same interests as me at 50...Just me.


I tend to agree ... it's hard to have a conversation w/ someone who has none of the same history.  I remember the 1st TVs, running boards, life before plastic, the worst of American racism & segregation.  A LOT has improved & changed.  I don't miss the bad stuff, but a lot of good stuff has been lost as well.

And while I filter out anyone significantly younger than myself, I also realize there are a few sincere younger subs who are really looking for an older 'daddy' mentor & Dom ... someone to teach them some of the good of the past ... and  someone who has some serious r/l experience as opposed to the same-age can't-possibly-be-experienced wannabes.  So I try to keep an open mind if someone younger hits on me. 

This in mind ... my last date w/ a 24 y/o (I didn't have any real hopes for it working) turned out to be the date from hell.  But I was going to visit that city anyway for a reunion w/ the Top Tops from the old days.  Figured she could prove herself in that environment.  At the end of the evening ... I dropped her off at her place & wished her well ... I didn't even want to go in and spend anymore private time with her.  Her immaturity was an embarrassment.

OTOH: the female subs of my age have not taken care of themselves & can't keep up with me -- they are generally morbidly obese (especially in San Antonio), have no interest in exercise, skiing, or any outdoors activities.  I have no interest in being stuck in the Little Shop of Horrors 24/7 w/ a blob that keeps screaming "feed me." 
The others consider themselves "expert shoppers" or "expert gamblers" ... and are only looking for someone else's money to burn because they've spent all of their own.  I'm generous w/ those I love but I'm not stupid -- I'm not giving a compulsive shopper or gambler a blank checkbook.

At this point, what attracts me most is intelligence, an open mind & a sense of humor in a sub/slave ... and that can come at any age. 

ADomDoc
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RE: AGE. Since weight is being done. - 5/25/2006 9:35:23 AM   
Dustyn


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Growing Old Is Mandatory.............

Growing Up Is Optional..........



*singing* I dun wanna grow up, I'm a Toys R' Us kid... *smirk*


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RE: AGE. Since weight is being done. - 5/25/2006 9:45:04 AM   
Evanesce


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Status: offline 		Age, for me, plays a factor in determining who I get involved with on a permanent basis.  It's not so much a number as it is a matter of energy levels.  I found, in my late 30's and early 40's, that the men I was finding around my own age were, for the most part, couch potatos.  I wanted to go out and live life, and they were happy with a bottle of beer and a television set.  They either couldn't or didn't want to keep up with me.  So I started seeing men in their late 20's-early 30's, and we were more compatible on most levels. 
 
Now, Master is a bit over nine years younger than I, and we're in this together for the long haul.  However, we do play with others, and I do enjoy playing with older men.

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RE: AGE. Since weight is being done. - 5/25/2006 10:09:24 AM   
truesub4u


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ORIGINAL: Dustyn

quote:

ORIGINAL: truesub4u

Growing Old Is Mandatory.............

Growing Up Is Optional..........



*singing* I dun wanna grow up, I'm a Toys R' Us kid... *smirk*






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RE: AGE. Since weight is being done. - 5/25/2006 10:57:42 AM   
LaTigresse


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ORIGINAL: Dustyn

quote:

ORIGINAL: truesub4u

Growing Old Is Mandatory.............

Growing Up Is Optional..........



*singing* I dun wanna grow up, I'm a Toys R' Us kid... *smirk*


 
Oh yeahhhhhhh!!!

Have I have mentioned the oh so very COOL  20"  talking Johnny Depp as Willy Wonka doll someone gave me the other day????

(edited cuz my fingers and my brain are having communication issuuuuuuuuues)


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RE: AGE. Since weight is being done. - 5/25/2006 11:14:42 AM   
agirl


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ORIGINAL: Proprietrix

On the upper end of the spectrum, I find other problems. I hope this doesn’t come across wrong, but I find myself very leery of the 60 year old person who claims life experience by reflecting back on 4 former spouses. It sends up a red flag that says "This person is unable to sustain relationships." When I hear the words "My 4th wife ….." I tend to put on the brakes. I’m even more leery if all the former spouses have passed away. It’s difficult when I see a pattern of death in your partners, to have any inclination to want to be the next partner. It could all be to unfortunate circumstance, but I’m content not taking my chances.

Really enjoyed that .... still laughing now. agirl

 





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RE: AGE. Since weight is being done. - 5/25/2006 11:36:55 AM   
rose442


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Status: offline 		What reasons do we put to limit our choices as to age of possible partners?
So that Wwe have what will please us. What will fulfill Oour needs.

