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femdomlover72 -> RE: My fantasy, now a reality... (1/4/2012 3:14:37 PM)
You are right and I have decided to take it. I just like to express what I go through and maybe get some wisdom from this forum. I have a lot going through my head right now, and advice is welcome. searching4mysir, to me money is one of the strongest sources of power for anyone, especially a slave. If you are not willing to give your money to your Mistress/Master then you are not willing to relinquish total control. That is not for everyone, and I understand that. It is hard to describe the feeling of completely depending on your Mistress, even to eat. Everything I make or own is Hers, and I ask for permission to use any money. I am Her total slave, and I wish to be that. I don't mind Her harsh words, I don't mind humiliating treatment, I just want Her to care for me. I find a satisfaction in giving all to Her that money never has given me. I don't mind giving Her my money, I relish it.

lizi -> RE: My fantasy, now a reality... (1/4/2012 3:23:28 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: femdomlover72 She owns me completely, all my money already belongs to Her. Sigh, Dude, really? In her eyes you are a meal ticket, yes, of course she's not treating you well, you haven't made it clear that you won't stand for that- people treat us how we allow ourselves to be treated. You can call it all the lofty names you want, you are ruled by your dick and you're letting it control you. You're jumping at little signs that she's into you like a high schooler because you're hoping it's not the money that you're bringing to the table, but it is. If it wasn't you'd be living this fantabulous life as her slave without having to hand over your money. If I am in a relationship then I expect it to fulfill my needs or it isn't something I am interested in keeping. If I am paying for a service then it should fulfill my needs or I will take my money elsewhere or do without. You are not in a relationship here, and you are indeed still paying for a service that isn't working for you on many levels. Being a one-off paying customer probably got you more for your money. Seems like you're getting the short end of the stick. SalingBum was right, you're trying to convince yourself this is ok, when it's clearly not. I'd go back to being a paying customer and getting what I wanted while being able to keep most of my cash to live on instead of losing everything I make and getting a half-assed situation out of it.

searching4mysir -> RE: My fantasy, now a reality... (1/4/2012 3:31:19 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: femdomlover72 searching4mysir, to me money is one of the strongest sources of power for anyone, especially a slave. If you are not willing to give your money to your Mistress/Master then you are not willing to relinquish total control. That is not for everyone, and I understand that. It is hard to describe the feeling of completely depending on your Mistress, even to eat. Everything I make or own is Hers, and I ask for permission to use any money. I am Her total slave, and I wish to be that. I don't mind Her harsh words, I don't mind humiliating treatment, I just want Her to care for me. I find a satisfaction in giving all to Her that money never has given me. I don't mind giving Her my money, I relish it. Maybe I'm not slave-y enough, but I won't hand over my money unless I am positive that the person I'm handing it over has OUR best interests at heart (mine AND his). To do anything else is, in my opinion, foolish. The only reason you eat is so that you can hand over more cash to her through being able to work. That's the only reason you have a roof over your head as well. It isn't because she has your best interests in mind, but because you make a better paypiggy that way. This being said, it sounds as if you are happy being unhappy and used at her whim. Go for it. But what happens if you get ill and cannot work? Will she keep you around? Has she provided for your future for when she tires of you? Somehow I doubt it.

