Proprietrix
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Most of the time, I leave the age range open. I’m not a stickler for age because, as the OP stated, it’s more about life and how one lives it. However, I’m not blind to the fact that life experience can only be gained by having lived. It stands to reason that a 50 year old has at least 30 more years of living under their belt than a 20 year old. But, that 20 year old might have been out there in the world gaining experience, while the 50 year old might have been very sheltered and hiding from life.
Most of the lower ages that I eliminate are more due to future goals. I’ve already had and raised my child. I’m really not interested in starting a relationship with someone who’s looking forward to having babies and experiencing parenthood. I will never be doing any child bearing for any man… ever. Not many people around 19 & 20 years old are ready to make a commitment that eliminates the possibilities of parenthood, carrying on the family name, etc.. And at 19 or 20 years old, I wouldn’t expect someone to make that kind of commitment. But they can be a great play partner.
On the upper end of the spectrum, I find other problems. I hope this doesn’t come across wrong, but I find myself very leery of the 60 year old person who claims life experience by reflecting back on 4 former spouses. It sends up a red flag that says "This person is unable to sustain relationships." When I hear the words "My 4th wife ….." I tend to put on the brakes. I’m even more leery if all the former spouses have passed away. It’s difficult when I see a pattern of death in your partners, to have any inclination to want to be the next partner. It could all be to unfortunate circumstance, but I’m content not taking my chances. I also find a lot of the older men (usually above 50), are seeking the lovey-dovey monogamous coupling model of a relationship. Since I’m more poly oriented, that just doesn’t work for me, especially if I’m being made to feel like they are trying to mold me into their former wife of 30 years who recently passed away.
On either end of the spectrum, I’m not fond of the generation gap. I’m 32. That means I’m going to reflect back on the 80s a lot. It’s difficult to do this with someone born in 1985. I’m talking about how that song was playing on the radio the night we sneaked into the school gym, and his/her reply is "yeah, I was being potty trained that year." It’s a conversation killer. Same on the other end. I can’t relate well to someone who is reminiscing back on Woodstocks, flower-power, and the Kennedy assassination. When they say "Where were you when Neil Armstrong took that step?" and my reply is "In my mother’s ovary." It’s a bit of a conversation killer.
Overall though, I’m more about variety in life, which is one of the many reasons I prefer poly. I don’t believe one person can "be all". I’m perfectly content to have a household filled with loads of people from all different age ranges. (As long as at least one of them knows how to cook!)
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IMO, IMHO, YMMV, AFAIK, to me, I see it as, from my perspective, it's been my experience, I only speak for myself, (and all other disclaimers here).
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