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Degragation/pain slut - 12/7/2011 8:05:12 AM   
stacey4u2luv


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How many have experienced pain sluts that just do not cry no matter what, even tossing in all sort of degradation. Now i understand quite a few of Sadists love tears. How important is tears to you? To what extremes would you go to create tears. Yes, you could keep pushing limits etc... and totally enjoy doing that too. But, what else would you do besides degradation, beatings etc... to create tears if it were important to you. Of course no inflicting permanent marks etc... more along the lines of mental is what i mean here. Other means of getting inside someones head without causing mental damage along side with a beating or other possibilities.
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RE: Degragation/pain slut - 12/7/2011 8:06:47 AM   
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Make him/her cut onions for me. I hate cutting onions.

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RE: Degragation/pain slut - 12/7/2011 8:12:56 AM   
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What the hell does damaging someones sense of self have to do with BDSM?

Once again Stacy ----> the more you write, the more foolish, IGNORANT and out of reality you seem.

quote:

Of course no inflicting permanent marks etc... more along the lines of mental is what i mean here. Other means of getting inside someones head without causing mental damage along side with a beating or other possibilities.


And how the hell does that work? Causing someone emotional distress without causing mental damage? I always figured people that were into extreme humiliation were mentally fucked up in the first place.

Are you okay dear?

< Message edited by JanahX -- 12/7/2011 8:20:02 AM >


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RE: Degragation/pain slut - 12/7/2011 8:16:17 AM   
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Leaving me would reduce me to tears pretty fast.

Other than that, let me just say that if your sadist can't make you cry then she doesn't know what she's doing. Besides, my job is to please her, if my tears please her I wouldn't try hold them back. Making HER happy is my focus.


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RE: Degragation/pain slut - 12/7/2011 8:16:27 AM   
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Well she does say "without causing mental damage"...

The truth is, stacey, none of us know enough about what's hiding in your brain, what skeletons you have in your closet, what would reeeeally set you off. All anyone could tell you is "this is what makes me/my s-person fall apart" -- but what good is that going to do you?

Do you want titillation? Or what?

Have you ever tried a sjambok?

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RE: Degragation/pain slut - 12/7/2011 8:19:58 AM   
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quote:

Make him/her cut onions for me. I hate cutting onions.
Actually if you pop them in the freezer for about 5 minutes before you cut them they won't make your eyes water. Cheri showed me that.

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RE: Degragation/pain slut - 12/7/2011 8:23:00 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

Make him/her cut onions for me. I hate cutting onions.



Onions, yeah i really hate cutting onions too. They never without fail get to me.

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RE: Degragation/pain slut - 12/7/2011 8:23:49 AM   
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For me, tears - or no tears - aren't crucial. Getting inside her head, however, is.

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RE: Degragation/pain slut - 12/7/2011 8:27:30 AM   
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I've never met a gal I couldn't make cry.
Are you kidding me-I'm a guy who likes blowtorches.
Of course they weep and moan and make those mewling capitulating sounds.


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RE: Degragation/pain slut - 12/7/2011 8:30:01 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: LillyBoPeep

Well she does say "without causing mental damage"...

The truth is, stacey, none of us know enough about what's hiding in your brain, what skeletons you have in your closet, what would reeeeally set you off. All anyone could tell you is "this is what makes me/my s-person fall apart" -- but what good is that going to do you?

Do you want titillation? Or what?

Have you ever tried a sjambok?

quote:

sjambok


No cannot say that i have tried sjambok, looked it up however. Which one do you use the plastic or the one made of hide?

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RE: Degragation/pain slut - 12/7/2011 8:30:59 AM   
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Well, if they had been good girls, they may have fared differently, but you can't really avoid your moral obligation to torture women, it intimates a lack of character on your part, really. 

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RE: Degragation/pain slut - 12/7/2011 8:31:03 AM   
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Try the opposite if she's used to extreme pain. Long, slow, sensual while blindfolded and at the end look into her eyes. Sometimes tenderness will achieve what harshness won't.

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RE: Degragation/pain slut - 12/7/2011 8:40:42 AM   
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I think many pain sluts cry a lot but they do not want you to interpret crying as a bad thing. Pain is very cathartic and the emotional release is intense. They cry long before they reach a limit. That said, your question is different and here's one experience that I had with a women who absolutely did not cry no matter what.

I had a wonderful relationship with a pain slut but it was a challenge and it had a sad ending. She would act bratty in hopes that this would get me to punish her more severely. She would never cry and never use a safe word to help manage how much pain was inflicted. For her, orgasms were difficult to achieve without intense pain. To make things more complicated, she made her living as a stripper and she could not work if she had marks on her body. But, she would not protect her need to work and I had to make sure that I left no marks that would last too long or be too obvious.

I learned to modify her bratty behavior with bondage that was comfortable but inescapable. I would enjoy myself around the apartment without touching her and I would make love to her gently instead of rough. I needed to be very careful about bondage because she would try to choke herself out if there was any possible way to do this. Believe it or not, that cured the obnoxious attitude that she would try out on me once she learned that I knew that pain was always a reward for her.