stellauk -> RE: My fantasy, now a reality... (1/4/2012 5:05:16 PM)
Please forgive me OP, but if you were actually so much a total slave you would not be in a position to start this thread, nor have your account on CM, nor even get anywhere near a computer. There are slaves for whom the TPE relationship is that extreme that they have little or no contact with the outside world. I feel for you. I really do. You have missed the entire point it seems of these sorts of relationships and I for one feel that it is because you have missed this point you now find yourself in your current predicament. Know the mind of your Dominant This really is the bottom line. It doesn't matter how attractive or 'hot' your Mistress is. It really doesn't. It doesn't matter how many slaves she can get. It doesn't matter what a slave 'should' be or not. There is no 'should', there is only what is, and what isn't. We can come back to the classic example of a slave being like a car. If you own a car you expect to be able to use it as and when you like. You expect it to function within its full potential, for the engine to start up, and for it to do what you wish. But there's a certain responsibility to owning a slave which is no different from owning the car. You have to put the right gas in, you have to ensure that the oil is changed, that there's tread on the tyres. The same goes for a slave. You have to take care of your slave, ensure that they can maintain their physical, emotional, and mental health. There's no doubt quite a number of dominants who would love to have a 24/7/365 slave, but not all those who do are in a position (for whatever reason) to handle the responsibility. But a slave isn't a car. A slave is different. A slave is a human being, and thus a slave is also responsible. Not even 24/7/365 TPE enslavement absolves a slave completely of responsibility. I guess your situation comes down to the very essence of what life is all about. Life isn't about money, nor is it about what we say or what we think, life is about the decisions we take, the choices we make and what we do as a result. That is what shapes our lives. I write this because in reading this thread I get the feeling that this is something you don't fully grasp or understand. Maybe I am wrong in my superficial understanding of your life and your situation, but this is the impression I'm getting. You are responsible. Right from the moment you were born you are responsible. Every thought, every feeling, every word you have ever spoken, every decision you have taken, everything you have done. You are responsible. You are responsible for your own happiness. Irrespective of what happens now or how this situations pans out, you are responsible and twenty years down the line you will still be responsible. What's more, you will be held responsible by others whatever happens now and in the future. So what is going to happen if the situation changes, and gets worse? Think about this. You're a slave to a female dominant, a male slave. She's young, she's hot, she gets what she wants. But there is something else which you might also not have considered. There's a lot of female dominants out there who don't have a submissive, let alone a slave. There's a lot of female dominants out there who are alone, without anybody, and when they go to bed, that bed is empty, cold and lonely. Arguably more so than a male dominant, and perhaps because she's a woman, a female dominant changes as she gets older, she matures, and her needs, wants and desires change with the passing of the years. You have already written that she shares a lot of your kinks and stuff, but you know, this is now. What about later? There's something very particular about the dynamic between a female dominant and a male submissive, a basic incompatibility which can make this particular dynamic more of a challenge. Quite often the kinks and interests of a male submissive are stable, they can remain the same for years. But the interests and kinks of a female dominant can change and fluctuate as quickly and suddenly as her moods. You are her 34/7/365 male slave. When she does change, and grows wings, and wants to fly - will you be able to keep up with her. You can see it for yourself, you have yourself told us already that she has changed in certain aspects in the relationship and these are things which you have been forced to accept. Trust me, it's not going to get any easier for you, nor will it become more compatible. There's a lot of female dominants out there who are alone, and even more male submissives who are also alone, and this is because the dominant outgrew the submissive in the relationship, the male submissive or slave was no longer as compatible, and she moved on. Just like she will probably move on one day. Then what will happen? What will your life be like? How will you live? These are things I suggest you think about. Deeply. You are responsible.

straponprincess1 -> RE: My fantasy, now a reality... (1/4/2012 5:15:54 PM)
I hope you continue to find happiness through submission

Lockit -> RE: My fantasy, now a reality... (1/4/2012 5:22:35 PM)
I don't see what he is doing as submission. I see what he is doing is fulfilling his fantasy and fetish and enabling his own insecurities and dysfunction. Thus he must have a beautiful dominant... one who is more princess demanding than dominant. I don't see her as dominant or responsible from what I have read. But that's just my take on it.

