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OttersSwim -> RE: Girl Scout troops disband over admittance of transgender child (12/24/2011 3:38:54 PM)

It is important to understand that there are males who dress as females as part of a kink rather than as part of a personal identity.   The folks who are trans more often than not, are not dressing for satisfaction of a kinky desire, but rather as an expression of authenticity and self.  Now, it may be that one or more of the guys you ran in to are trans...in kink settings I wear the short skirts and high heels too, but it is rarely sexual.  It is simply how I feel more comfortable, how I see myself and how I identify.




tazzygirl -> RE: Girl Scout troops disband over admittance of transgender child (12/24/2011 4:19:24 PM)

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I get that they are feeling repressed, what I don't understand is gender identity. I haven't found an explanation of it yet that I've been able to wrap my head around.



What Causes Gender Identity Disorder?

The exact cause of gender identity disorder is not known, but several theories exist. These theories suggest that the disorder may be caused by genetic (chromosomal) abnormalities, hormone imbalances during fetal and childhood development, defects in normal human bonding and child rearing, or a combination of these factors.

Children with gender identity disorder often display the following symptoms:

Expressed desire to be the opposite sex (including passing oneself off as the opposite sex and calling oneself by an opposite sex name).
Disgust with their own genitals (Boys may pretend not to have a penis. Girls may fear growing breasts and menstruating and may refuse to sit when urinating. They also may bind their breasts to make them less noticeable.)
Belief that they will grow up to become the opposite sex.
Rejection by their peer groups.
Dressing and behaving in a manner typical of the opposite sex (for example, a female wearing boy's underwear).
Withdrawal from social interaction and activity.
Feelings of isolation, depression, and anxiety.


http://www.webmd.com/sex/gender-identity-disorder

Causes, incidence, and risk factors

People with gender identity disorder may act and present themselves as members of the opposite sex. The disorder may affect:

Choice of sexual partners

Display of feminine or masculine mannerisms, behavior, and dress

Self-concept

Gender identity disorder is not the same as homosexuality.

Identity conflicts can occur in many situations and appear in different ways. For example, some people with normal genitalia and sexual characteristics (such as breasts) of one gender privately identify more with the other gender.

Some people may cross-dress, and some may seek sex-change surgery. Others are born with ambiguous genitalia, which can raise questions about their gender.

The cause is unknown, but hormones in the womb, genes, and environmental factors (such as parenting) may be involved. This rare disorder may occur in children or adults.

Signs and tests

The feeling of being in the body of the "wrong" gender must last for at least 2 years for this diagnosis to be made. A history and psychiatric evaluation can confirm the person's constant desire to be the opposite sex. The person's partner choices may be same sex or opposite sex.


http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmedhealth/PMH0002495/

Dont feel alone GS, even the experts arent sure of the cause. The treatment involves years of counseling. Imagine this...

Treatment

Individual and family therapy is recommended for children. Individual and, if appropriate, couples therapy is recommended for adults. Sex reassignment through surgery and hormonal therapy is an option, but identity problems may continue after this treatment.


Definitely a rough road.




tweakabelle -> RE: Girl Scout troops disband over admittance of transgender child (12/24/2011 5:44:39 PM)

Tazzy I'd like to add two items to the above, if I may:

Under symptoms:
There is no indication of the presence of any other diagnosis/disorder ie. outside of their issues around gender, TG children are 'normal' in all other respects; and

Under general:
Transgender is a two-way street. There are lots of biological females who 'choose' to live as males, usually referred to as Female-To-Males (F2Ms) as well as the more well-known Male-To-Female (M2Fs).




tazzygirl -> RE: Girl Scout troops disband over admittance of transgender child (12/24/2011 5:58:47 PM)

I think the FtM is easier, honestly. Not too many people think much wrong with a woman dressing in mens clothing.




Aswad -> RE: Girl Scout troops disband over admittance of transgender child (12/25/2011 12:32:56 AM)

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ORIGINAL: kdsub

My whole point was the difference in physical abilities that manifest itself in the military as well as the Scouts…As well as a difference in mind set in general.