Stability, or lack of it?
Stability is a big reason. If they are Immature and irresponsible, they will not have stability. And in my world I have to have a stable partner. One that knows who He or She is and how to do it.
 
Possible material wealth level?
That means nothing to me. I want them to know how to make money and how to keep it for NEEDS but I don't need or even want a wealthy roll in your $1000 bills in your bed, that is the play money in your pocket type person either. Yes I would like to work and earn money to be well off. And be able to leave my kids something to start off with but I don't want to marry or be in a starting relationship with someone that has loads of money. It would be a problem and get in the way of who the person truly is. 
 
Physical match?
Like I have stated before what someone looks like means nothing to me.It is what is in their heart and mind that is everything to me.

Experience, or lack of it?
That matters to me. (or it use to matter to me) I wanted someone that was older than me. I think I was looking for an authority figure. Not necessarily a daddy figure. But one I would look up to and learn from. One that would know about life and not be immature.

So many things are thought to come or go with age. What might be the ones that make you seek an age range?
When I was looking for a Dom, I was looking for One that was 35+. Because I wanted a Dom that had "life" experience. And I wanted Him to have a few years experience in the lifestyle. I don't have a number for years of experience because everyOone learns at a different rate. I just wanted them to know and have some experience. And have some smarts.
 
rose442

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RE: AGE. Since weight is being done. - 5/25/2006 11:45:43 AM   
VvShadowspawnvV


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Status: offline 		Taking the long-term view: the thought that even if we avoid unfortunate accidents and illnesses, our partner will - WILL - die 20 or 30 years before we do is unsettling.  When the very best case scenario is him living to 100... and that still leaves me 30 years alone... well, it would give me pause.  i don't know what i'd have done had this issue ever arisen with someone i truly loved.  As it is, Master is 39- six years older than i- and i have brief flashes of anger that we can not possibly have more than 65 more years together... (his grandma is 105 and spry, so i'm hopeful). 

becca

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RE: AGE. Since weight is being done. - 5/25/2006 12:27:08 PM   
genvieve


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Status: offline 		i am 22, my Dominant is 51.  His eldest daughter is only a year younger than me. W/we have been together for 2 years.
 
 
Now that you know my credentials?  Yes, there are times where O/our ages show and W/we just decide to agree to disagree.  Or i... gawd help me... really try to benefit from His wisdom.  It's not easy, W/we have rough times, just like any relationship.  But i do not believe that the majority of O/our problems have anything to do with the age gap.  i really don't.

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RE: AGE. Since weight is being done. - 5/25/2006 12:41:29 PM   
Kedikat


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Status: offline 		Generally the responses seem to be that age is a good indicator of possible compatiblity. Be it searching for younger, older or the same age.
An age range does usually create a set of expectations of what your situation might be. Your physical condition and type/level of physical  activity.  Expectations of how stable/unstable you might be in many areas.

I guess if one falls outside the norm of your age group in many ways, you had best make an extra effort to indicate it in the profile. Of course this will often never be seen, as age is one of the preview items, but at least ones looking for your age range will be enlightened that you may not fit. I should add yet more to it.

Longterm relationships do eventually suffer from a large age difference. People can match for some time, and then hit a very fast period of widening change in physical ability. I never expect one younger, to stay with Me as I become decrepit. I would be fine with a parting as still beloved friends, as I changed beyond compatibility too much. I would appreciate the time together. And hope she would carry good memories with her. However, many seek a till death, as they cycle through wrong choices on their way to death. Lucky ones find a life partner. I will take the one I may find and enjoy whatever time we have together.

Ideally I will find one in My age range, that is also out of My age in the same ways I am. Till then, I will look at many ages as possible matches.

A lot of great replies to the thread. Thanks folks.

Of course threads repeat in themes. But new people come to the forums, and people come up with new thoughts on old subjects.

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RE: AGE. Since weight is being done. - 5/25/2006 12:42:09 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Evanesce
I do enjoy playing with older men.