femdomlover72 -> RE: My fantasy, now a reality... (1/4/2012 6:39:26 PM)
Damn, harsh words, but I accept them all. I asked for it. I don't pretend to be a selfless individual, no, I admit I serve Her because she satisfies needs in my life. I get fulfillment by serving Her. If that makes me selfish then so be it. Why does anyone serve then? Because they hate themselves and want to suffer by doing shit they don't enjoy? I think not, on some level anyone who is a slave is so because they get something from it. Everyone is like that I believe, and I am no exception. I don't see how fulfilling your fantasies is wrong. Far more than a princess, my Mistress is a very skilled Domme who used my fantasies to craft me into Her slave. Before meeting Her I sessioned with several Dommes, and Her sessions are superior to anything I experienced before by far. stellauk, I am allowed by Her to have a CM account. In fact She allows Me to do several things online for Her. She knows that I need an outlet for My feelings and would rather me rant on here than tell Her. I am really trying to know Her mind. In order to do so I ask Her dozens of questions, trying to know Her more, learn how She thinks, what pleases Her. I have discovered that too many questions pisses her off so I try to watch Her actions, remember Her words. So that I know what She likes and what She is interested in. I literally spend the entire day thinking about Her on some level. She inspires me to push myself farther, to do things I wouldn't have otherwise. In many ways I feel like I am living what many people dream about. Sure, not everything is how I want it, but it is not about what I want. It is about what She wants. I am not trying to absolve myself of any responsibility. I know I put myself in this. This wonderfully scary, and at times painful existence I am now experiencing. I think everyone responding has assumed I am completely unhappy with this. That is not the case. I am very happy with it in many ways. Yesterday was a harsh lesson to me and I was simply remarking on the fact that just because your fantasy is fulfilled doesn't mean that everything is going to be pleasant. I accept it, but I don't like it. I have discovered that I am not gonna like everything about this life, but to me the pros outweigh the cons. You said there are alot of Dominants that have cold and lonely beds, maybe because they ignore too many subs online, or maybe they just aren't trying hard enough. I have tried for so long to find a Domme, and it has been very difficult. To find one you are compatible with, who is willing to explore the kinks you have, who is interested in keeping you as Her slave is rare. To me there is nothing better in this life than Dominant Women, but it has been my experience that they are very difficult to find and even more difficult to connect with. You are right, She will move on one day. Nothing lasts forever, I have learned that lesson well. That does not stop me from striving to make it so, but I have found that all things, beautiful and ugly come to an end. Rather than lament that I am trying to enjoy everyday I am blessed to have Her in my life. I am afraid that day may be drawing near. I have dealt with severe losses like this before, and I know it will hurt very much. I know I will survive, but I don't look forward to it. This has worked out better than I hoped. Gaging the response I am starting to believe I am alone on this forum in my beliefs about Female dominance. I believe that Women are better than men. I believe if you want to be a personal slave then you give everything of yourself to your Mistress. You hold nothing back and you accept Her for both Her strengths and faults. I believe the word "no" is something that should be rarely, if ever used to your Mistress. You should be prepared to accept any treatment from Her as long as you want to serve Her, and if you are not ready to accept something then you should move on. I never said I didn't agree with that, only that I am not ready to move on. That said, some things about this relationship are hurtful, but just because it hurts doesn't mean I want to end it. I feel alone in these beliefs here. I really thought there would be more subs that shared these views on Femdom, and I am glad for the alternate points of view.