She was very open to public degradation but I think that was different from the pain for her. She was an attention whore as well. Frankly, she would call my bluff and do things in public that called too much attention to us. I think that she enjoyed shocking me in this way. For example, she once had me write "Whip Me" on her ass in big black letters before we went out to a party. She wore a mini-skirt and would flip up her skirt to show this message to my friends. I learned that some fantasies can get awkward if you know what I mean! I still have a picture of that.

She was a very strong-willed, very intelligent woman who was a dominant lesbian. She spotted submissive strippers easily and took advantage of those opportunities. But, for some reason, she submitted to me and I was very lucky for it. I got to know her well and she never cried no matter what - even when discussing very difficult experiences from her past.

She started taking pain killers without my knowledge as a way to handle even more pain. She got addicted to a prescription pain killer. I got her into rehab and she moved away from New York. I lost touch with her and I wish I knew if she was doing OK today.

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RE: Degragation/pain slut - 12/7/2011 8:42:28 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: stacey4u2luv


No cannot say that i have tried sjambok, looked it up however. Which one do you use the plastic or the one made of hide?


My friend has a plastic one. Hide ones are difficult to import, and since the traditional hide for them, as far as I understand, is hippo -- well hippos are endangered, so I'd rather not have someone poach an endangered animal for my kink.

A little flick of the wrist and it goes straight to your bones. They're awesome.
But the dude you play with better have an idea of what he's doing with it. They take practice. You can break skin and bones easily with those things; they were most notoriously used during apartheid for riot control, but were used by indigenous people to fend off aggressive wildlife, blah blah blah...

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RE: Degragation/pain slut - 12/7/2011 8:47:03 AM   
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I am beginning to think that Mazterlock and Stacey might be a match made in heaven. Seriously.

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RE: Degragation/pain slut - 12/7/2011 8:49:11 AM   
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quote:

She was a very strong-willed, very intelligent woman who was a dominant lesbian.


You had a relationship with a dominant lesbian huh ....



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RE: Degragation/pain slut - 12/7/2011 8:50:46 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: JanahX

quote:

She was a very strong-willed, very intelligent woman who was a dominant lesbian.


You had a relationship with a dominant lesbian huh ....



My mentor way back when was a les Domme. I'd call that a relationship if for no other reason than we were best friends in addition to being teacher/student.

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RE: Degragation/pain slut - 12/7/2011 8:52:30 AM   
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Actually, I'm starting to think that stacy is looking for wank fodder after her post about the hair/wart removal balm and how "hot" the story was that she needed to post it. 

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RE: Degragation/pain slut - 12/7/2011 8:52:34 AM   
stacey4u2luv


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Mazterlock

I think many pain sluts cry a lot but they do not want you to interpret crying as a bad thing. Pain is very cathartic and the emotional release is intense. They cry long before they reach a limit. That said, your question is different and here's one experience that I had with a women who absolutely did not cry no matter what.

I had a wonderful relationship with a pain slut but it was a challenge and it had a sad ending. She would act bratty in hopes that this would get me to punish her more severely. She would never cry and never use a safe word to help manage how much pain was inflicted. For her, orgasms were difficult to achieve without intense pain. To make things more complicated, she made her living as a stripper and she could not work if she had marks on her body. But, she would not protect her need to work and I had to make sure that I left no marks that would last too long or be too obvious.

I learned to modify her bratty behavior with bondage that was comfortable but inescapable. I would enjoy myself around the apartment without touching her and I would make love to her gently instead of rough. I needed to be very careful about bondage because she would try to choke herself out if there was any possible way to do this. Believe it or not, that cured the obnoxious attitude that she would try out on me once she learned that I knew that pain was always a reward for her.

She was very open to public degradation but I think that was different from the pain for her. She was an attention whore as well. Frankly, she would call my bluff and do things in public that called too much attention to us. I think that she enjoyed shocking me in this way. For example, she once had me write "Whip Me" on her ass in big black letters before we went out to a party. She wore a mini-skirt and would flip up her skirt to show this message to my friends. I learned that some fantasies can get awkward if you know what I mean! I still have a picture of that.

She was a very strong-willed, very intelligent woman who was a dominant lesbian. She spotted submissive strippers easily and took advantage of those opportunities. But, for some reason, she submitted to me and I was very lucky for it. I got to know her well and she never cried no matter what - even when discussing very difficult experiences from her past.

She started taking pain killers without my knowledge as a way to handle even more pain. She got addicted to a prescription pain killer. I got her into rehab and she moved away from New York. I lost touch with her and I wish I knew if she was doing OK today.




OMG, this is me to a T haha minus the Dominant of course.

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RE: Degragation/pain slut - 12/7/2011 8:54:54 AM   
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*Ahem* Well... +1 to Janah then.

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