You're overgeneralizing.

I've met a female marine ranger, and there's no kind of allowance made for gender there.

You either make the cut, or you don't, and that's down to will and performance. Expect the women to strip alongside the men for interrogation resistance testing, hypothermia tolerance testing, and so forth. Out of some 50'ish candidates per batch, almost all withdraw from the marine ranger course before selection even commences. The Norwegian MJK (marine ranger corps), HJK (army ranger corps) and FSK (commando unit) are certainly on par with US Navy SEALs. And the FSK is the only unit that no woman has qualified for yet.

A particularly memorable demonstration had a woman from the medical corps in the unit. Pulled a 'wounded' soldier out of the line of fire, assessed the 'severity', got him onto her shoulders and carried him as they did a standard leapfrog back and then ran for the evac point in heavy terrain, providing accurate sidearm fire with her free hand in the process. That is with a standard 60 pound backpack (aeromedical detachment).

Note that these are deployed on the front lines. Infantry. Cavalry. Air force. Navy. Medical. Rangers.

Several women have joined Telemark Battalion, fully aware that this will result in combat deployment on foreign soil. Many will need to supplement the training with their private time in order to increase physical performance, and they do so, because that's what it takes. Some actively seek a career in the military, including front line service, with the major difference being that most who don't go for a commission will tend to quit prior to 35 years of age in order to have children while still able to do so. Some return afterwards. Most encourage their daughters to consider it (arguably, the experience is valuable).

Even the Navy hasn't proven to be problematic. If memory serves, one of our submarines is presently commanded by a female Vice Admiral, and there are women on several of our vessels, including the ones handling Somali pirates at the moment. The Air Force is probably the closest you'll get to a problem, and that's largely because we have a fairly small compliment of planes (some 57 pcs F-16), making the requirements to get in exceptionally high. Still, our female pilots dropped about 200 bombs in Libya (6% of the total NATO offensive there).

It's not a question of gender when gauging merit.

What matters is: can you do the job?

More men than women can, but that does not licence disqualifying the women that can, any more than qualifying the men that can't. The same thing should go for the scouts, police, fire brigades and other demanding positions. There's nothing to lose and everything to gain from paying attention exclusively to merit, making sure the best person gets a demanding position.

The difference in mindset is at least partially based on culture, and there is no reason to preserve an element of a culture when it has become counterproductive. And, arguably, it has. We are not suffering a population shortage wherein women are required to replenish it, and most women will take a break from their careers to have a child or two anyway, so you're not going to see any losses from encouraging them to be all they can be.

Women don't generally do well with lesser men, and so it is intimidating to some when women stand up straight and reach out to fulfill their potential as completely as any man. As far as I'm concerned, it's high time, a selection pressure that forces men to be more, or fall by the wayside. Whoever is intimidated by that prospect is obsolete and will be culled from the gene pool as an inferior specimen as the species improves. Weak men are there to be snacks, not to make babies.

The scouts will adapt or die, like any institution, and it would be perfectly logical for them to split along activity lines, rather than gender lines. That would also help the transition along, and probably make the issues referenced in this thread substantially less problematic. In my experience, kids are quite able to handle concepts that their parents find problematic to deal with. If that results in bullying, then that's dealt with the same way any bullying is: (1) teach the target to stand up to it, (2) have the strong protector types in the bunch step up to the plate of taking care of 'their' people, and (3) have the adults intervene with expulsion where these measures are insufficient to curb the failure of the bullies to integrate well.

It's scouts, not rocket science.

Health,
al-Aswad.

ETA: Four pages went by. Sorry about the late arrival.




Real0ne -> RE: Girl Scout troops disband over admittance of transgender child (12/25/2011 5:35:00 AM)

gender has evolved far beyond simply whats between ones legs and rightfully or wrongfully is much more so defined by presumed roles and expectations of the social mob.