CaringandReal -> RE: My fantasy, now a reality... (1/7/2012 12:26:23 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: femdomlover72 ...my living situation is something that I never expected to become real, and I feel it is ultra rare for someone to have their dreams come to life. Hi there, femdomlover72. I can strongly relate to your situation and you are very right. This sort of thing is ultra rare. quote: I have discovered that there is much more to the reality than the fantasy, things that aren't going to be fun, exciting, or pleasant. I don't feel like I will ever find myself in such a situation again, and I don't want to ruin it by complaining about the things that don't add up. Pain of all sorts is part and parcel of being a slave. Without it, it is hard to know who we really are. In a certain sense, that's a thrilling discovery, isn't it? :-) It was for me because it told me, in no uncertain terms, that what I was experiencing was real. Real enslavement, not a role-play pretense where I get all my fantasies fulfilled. Painful, difficult, but deeply inspiring reality is so much better than dull pleasant fantasies where everything goes our own way. Instead, things are going her way and you must simply comply. The rarity of your relationship, in my eyes, is not the beauty of your mistress, however stunning she may be, it's in her Reality. quote: As a slave I feel I have no right to complain. I should only serve. Absolutely correct and a very good attitude to have, in my opinion. This is a very basic premise but it can be so hard to carry out in real life, especially when one becomes panicked or scared. quote: There is another part of me that wants to say something when things don't add up. By "add up" do you mean things are not fair? Or do you mean something is confusing you? If you mean the first, well, if you are a slave, then in my opinion you really shouldn't be adding things up. This isn't a relationship of equals where you give X and expect Y back in return. Adding it up, keeping tabs, keeping score will just bring you misery, because things are not going to equal out. And of course that's the whole point of enslavement. It's deeply unfair--and that is its beauty and it's intense appeal...for some of us. If you mean the second, and you are genuinely confused then, if you are permitted to do this, very respectfully and very carefully ask your owner a question in a way that indicates that you do not blame her, that you are not implying dissatisfaction or restlessness, but that you are curious to understand how certain things work so that you may serve her better. Being curious is no crime in a slave, as long as questioning is done in a respectful manner and as long as questions are welcomed. I’m wondering from everything you’ve said, however, if you may be denied questions because you ask the same one over and over but refuse to accept the answer? quote: Is it wrong to question things? For Her it is, and I am more prepared to accept unpleasant truths, than I am prepared to be without Her. Well, to tell you the truth, there is sincere honest questioning and then there is "my evil mistress won't do things my way and I will show her with my questions how unfair she’s being to me." Do you see what I mean? Which one of these is you? Of course, if she doesn't want you doing any sort of questioning then you have your answer. If you really care about serving her above all else, then just don't ask questions. Why? For the simple reason that it pleases her when you do not. quote: I am more prepared to accept unpleasant truths, than I am prepared to be without Her If you are truly prepared to accept unpleasant truths rather than be without her then be quiet, be still, and warmly embrace those truths that she gives you, even if they hurt. Learn to love the cruelties she bestows upon you, see them clearly as the gifts that they truly are. Realize how lucky you are and strive to love her more and you less. Even if it’s not reciprocated, strive to love her more. quote: I suppose what I am not happy with is the idea that I can be replaced so easily…Part of me says I am making a mountain out of nothing, another part says to me "no, you got a glimpse of what She really thinks." And if that part is right, is it wrong of Her? Why shouldn't She be able to do or say anything She wants. I liked this a lot. It suggests that you are working through the idea of being replaced easily and are learning to accept it. The truth as I have experienced it is this: if you are enslaved to the right person, someone who really knows how to master you, you can be replaced easily because such a person is very strong and committed to being a mistress/master. They do not allow affection or other emotional ties to prevent them from doing the right thing. And sadly, sometimes the right thing to do with a slave is to dismiss them. These aren’t romantic relationships in the conventional sense, you know. I personally find the fact of my easy replacement a comfort. I'm not the pampered, loved little pet that he cannot give up. I'm always the supplicant, always the one who needs him more than he needs me, always the one who has to watch her step not to displease him to the point where he might no longer want me. This feeling of being absolutely helpless and vulnerable before him is very important to me. It confirms that I really am a slave. quote: I knew Her for one week, she said she was leaving out of state, and I begged Her to let me follow. She agreed, and I have been Her slave ever since. Very few people would be willing to pull up roots and follow someone after only knowing them a week. I'm not surprised you've been a special slave to her since then. It's hard to find the level of loyalty, dedication, devotion, courage, and willingness to take risks that you demonstrated. You suggested by your actions that you were worth owning. quote: Until a month ago, she would call me and confide in me at times. She has let me know more about Her than any other slave. She has treated me very nice many times. …I recently introduced Her to a new love interest, and things seem to have changed since. Whose new love interest was this? Yours or hers? I’m going to assume for a moment it was your new lover, not hers. If that is not so ignore the next few words, as they are going to be harsh. And you dare to call her cruel? What in the world were you thinking when you did that? :-( I am a little astonished by her leniency and generosity in allowing you to have love or sex interests other than herself. You repaid that kind generosity by rubbing her face in it with the presence of your new lover. How could you? This was thoughtless and I'm not the least bit surprised that you've lost some trust and affection after that. Perhaps she told you it was OK, but you are supposed to be hers. By having other love interests, you are proving that you are not really hers, that you still put other people before her or put your sexual needs before pleasing her. Now let me address this from the other perspective. If she is the one who took on a new lover that you intentionally introduced her to with her pleasure in mind, then why do you feel