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ORIGINAL: seababy
What triggered this post -
1. I noticed a Dominant posted on another thread the comment that someone's actions indicated that they were submissive in nature followed by a sentence stating that they had no good sense/conscience at all. Overall my interpretation was "your life is in disorder which is a dead give away submissive trait."
( I may have my interpretation incorrect on this comment as there was a typo in the sentence that made the meaning slightly unclear.)
I was the person who made that post.
Firstly: I am not a dominant. Nor am I the archetypical submissive. I am something other. And in my model of the human mind genuine submissives and dominants are not less than me, but other.
Secondly: My comment was specific for the person addressed, who is - according to my best fit - in a particular part of the submissive spectrum.
Thirdly: My life probably is in a worse state of disorder than his.
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ORIGINAL: seababy
2. My previous experience when I was looking for a Dom; The few that showed interest spoke to me as if I was a special needs child.
This was despite the fact that I had a successful well paid career, was fit, and had an ordered healthy life with loving relationships with family and friends. Some I spoke to had dead end jobs or were unemployed, unfit, and seemed socially isolated. Despite this they had no feelings of disconnect in their confidence to competently take over directing my life as they saw fit.
Many of us, on this website, are special needs people. We seek that which makes us whole.
Whether someone is competent in taking over and directing your life, is for you to decide. Generally, though, the genuine dominants will be affluent and have their lives in order.
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ORIGINAL: seababy
how many Dominants think that a person who identifies as submissive is a submissive because they lack something essential needed to be considered a healthy functional adult?
I do not consider either, if genuine, as complete. Nor am I myself complete. We each lack what one of the others has in abundance.
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ORIGINAL: seababy
Is my experience relatively isolated?
I suspect that it is not.
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ORIGINAL: seababy
Is there a higher percentage of people lacking lifeskills who identify as submissives compared to the general population that lack life skills?
I suspect so. But like squares and rectangles should not always be regarded as the same thing, neither should people who lack lifeskills be confused with submissives.
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ORIGINAL: seababy
Is there just as many Doms without lifeskills and the only difference being that a submissive may be alot more likely to admit it than a dominant personality type?
Doms are likely to lack something other - and not be aware of it. It is quite difficult to become aware of a lack. For example: I was eight years old before I noticed that my siblings perceived the color of a towel differently from me. I passed the color vision test of the military with flying colors. And I was in my thirties when I first definitely became aware that I had some kind of color blindness as yet unknown to science.
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ORIGINAL: seababy
Is this all bollocks and I just managed to interact with the spectacularly clueless?
No, it is not bollocks. Or do you think that any of us on this website is 'normal'?
< Message edited by Rule -- 1/3/2012 10:36:03 AM >
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), but this is an interesting topic so I thought I'd sacrifice some of my considerable celebrity and take a series of unpopular stands on it. After all, what is life without good enemies, right? 
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