GotSteel -> RE: Girl Scout troops disband over admittance of transgender child (12/25/2011 5:44:57 AM)

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ORIGINAL: tazzygirl
Here in PA, we have many, even Jewish one And Christian as well.
http://www.camppage.com/summer-camps/coed-camps/coed-camps-tristate.htm

I'm aware that such things exist like I said, and I also passed a number of co-ed hiking trips this year and like I said the co-ed thing didn't seem to be a problem. That said all the hiking trips I saw and those camps were run by payed staff as opposed to dads who got volunteered. Which make them much different from my scouting experience.

I suspect from the sort of examples that you're providing that your Girl Scout experience involved much less frequent camping as well as more and higher quality supervision.







xssve -> RE: Girl Scout troops disband over admittance of transgender child (12/25/2011 6:54:50 AM)

I dunno, I'm actually with Kalico here, how in the hell does a 7 year old know what they want or who they are? Could be a phase, so my assesment would be let him act like a girl, join the girl scouts, but I'd postpone the surgery.

Thing is, Boy Scouts and Girl Scouts have their origins in the whole 19th century, gender/sex obsession, like the YMCA, it's a form of indoctrination, and that where the parental involvement comes in, the kids probably wouldn't give a shit either way - we had some weird ones in my troop, nobody got all uptight about it.

Course back in the day, all the gender nazis here would have been firmly considered the lunatic fringe in the conventional wisdom of the time, it's an outdated concept now, called "letting people live their own lives", and it never seemed to cause any particular problems for "society" or anybody else, everything just kept rollin' along.

I'd say try the Sea Scouts or Explorers, they seem less patently "Christian" paramilitary organizations, and more about the whole gettin' along with mother nature thing, which is very good experience for a child of any gender or gender orientation.




DaddySatyr -> RE: Girl Scout troops disband over admittance of transgender child (12/25/2011 7:12:03 AM)

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ORIGINAL: xssve
I'd say try the Sea Scouts or Explorers, they seem less patently "Christian" paramilitary organizations, and more about the whole gettin' along with mother nature thing, which is very good experience for a child of any gender or gender orientation.


I'm not positive but, I'm pretty sure that Explorer Scouts is for young uns that want to go into law enforcement as adults. I'm almost positive the curriculum is geared almost exclusively toward that.



Peace and comfort,



Michael





tazzygirl -> RE: Girl Scout troops disband over admittance of transgender child (12/25/2011 7:26:51 AM)

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I dunno, I'm actually with Kalico here, how in the hell does a 7 year old know what they want or who they are? Could be a phase, so my assesment would be let him act like a girl, join the girl scouts, but I'd postpone the surgery.


There is no surgery until around 20.




xssve -> RE: Girl Scout troops disband over admittance of transgender child (12/25/2011 7:36:23 AM)

K, I'm not gonna get any further into that issue gender identity, it's just that if I recall, isn't usually a thing high on the list for most 7 year olds, I think they're typically sort of oblivious to the whole business other than the usual peer pressure till puberty hits - before that they're all kind of asexually amorphous, so really, I'm basically wondering why a 7 year old even has an opinion on the subject.




xssve -> RE: Girl Scout troops disband over admittance of transgender child (12/25/2011 7:37:30 AM)

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ORIGINAL: DaddySatyr

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ORIGINAL: xssve
I'd say try the Sea Scouts or Explorers, they seem less patently "Christian" paramilitary organizations, and more about the whole gettin' along with mother nature thing, which is very good experience for a child of any gender or gender orientation.


I'm not positive but, I'm pretty sure that Explorer Scouts is for young uns that want to go into law enforcement as adults. I'm almost positive the curriculum is geared almost exclusively toward that.



Peace and comfort,



Michael


Didn't know that, I thought they were EMT's.




tazzygirl -> RE: Girl Scout troops disband over admittance of transgender child (12/25/2011 8:00:55 AM)


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ORIGINAL: xssve

K, I'm not gonna get any further into that issue gender identity, it's just that if I recall, isn't usually a thing high on the list for most 7 year olds, I think they're typically sort of oblivious to the whole business other than the usual peer pressure till puberty hits - before that they're all kind of asexually amorphous, so really, I'm basically wondering why a 7 year old even has an opinion on the subject.