so bad? When a new person comes into somebody’s life, they initially need a lot of attention and time. The relationship-establishment period is very intense, it takes a while. In the early days, it is very vulnerable and needs a lot of care and attention. Unfortunately, that means that other slaves or relationships must be put on a back burner for a while, but it doesn’t sound like she’s abandoned you completely. She may get some cruel pleasure from making you wait knowing she is spending time with the new person, but that’s one of the reasons you love her and love this relationship, isn’t it? Because you cannot influence her? Patience is needed. Think of how happy and involved she is in getting to know the new person, and, if they are to be a slave, training them. Doesn’t that give you a warm glow? quote: She will never allow any sexual/romantic exchanges between Her and Her slaves. I seriously don't understand why this bothers you. It singles you out as something very special. Who else would she do this to except someone she completely controlled? Think of the pleasure and the pride it likely brings her to treat you in this fashion. Think of how it makes her happy; not about how it makes you unhappy. Why do you wish to be on the same level with a mere vanilla lover? Do you think that for a really dominant woman a vanilla relationship is anywhere near as satisfying as owning a slave? Her not allowing that sort of exchange with you, as hard as it may be at times, underlines how thoroughly she regards you as her actual property. quote: It hurts to feel that way, and I really just wanted to express how it made me feel. She never gave me the chance.….She made it clear to me that I was Her slave, and that I was beneath Her. That I am not to enjoy said activity with Her, but after Her. That I was a slave, and only to speak when spoken to. I can understand how this hurt you. But our owners have the right to treat us this way--peremptorily and harshly, whenever they feel like it. They don’t have to respond to our demands for further discussion, either. I thought she was admirably clear in her expectations to you and being her natural self around you and not trying to hide anything or pretend to be "nice”. When a master or mistress can relax around you that much and just be themselves it means something very good about the relationship. It means she's very comfortable with you, she doesn't feel like she has to suck up to you or flatter you or treat you like she might a client. It also means she's not afraid that you're one of those fickle slaves that leave as soon as things stop going THEIR way. Her behavior says that she trusts you a great deal. What a compliment that is! This is all good stuff. quote: I wish she had told me the above a year ago, I am completely fine with that. Well, I think our masters or mistresses have the right to change course on us any time they wish. We’re not owed an early warning. As slaves, our job is to adjust to their wills, whatever those may be, no matter how many times they change. quote: I get the impression that She is uncomfortable/unwilling to discuss feelings with me face to face, but that She does care for me. I would hazard a guess that she is more unwilling than uncomfortable. Very strict masters and mistresses have codes of behavior they adhere to around slaves (the codes vary widely with the individual, of course, but they are almost always there) and they will not bend that behavior no matter how much it hurts a slave's feelings. I think your guess (about her caring for you) might be right. She has given you strong signs of this. I suggest you strive with all of your heart to be worthy of that care and to not to ever let her down. quote: She does tell me things sometimes that makes me feel very good….Contrast those things with Her recent treatment of me and it doesn't add up. Based on what you’ve said, the math makes sense to me. You either (1) did something quite insensitive that hurt/annoyed her pretty badly and perhaps caused her to lose some trust in you or (2) she’s simply a bit busy at the moment with her newest conquest and she trusts you to be patient and loyal and wait for her attention to return to you. At this point I don’t know which it is but none of her behavior seems off or unnatural to me. If the reality is (1), though, obviously you’ve got a lot of hard work ahead of you to regain her trust. quote: Despite the fact that She doesn't want to talk about Her feelings, I feel She shows them indirectly. I don't think that is healthy... I personally believe that thinking that anything one's master or mistress does is "unhealthy" is extremely unhealthy--in the slave. Just obey her rules and try to realize there is wisdom there whether you can see it or not. And about this "unhealthy" business: try to ignore, if you can, what the outside culture says about what is healthy and what is not, because more often that not it doesn’t apply in the rarified hothouse atmosphere of enslavement. More specifically, if your mistress prefers to express her emotions indirectly then it is your job as her slave to learn to accept and love this about her and to learn her emotional language, not to force her to behave in the way that you approve of because it would be "more healthy for her." It’s rather controlling on your end to think you know what is best for your mistress, don’t you think? quote: Now I just want to serve Her. I don't care that we will never be intimate, or that I will never be treated as Her equal. It sounds like you are moving in the right direction. This is the path that leads to heaven…in my experience, anyway. quote: If you are not willing to give your money to your Mistress/Master then you are not willing to relinquish total control…Everything I make or own is Hers, and I ask for permission to use any money…I don't mind giving Her my money, I relish it. I think you are absolutely right in everything you said about money in the context of slavery. Many “slaves” are willing to serve evah so slavishly until the point comes where they are required to relinquish their financial resources to a master or mistress. Then suddenly all their pretty words about being a deeply devoted slave are shown to be the lie that they were all the time. The old folk saying, "put your money where your mouth is" has a lot of truth to it. When you relinquish money to the one you serve, it proves a level of devotion and trust that not many reach. quote: Yesterday was a harsh lesson to me and I was simply remarking on the fact that just because your fantasy is fulfilled doesn't mean that everything is going to be pleasant.. I have discovered that I am not gonna like everything about this life, but to me the pros outweigh the cons. I really like the way you thought through this on your own and weren't unduly influenced by the advice you were given, as some of it was deadly to slaves with our aspirations. From everything you've said about your mistress, I believe she must be a very special and wonderful person, and I think your conclusion is sound. Just remember to hold firm when the going gets hard. The bad times will be bad, but they will pass soon enough.

