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RE: House Rules - 11/2/2011 8:53:29 PM

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And the only house rule I have is that the kittehs rule the house!

Love me, Love my cats......

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RE: House Rules - 11/2/2011 8:57:27 PM

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yeah, the bracelet bit seems odd... like... it just makes me feel like it's a world of peepees and whoowhoos, and we don't talk about messy stuff like that.
don't tell me you have diarrhea, just wear this snazzy bracelet...

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RE: House Rules - 11/2/2011 8:58:39 PM

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I'm going to assume you're either really young and/or you've been reading too much porn and got lost in fantasyland.

Did you recently read the "109 Rules" on a bdsm website somewhere and now you think this is something you have to do because you have a slave?? Honey, the person who wrote those rules lives in the same fantasyland as you.

Next time you read CastleRealm, remind yourself that it's only for people who play dungeons and dragons in their mom's basement.

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RE: House Rules - 11/2/2011 9:01:46 PM

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Fair enough, I was hoping for some actionable items. Things that based on the list one could reasonable infer and make suggestions. Or ask questions.

"your to do list needs to read something like A,B and C"
"I tried the morning bj thing and one morning she bit it off"
"Why does she write POMS"

But for my part, I guess I was quick to try and narrow your comments. So keep um coming...

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RE: House Rules - 11/2/2011 9:01:46 PM

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Soul2Share, cats are the ultimate Dominants. Try to tell them what to do, and they just look at you like, "Bitch, please!"

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RE: House Rules - 11/2/2011 9:05:54 PM

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quote:

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Fair enough, I was hoping for some actionable items. Things that based on the list one could reasonable infer and make suggestions. Or ask questions.

"your to do list needs to read something like A,B and C"
"I tried the morning bj thing and one morning she bit it off"
"Why does she write POMS"

But for my part, I guess I was quick to try and narrow your comments. So keep um coming...

Alright, shorten the list, be a little bit more reasonable and less, lacking a better word, structured. Let the relationship breathe.

If I was looking into a relationship with someone and they presented this list, I would feel that they couldn't be pleased. That I would fail, so I wouldn't go any further.

Plus, the list makes you seem cold.

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RE: House Rules - 11/2/2011 9:07:06 PM

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We did give you advice. Drop the list and have a relationship with a person and not a fantasy role.
If it's meant to be it will naturally flow into a d/s relationship.
I suspect that those who have tried this with you have burned out. It was exhausting just reading it.
It's also much more satisfying when someone does wonderful things for you not because it's on a scripted "to do" list, but because they want to serve you.

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RE: House Rules - 11/2/2011 9:07:58 PM

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Not into micromanagement shit. That is a fuck of a list .. and let alone I couldnt even read it ... let alone follow it.

BORING >>>!

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RE: House Rules - 11/2/2011 9:08:09 PM

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The bracelets started after I learned all about crones disease one afternoon. And I'm not a gamer. But anyhow, if the thread is officially catjacked, I'm out. Thank for the feedback all.

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RE: House Rules - 11/2/2011 9:08:35 PM

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i can assume POMS = "property of master s___"

i've thought about protocol and whether or not it would benefit me, though i've never had the opportunity to live it and find out for sure.

however, this list just seems mechanical and distant.

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RE: House Rules - 11/2/2011 9:14:44 PM

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I am super confused about people who ask questions and then get upset at the answers.

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RE: House Rules - 11/2/2011 9:21:51 PM

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it's called attention seeking and bragging about what came up with as rules thinking everyone else would see him as some kind of amazing genius dom for them lol.

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RE: House Rules - 11/2/2011 9:28:38 PM

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Huh, there we go with the value judgments again. Anyhow, moving on...

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RE: House Rules - 11/2/2011 9:30:39 PM

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did you come up with the brown bracelet for a specific girl who had Crohn's disease? or are you just worried about possible Crohn's in the future?

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RE: House Rules - 11/2/2011 9:33:44 PM

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The last girl had it (this is her list). I did not know what it was before I met her. After I learned, I wanted to make sure I never had to repeat that experience. So...

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RE: House Rules - 11/2/2011 9:34:11 PM

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Soul2Share, cats are the ultimate Dominants. Try to tell them what to do, and they just look at you like, "Bitch, please!"

And I have 5 of 'em! Well, one's just a beebee, so he's sort of a "Dom-in-training"! I only hope he doesn't pick up KB's habits.....he's the Dom in this household.....and I am one well-trained sub!

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RE: House Rules - 11/2/2011 9:36:20 PM

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The list was a codification of a relationship that had grown naturally for months. Before I let a girl move in and go 24/7 though, I want to make sure neither of us has any mistaken ideas, hence all the paperwork. The list was different for all three. Though it did share several items.

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RE: House Rules - 11/2/2011 9:37:38 PM

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<snip, since you said you had different lists each time.>

you may not have another girl with Crohn's and you might get more "huh?" responses like you've gotten here.
personally, i have a pretty fickle tummy myself -- it's got issues, but i would rather be able to talk to my M about that as an adult, instead of having to broadcast it in bracelet code, you know?
the same goes for periods, or headaches, or poison ivy, or any other issue that might crop up.

that said, some people DO enjoy and thrive under different varieties of micromanagement, and there's nothing wrong with that. some Ds are very into it, including installing GPS devices on their s-person's car, or tracking their cell phone. so if you are into micromanagement, don't feel bad about that -- it's really no more weird than any other kink people engage in.

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RE: House Rules - 11/2/2011 9:42:43 PM

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quote:

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The list was a codification of a relationship that had grown naturally for months. Before I let a girl move in and go 24/7 though, I want to make sure neither of us has any mistaken ideas, hence all the paperwork. The list was different for all three. Though it did share several items.

Why can't you both just talk to each other...ya know...develop a normal relationship like two normal people who like and want to get to know each other on an intimate basis....or is this more of a business arrangement type of relationship? If so then by all means, have fun.

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RE: House Rules - 11/2/2011 9:45:07 PM

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well he said it grew naturally for months, which makes me think they did get to know each other like normal people, and he just wanted to jot some stuff down for when they "made it official" and moved in together.

people into micromanagement don't necessarily try to bypass normal rules for human engagement...
that's like the assumption that subs who like micromanagement must be stupid because they can't take care of themselves. =p

normal human relationship development and micromanagement relationships aren't mutually exclusive.

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