Its simply that the believe, to their core, they are not the sex they were born into.

Children with gender identity disorder often display the following symptoms:

Expressed desire to be the opposite sex (including passing oneself off as the opposite sex and calling oneself by an opposite sex name).
Disgust with their own genitals (Boys may pretend not to have a penis. Girls may fear growing breasts and menstruating and may refuse to sit when urinating. They also may bind their breasts to make them less noticeable.)
Belief that they will grow up to become the opposite sex.
Rejection by their peer groups.
Dressing and behaving in a manner typical of the opposite sex (for example, a female wearing boy's underwear).
Withdrawal from social interaction and activity.
Feelings of isolation, depression, and anxiety.


http://www.webmd.com/sex/gender-identity-disorder




xssve -> RE: Girl Scout troops disband over admittance of transgender child (12/25/2011 8:14:01 AM)

Those all sound like symptoms of sexual abuse as well, it's basically called abuse because they aren't ready to deal with yet, physically or emotionally, it just ain't on the agenda, it's premature, out of sequence.




tazzygirl -> RE: Girl Scout troops disband over admittance of transgender child (12/25/2011 8:27:53 AM)

You may want to talk to OttersSwim about all this. She is the first poster on this page (9) and her profile is quite enlightening on this subject. Assuming that something like this is the result of abuse shows much education on this topic is needed.

According to ego psychology, gender identity develops early in childhood and normally solidifies by age 2.5 years.

Please, dont make assumptions about sexual abuse.




xssve -> RE: Girl Scout troops disband over admittance of transgender child (12/25/2011 8:52:41 AM)

I'm not making assumptions, literally, these are practically the same criteria used to identify sexual abuse, but I don't know the kid or anything about him, or her, whatever - it's his problem, not mine, so I got no dog in that fight, I'm inclined to let a kid be a kid, and gender roleplay in general is part of being a kid, and ultimately, I think the GS oughtta lighten the fuck up - i.e., everybody has to grow up to form adult relationships at some point, whatever they look like, so if somebody already messed with their head, I see nothing to be gained by messing with it further.

Sexual abuse is not the only diagnosis for social withdrawal after all, I'm not trying to say that.




xssve -> RE: Girl Scout troops disband over admittance of transgender child (12/25/2011 9:00:43 AM)

And there are broader issues to consider, it is suspected that hormones in the food are forcing puberty earlier than might otherwise occur, gender identity will be solidified earlier - the tendency is gonna be there, but most people postpone the actual decision till the moment, others continue to play both sides.

Stress can do the same thing, i.e., early puberty, and clearly, there a lot of people stressing over the subject, and we live in a high stress culture already.




xssve -> RE: Girl Scout troops disband over admittance of transgender child (12/25/2011 9:03:26 AM)

i.e., whatever the reason, the GS making such a BFD about it probably ain't helping, it can definitely be construed as a distinct form of of psychological sexual abuse in and of itself.




OttersSwim -> RE: Girl Scout troops disband over admittance of transgender child (12/25/2011 10:16:38 AM)

You know, I agree that at age 7, I could not be trusted to select my own lunch or dinner...just like any other kid.  However...inside me, there was something that was distinctly different, and at the time felt "not right" - at home, in school, with the other kids.   As I said before, I knew it with a certainty that is exactly the same today - some 40 years later. 

In 1973, the concept of Gender Identity Disorder or gender therapy did not exist in most of society.  So I got punished to keep me (openly) away from the girl things...and I got a Big Brother - a manly man who took me hunting and fishing.  I had a very traumatic childhood, being a single child living alone with an alcoholic parent, and my experience turned totally upside down at age nine when that parent died and I was shunted from relative to relative and finally to a foster home.  So yes, I had abuse...not sexual, but traumatic.  It did not create in me the difference that today we call being transgendered...it did however, really confuse things so I was unable to express it, deal with it...and it generally really made it suck even more than it should have/could have.

