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LillyBoPeep -> RE: Online domination (12/13/2011 7:23:18 AM)
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A lot of them are.
A lot of online presences aren't real in any way; they're a front for something else -- a guy with a wife and 2.5 kids misrepresenting himself because he can't get what he wants in his real life, or he lacks a feeling of power in his real life, and he goes online to try to slake it.
A guy who pretends to be women in order to interact with other guys, for what? To avoid acknowledging that he might not be straight (god forbid!)?
Or people who just poke around and act silly online to see what they can get other people to do. They like to jerk other people's feelings around, or they just want to live out fantasies online without any intention, or any ability, to move beyond there.
There are a lot of people with very strange ideas about kinky folk, particularly submissive women -- that we're all oversexed, desperate, dragging our tongues on the ground after any guy who points and says "Kneel Bitch!" Pfft.
I got a message yesterday that just said "I am going to ask you several questions; it is not your place to know why I am asking blah blah blah" -- I read it via the WONDERFUL hover feature that C-mail offers, and the first question was something sexual, and the whole attitude of the email was repulsive to me anyway, so I deleted it.
And yeah -- the guys without a functioning webcam, or who "don't have something to write with" or whatever -- they want you to jump through all sorts of hoops, but they aren't willing to prove their own identity with the same veracity. They have no pics whatsoever, but say "send me more pics," or "i'd like to see more of you" -- so? Since when is that my problem? :p
And you've got to love the dudes who claim there's some unwritten code of honor that all "real Doms" follow, and try to set themselves off from other wankers by saying that they follow it. Someone who is "well respected" in my local community was pulling that shit online, which is why I don't buy the whole "douchebags will weed themselves out in person" line of thinking -- no they won't. If they're predatory, they tend to have a way of insulating themselves with a circle of people who are hypnotised into believing they're decent guys. That's what this guy did. There's a concept called "Predatory Leadership" that people need to become more familiar with before they try to set up the "real-life community" as some sort of litmus test of a person's goodness.
You've basically learned the first lesson of being a girl online.
Hooray!
Hope you enjoy collarme.
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