MistressAmber09 -> RE: My fantasy, now a reality... (1/7/2012 5:38:33 PM)
He is lucky to be My slave. He has alot to learn.

femdomlover72 -> RE: My fantasy, now a reality... (1/7/2012 5:55:53 PM)
Thanks for such a thoughtful response. You make me want to crawl to Her and beg Her forgiveness. I can be a better slave to Her, and I want to be after reading that. I don't have time to give you the response you deserve, but I will say I found someone for Her.

LizDeluxe -> RE: My fantasy, now a reality... (1/7/2012 7:30:05 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: femdomlover72 I suppose what I am not happy with is the idea that I can be replaced so easily. Get used to it. The numbers are not on your side. I don't mean that to sound cruel or harsh, just realistic. The sheer number of unpartnered male submissives/slaves versus the number of dominant females makes the average male submissive/slave particularly replaceable, in my opinion. Strive to be as extraordinary as you can be and learn to live with life on her terms.

RaspberryLemon -> RE: My fantasy, now a reality... (1/7/2012 8:30:39 PM)
I could never ever bring myself to be in a situation like the one you describe, OP. For my Master and me, the hard-set rules he has in place can NOT be subject to change unless we both agree on the changes--I need my Master to be trustworthy and consistent. The flakiness and inconsistency that you describe simply sounds like a nightmare to me. I could also never be slave to someone who sees me as "less" than them, or someone who doesn't find my thoughts, feelings, and well-being (physical and mental) to be of utmost importance. Nor could I be slave to someone if I was not also his lover. I need respect, I need consistency, and I need mutual, exclusive love. I need to be someone to him who isn't easily replaced (in fact, I need to be someone to him who is irreplaceable, as he is to me.) I need my mind and emotions to be encouraged to be transparent; and I need his to be just as transparent as mine. None of those things are sacrificial, or negotiable. Thankfully that is exactly what I have with my Master, and for that I am very, very grateful. He is an amazing and wonderful man and I am so lucky to be his. Being a slave doesn't have to be a hurtful experience. It's not selfish to have expectations or needs in a relationship (regardless of what kind of relationship.) If your needs and expectations are not being met, you need to evaluate why that is and address the problem. If the problem cannot be fixed, then maybe it is time for you to move on and find someone you will be happy and satisfied with. If you are satisfied and in acceptance of your situation, then by all means continue. But be honest with yourself--if you are not satisfied, take responsibility to fix that.