It was still there when I turned 18 and was out on my own and ready to put a name to it and try come to grips with it.  Nearly 30 years later, I finally feel as if I have arrived at a livable conclusion.  It has been an underlying driving focus of my entire life.  It never was a phase, it has never gone away for even a second. 

There are children out there who are self identifying today in a way that I tried, but was never allowed to.  I have to say that I am happy about this and I hope their parents will be supportive in what can only ever be a difficult path to self and authenticity.   I am pleased to see that the GS has taken such an open stance on the issue, and not surprised to see some of their members object to it.  We still have a distance to go.




xssve -> RE: Girl Scout troops disband over admittance of transgender child (12/27/2011 12:53:57 PM)

I posted this in "what determines gender, but it really belongs here:

I did get this thread confused with the girl scout thread, similar issue, with the distinction of what causes it vs. how to deal with it.

The junk DNA hypothesis has been demonstrated in plants, and in humans, at one stage of fetal development the fetus develops gills, meaning that DNA is in there somewhere - it just appears in the working DNA at one point, then swapped out again, probably because the fetus is already being supplied with oxygen via the umbilical cord - but the implication is there's a lot of stuff in the genome besides working DNA, the dormant DNA possibly has all kinds of things in it.

The social stress on gender identity and roles is such that it constitutes an environmental stressor, social stress has physiological consequences, it can suppress some traits, promote others, including intelligence and aggression, post gestation.

To me, it's really just a question of how much and why, and how to act.

I suppose what I'm doing is rejecting the whole notion of Cartesian dualism, i.e., framing it as nature vs. nurture, because nature is nurture, and nurture is nature, they're far more intertwined than formal logic traditionally credits, social environment has physiological effects.

Talk about making your head spin, but androgyny seems to be be a common theme in fin de siècle era's - the Twenties for example, not the exact end of the century, but the end of particular set of economic realities, a shift from a rural agrarian economy into an urban industrial one that is still going on, with a whole new shift from industrial to post industrial - i.e., the ecosystem, both social and physical is changing, farming is terraforming, so is urbanization and industrialization and we are adapting to it - gender role has less utility when manual labor and/or physical strength is not such a critical factor, but it has traditionally been a critical factor for so long that it's not likely to just disappear. i.e., physical strength, as symbolic of masculinity is relegated to a fetish of sorts, the social junk DNA, but a fairly powerful one, and not entirely obsolete - but there are and will be strength worshipers - symbolized by the Bull - from the Bull of Heaven to the Golden calf to the Bowling Green Bull, binary sexual roles are a significant aspect of that, as breeding itself, including selective breeding is central to pastoral economics, as is herd behavior. It's largely a set of pastoral values, and will always be preserved as a social stressor - it's part of us and it might come in handy again.

Metaphorically speaking, we are one big organism, with a multiplicity of interrelated functions, and right now were undergoing a shift, we're reformulating our associations and roles - we recently turned the corner, and over 50% of the global population is now urban, and in evolutionary terms it's mostly about what traits are most useful under the current set of environmental stressors, what works now as opposed to what worked yesterday, it's a dynamic universe.

And in many ways, the BDSM community is sort of in the thick of finding ways to continue to relate to each other in spite of a myriad of distinct and different values and strategies, and I think the idea of sexual mutability probably offers a great deal of utility, without forcing everybody to do the same thing, whether you're firmly in one camp or the other.

i.e., I'm with Aswad, there are things to love about men, even an element of sensuality and eroticism, but I like pussy, and I'd rather fight than switch - I'm just not going to tell you what to do with your junk, right?

Statistically, the incidence of intersexed individuals socially or physically remains pretty small, so again, the "threat" of accepting it, which implies it might become so common as to threaten the overall process of reproduction is mostly hysterical and imaginary, might even be a good thing, a more benign sort of Malthusian correction than mass starvation or pandemic.

i.e., we could probably stand to turn the birthrate down a notch, without getting too fascist about it, till we sort out the resource situation, population density is a stressor too.




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