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I feed him. His belly with food, his beast with various pieces of me, his soul with my love, his humanity with my kindness and understanding, his inner child with my nurturing and acceptance, his ego with my pride of belonging to him, his power with my submission.

He feeds me, too.

16 years and counting.

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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

that was beautiful, Bita :)

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I wear a goofy mask and sometimes I take all the labels off the cans and whoever guess's what is in the can gets to have the remote for the night---our relationship has only been 'working' 9 1/2 weeks but we were a couple long before that---it's gotten better since I adopted wearing the goofy mask. (Literally it is a goofy mask)

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Not to long ago I read the following..... I practice it.

If you WANT a man in your life,
you are going to have to make him FEEL needed.
A man needs to feel needed as a woman needs to feel wanted.

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ORIGINAL: CelticPrince

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I wear a goofy mask and sometimes I take all the labels off the cans and whoever guess's what is in the can gets to have the remote for the night---our relationship has only been 'working' 9 1/2 weeks but we were a couple long before that---it's gotten better since I adopted wearing the goofy mask. (Literally it is a goofy mask)

hello pieces,

That sounds like a fun approach to a relationship......but is there a D/s element attached to it?

CP

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(2x+y^4)(4p+u)x^6+10b
For my formula anyway...Haha!

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We've been together for three years. It works because we're friends, have common interests, we both get off on making the other person happy.
It's no different at all from a vanilla relationship except that the fucking is so much better because of the kink.
The basis of our d/s relationship is always there. I do what he says. The day I don't means that I want out. The day he doesn't care if I do or not means he wants out.

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ORIGINAL: fragilepieces

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ORIGINAL: CelticPrince

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I wear a goofy mask and sometimes I take all the labels off the cans and whoever guess's what is in the can gets to have the remote for the night---our relationship has only been 'working' 9 1/2 weeks but we were a couple long before that---it's gotten better since I adopted wearing the goofy mask. (Literally it is a goofy mask)

hello pieces,

That sounds like a fun approach to a relationship......but is there a D/s element attached to it?

CP

What no humor in a D/s relationship? It's all serious, kneeling, never smiling or having fun type of lifestyle? Humor is our formula for a successful D/s relationship as a matter of fact it's the formula for a vanilla relationship IMO---I see no difference between the two really---to me D/s is simply one has the right to make most of the decision on things and is sort of in charge (although we are pretty relaxed on that) and there is kinky sex involved otherwise for me it's just vanilla.

    I could never be with a Master who didn't enjoy humor, because I giggle when I'm nervous or in trouble. I can't help it, it's just how I react to a situation. No laughter or smiles beyond that means I'm bored in the relationship. I would assume the same for the Master involved.

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Sorry CP but I've always done that in all my relationships whether we called it "bdsm" or not. I'm traditional, I'm old fashioned and thus why I don't consider myself in "the lifestyle" or any other kind of "special" relationship. I'm simply in a relationship.

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As you know, met him in march of 09, married him in October of 2010. Very Happy. We always talked a lot - had to, I live in the states, he lived in Canada. We laugh a lot together. We help one another, that is, we try to make the other's life easier. On the D/s side, we discussed and wrote some protocols, to structure our relationship; if there is disagreement that we cannot resolve, I have agreed to defer to him, as I trust he will make the best decision possible for the relationship, not for himself, or for me, but for us. I love him dearly - but I also respect and like him terribly. : )

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I think the formula for a successful relationship is basically the same whatever the power dynamic.... It's about mutual trust, respect, and affection, communicating honestly and regularly, being friends as well as lovers, and making "us" a priority. Those things nurture - and hopefully are nurtured by - the D/s dynamic as well as the whole rest of the relationship.

As far as what I specifically do? I love him, do what he says, support him when he needs help, and we do vanilla stuff together like work out, chat, cuddle and watch TV. We've been together for 3 years and lived together for half of that.

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ORIGINAL: graceadieu

I think the formula for a successful relationship is basically the same whatever the power dynamic.... It's about mutual trust, respect, and affection, communicating honestly and regularly, being friends as well as lovers, and making "us" a priority. Those things nurture - and hopefully are nurtured by - the D/s dynamic as well as the whole rest of the relationship.

As far as what I specifically do? I love him, do what he says, support him when he needs help, and we do vanilla stuff together like work out, chat, cuddle and watch TV. We've been together for 3 years and lived together for half of that.

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To be on an equal footing intellectually, from the very beginning, is the key for me, as well as having similar world-views. I couldn't own a girl who I couldn't feel was able to talk to me at my level if I desired.

Sorry if this sounds snobbish! :)