OttersSwim -> RE: My fantasy, now a reality... (1/7/2012 8:51:13 PM)
This is such complete BS - the whole thread is a concocted ad for this person and their socks based completely on femdom BS fantasy. quote: ORIGINAL: LizDeluxe quote: ORIGINAL: femdomlover72 I suppose what I am not happy with is the idea that I can be replaced so easily. Get used to it. The numbers are not on your side. I don't mean that to sound cruel or harsh, just realistic. The sheer number of unpartnered male submissives/slaves versus the number of dominant females makes the average male submissive/slave particularly replaceable, in my opinion. Strive to be as extraordinary as you can be and learn to live with life on her terms.

Lockit -> RE: My fantasy, now a reality... (1/7/2012 8:59:00 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LizDeluxe quote: ORIGINAL: femdomlover72 I suppose what I am not happy with is the idea that I can be replaced so easily. Get used to it. The numbers are not on your side. I don't mean that to sound cruel or harsh, just realistic. The sheer number of unpartnered male submissives/slaves versus the number of dominant females makes the average male submissive/slave particularly replaceable, in my opinion. Strive to be as extraordinary as you can be and learn to live with life on her terms. Maybe in the findom world this is true... but anyone that is lifestyle... god, I hate these titles, but there isn't any other way of explaining it... to allow a submissive to be so insecure that he had to be the best because he could be replaced, rather than be the best for his domina and the relationship... is cruel and doesn't work towards or sustain trust. Your profile is hidden so I cannot know where you might be coming from in this, but other than the op whom has made his unwise choice, I sure don't want other male submissives to believe that this is what they must do for the reason you gave. Your reasoning in my opinion is unacceptable.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: My fantasy, now a reality... (1/7/2012 9:10:29 PM)
If good, reliable, COMPATIBLE male submissives were so readily available, there wouldn't be a single femdom out there. Easily replaceable? Not likely.

Lockit -> RE: My fantasy, now a reality... (1/7/2012 9:12:27 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus If good, reliable, COMPATIBLE male submissives were so readily available, there wouldn't be a single femdom out there. Easily replaceable? Not likely. Agreed! lol

femdomlover72 -> RE: My fantasy, now a reality... (1/7/2012 10:54:26 PM)
quote: Get used to it. The numbers are not on your side. I don't mean that to sound cruel or harsh, just realistic. The sheer number of unpartnered male submissives/slaves versus the number of dominant females makes the average male submissive/slave particularly replaceable, in my opinion. Strive to be as extraordinary as you can be and learn to live with life on her terms. I agree with you. It is part of my motivation to perform.

femdomlover72 -> RE: My fantasy, now a reality... (1/7/2012 10:57:35 PM)
quote: This is such complete BS - the whole thread is a concocted ad for this person and their socks based completely on femdom BS fantasy. No, it is very real. I am not trying to advertise for Her here on this forum. If you look back a little over a year ago in 'Positive Experiences' you will see some posts from me concerning my Mistress, when I first started serving Her. I am honestly just sharing my feelings about Her.

femdomlover72 -> RE: My fantasy, now a reality... (1/7/2012 11:05:58 PM)
quote: I could also never be slave to someone who sees me as "less" than them, or someone who doesn't find my thoughts, feelings, and well-being (physical and mental) to be of utmost importance. Nor could I be slave to someone if I was not also his lover. I respect your views RaspberryLemon, but I subscribe to a different belief in D/S. I need to believe that the Mistress I serve is better than me. Call it what you want, maybe it is a limitation of my character, but She has to be better, and most importantly, She has to relish domination. For me the sex is not important. I won't lie and say that it hasn't crossed my mind, but it wouldn't be the same. She is above me, and serving Her brings its own reward

femdomlover72 -> RE: My fantasy, now a reality... (1/7/2012 11:14:54 PM)
quote: but anyone that is lifestyle... god, I hate these titles, but there isn't any other way of explaining it... That's just it. I don't believe there has to be. She is as true a Domme as any who call themselves as lifestyle. She is both pro and lifestyle. She lives it everyday. I have seen it and I know it is not just an act. I don't believe or expect that it must be this way for every Femdom relationship, but serving such a Mistress is every bit as real and valid as serving someone who is stuck on the title "lifestyle".

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