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RE: AGE. Since weight is being done. - 5/25/2006 9:27:27 PM   
jezabelKH


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ORIGINAL: VvShadowspawnvV

Taking the long-term view: the thought that even if we avoid unfortunate accidents and illnesses, our partner will - WILL - die 20 or 30 years before we do is unsettling.  When the very best case scenario is him living to 100... and that still leaves me 30 years alone... well, it would give me pause.  i don't know what i'd have done had this issue ever arisen with someone i truly loved.  As it is, Master is 39- six years older than i- and i have brief flashes of anger that we can not possibly have more than 65 more years together... (his grandma is 105 and spry, so i'm hopeful). 

becca



becca-the-cute

i have to agree. the thought of Master being 47, me being 36 and tinkerbell being 38 although not a huge difference it is still a difference. as Master always says "I may be getting older, wiser.....but I refuse to stop having a childs heart". but what i am worried about is Master and tinkerbell living long past me, for i am very ill....worries about this all of the time. take each breath as if it is the last one and make every word count.........and just live.

jezabelKH

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RE: AGE. Since weight is being done. - 5/25/2006 9:47:23 PM   
akisha


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Status: offline 		I admit i have an age range i tend to stick within, but if i meet someone that is younger or older then my range I don't automatically dismiss them. If we have lots in common or a connection then it's worth looking farther into.

I've always perfered older men to younger men. Too young and i feel like teacher and well eww (for me anyway). Men way older then myself (20yrs older and up)  i tend not to gravitate towards because well it feels wierd for me. I can't say why exactly but I have yet to find one that I could see spending the rest of my life with.

But really my ideas and feelings change and grow all the time so who knows what my minset will be in 6 mos or 6 years. There are lots of things 5 years ago i said i'd never do and now quite enjoy lol The joys of always growing and learning i guess.

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RE: AGE. Since weight is being done. - 5/26/2006 12:02:14 AM   
becca333


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Status: offline 		My first Dom was more than 10 years younger than me.  I had a real problem with it, he didn't.  And once we got together the age thing ceased to matter. 

I wouldn't want a Dom too much younger than me.  Don't have an upper age limit, really - although he'd need to be fit and energetic.

Age is nowhere near the top of the list of important features.

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RE: AGE. Since weight is being done. - 5/26/2006 12:41:28 AM   
Evanesce


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ORIGINAL: Evanesce
I do enjoy playing with older men.



...aww


Oh, stop pouting.  I didn't say "exclusively."

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RE: AGE. Since weight is being done. - 5/26/2006 1:02:15 AM   
Kedikat


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ORIGINAL: FloridaISIS

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ORIGINAL: Kedikat

"Wonderful sense of humor"
One thing that really bothers Me about text conversing is the pitfalls of trying to express humor. Especially dark or sarcastic humor. The tone of voice, the look in the eye, tilt of head and of course crooked smile is not present. And timing is completely shot. I try to tone down My humor online, to avoid the unintended insult so many take from it, and the total falling flat of a true gem :)


Kedikat,

From Your words and profile I can tell You are a very deep, caring man.
As for bridling Your sense of humor, what do we tell our subs---be yourself. Don't suppress who you truely are, as long as You're words aren't spoken with the intent of putting someone down, I say f--k 'em if they can't take a lil humor. It's a character flaw on their end, not yours.

I love Your profile and posts. So please carry on and enlighten us more.
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Blush...
Thankyou. But that is more than I deserve.  As far as deep and caring.....I think age is quickly creating a crabby opinionated geezer here :) Enlighten you more???? Oh crap, I hope you are kidding. I can't take that kind of pressure.
Waaaaaaait a minute! Is this that sarcasm that I said was hard to get across? Good one :)

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RE: AGE. Since weight is being done. - 5/26/2006 2:29:43 AM   
RavenMuse


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ORIGINAL: BitaTruble
Be legal without being dead and you're in my age range.


Love it

Personaly I have a prefrence for a younger sub/slave but simply because I have found the right level of dynamic far more often with a younger girl. Doesn't mean I totaly rule out an older girl if I happen to meet the right one and what I am looking for is there, but it isn't where I have been specificaly looking.


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RE: AGE. Since weight is being done. - 5/26/2006 4:32:00 AM   
littlesubjess


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Status: offline 		My last Dom (who was also my first ever Dom) was 59 years old.

My current Owners : Master is 59 and Mistress is 53.

I am 20 years old ... and very happy.

jess xxx

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RE: AGE. Since weight is being done. - 5/26/2006 7:26:35 AM   
spectreandnectre


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Status: offline 		i once dated someone 14 years older than i was and found alot of differences in our backgrounds and i am not so sure i would want to go that route again.  But that said i would have to say a few years older than (maybe 5 or so) and younger isnt that big of an issue although at 36 i am sure i wouldnt enter a long term relationship with a young childless early twenties man.

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