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RE: Why Financial Domination Bothers Me... - 1/23/2012 8:05:45 AM   
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Erm. Yeah.


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RE: Why Financial Domination Bothers Me... - 1/23/2012 8:06:20 AM   
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Ya'll are cracking me up, so thanks for that.

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RE: Why Financial Domination Bothers Me... - 1/23/2012 8:09:31 AM   
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And what I have just read is.....you do not like this.....you do not like that.....blah blah blah.....

Sorry....the BDSM community encompasses a lot of people. Some people like being Fin Dommes, some like eating shit, some like being pisses on, some like serving, some like dressing up in women's clothes, some like to beat the hell out of thier sub.....and the list goes on.
I would focus on what it is you are seeking and quit worrying about what others do. Your kink is not my kink. This is a free site and all people of all types are welcome here.
Yup, my sentiments exactly! M


Hi SB,
Been s while since I have seen you post. Weclome back!

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RE: Why Financial Domination Bothers Me... - 1/23/2012 8:27:55 AM   
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LOL......... hmmmmm, i did not think of that aspect! Silly me... dohhh :-)


I think a few days of 'Deleting Unread' will fix that problem.

I do admire your willingness to put yourself out here to explain this particular kink from the male perspective.

I occasionally get emails from guys saying they wanted to do it. For a long time I blew them off. One guy was so bloody persistent that I finally said "fine, you really want to spend money on me, here ya go bucko!" and created a little amazon thing. Figured no harm, no foul, and I just might get my favourite chocolate or espresso free!

It did the job and got rid of him. I am still buying my own espresso, just as always. But when they email me, I do have a link for them. Not once has it been used, but then again I didn't expect it. I am not willing to do whatever it is they expect in return.


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RE: Why Financial Domination Bothers Me... - 1/23/2012 8:33:06 AM   
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#1. In the several months that I've been on CM, during which I've regularly perved profiles, I've never once seen a male sub proclaim that he actually wants to buy a chick lots and lots of stuff. I've seen male subs proclaim that they will pay tribute if necessary, but I've never seen it listed as a kink.


Do you wish a list? I cannot post them here, but hit me up on the other side and I can send you a list of male submissives that I fould by entering the term "tribute", gender set to male, orientation set to submissive, age set to 18 - 60, location set to all states, and nothing else specified.

I suppose you will find what you wish to find.. and not find what you do not.


I gave this a try.  Out of the first 25 subs listed 3 said they were willing to pay tribute.  2 mentioned tribute in the context of an action being done as a tribute to someone.  And 20 mentioned the word "tribute" only to say that they would not pay.  Of those first 25 not even one said anything about tribute being a fetish to them.  As I've mentioned before, I have no doubt that there are some that do have such a fetish, but I wasn't willing to spend hours trying to find the ones that would make your list.  Just because a sub mentions the word "tribute" in their profile doesn't mean they have it as a kink.

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RE: Why Financial Domination Bothers Me... - 1/23/2012 9:09:30 AM   
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I few years ago i was not so open with my experiences, but with time and exposure have become confident and comfortable with my submission and interests. A number of years ago in Toronto attending the world's largest single day fetish event, sponsored by Northbound Leather at 'The Docks, i came out of the shadows. With over 2,000 people in attendance, interacting and dressed appropriately it had effect on me... heck perhaps i'm normal, and perchance not, not worry as many others are! :-)

With the financial aspect it came about in younger years. My first sessions were with professional Dommes. As such to tribute has never been a issue to me. My logic was if a total stranger is prepared to spend time with me, invest money and time into Her profession to create so i can find fulfilment for a deep craving... and to do so with safety, expertise and allow so i can trust, feel secure and be with discretion. Certainly all that has a value. I saw it as no different than to compensate a accountant or therapist... only difference being much more fulfilling and a heck of a lot more fun.

I think with many subs and slaves professing willingness to pay, it is more fantasy than reality. Most do not follow through and thus create so there is much doubt and suspicion when one does profess such. Also it is stressful and emotional as one ventures deeper because the commitment increases, thus level of trust must do likewise. For example how many submissives/slaves are willing to forward their drivers licence and personal information. Take it a step further and can a level of trust and interaction be reached where bank accounts, credit cards, etc. are relinquished. Theses are not easy things, nor to be taken lightly. Money is power and money is a necessity. To talk the talk is easy but for many to actually part with it, giving it up is too difficult a walking of the walk.

What You did was perfect... to sort the wheat from the chaff, to create opportunity for one to put their money where their mouth is! Amazon is a perfect option because it allows a price range for every budget. The act of giving is more representative than cost of an item. To talk the talk and then fall short via opportunity with Amazon is pathetic. No wonder there is such doubt and discord regarding financial slaves. I like that although not being Your interest You regardless ventured forth and created a privileged opportunity. Although another broken promise and no espresso, at least You got rid of him :-)

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RE: Why Financial Domination Bothers Me... - 1/23/2012 9:13:08 AM   
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NJ.. I am seriously enjoying your posts :) thank you:)

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RE: Why Financial Domination Bothers Me... - 1/23/2012 9:33:10 AM   
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Thank You. It comes from the heart and it is actual experiences so it is easy to talk about. It was not always so, but Goddess has put me through the ringer so speak and the Toronto event changed my perception as to vanilla and my preferences. Also mainstream vanilla has gained awareness and greater acceptance of the lifestyle. Sometimes perturbs me when communications present something with very biased and narrow focused or totally opposite my experiences. It sometimes motivates me to come forward and to express myself :-)

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RE: Why Financial Domination Bothers Me... - 1/23/2012 9:41:09 AM   
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I, for one, am glad to hear from you. it is a kink/fetish I have never understood, but you are bringing to this a perception that is opening my eyes. for that, thank you :)

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RE: Why Financial Domination Bothers Me... - 1/23/2012 9:46:08 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: igor2003

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ORIGINAL: tazzygirl

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#1. In the several months that I've been on CM, during which I've regularly perved profiles, I've never once seen a male sub proclaim that he actually wants to buy a chick lots and lots of stuff. I've seen male subs proclaim that they will pay tribute if necessary, but I've never seen it listed as a kink.


Do you wish a list? I cannot post them here, but hit me up on the other side and I can send you a list of male submissives that I fould by entering the term "tribute", gender set to male, orientation set to submissive, age set to 18 - 60, location set to all states, and nothing else specified.

I suppose you will find what you wish to find.. and not find what you do not.


I gave this a try.  Out of the first 25 subs listed 3 said they were willing to pay tribute.  2 mentioned tribute in the context of an action being done as a tribute to someone.  And 20 mentioned the word "tribute" only to say that they would not pay.  Of those first 25 not even one said anything about tribute being a fetish to them.  As I've mentioned before, I have no doubt that there are some that do have such a fetish, but I wasn't willing to spend hours trying to find the ones that would make your list.  Just because a sub mentions the word "tribute" in their profile doesn't mean they have it as a kink.


If you are lookin for it as a fetish, try the search with "financial domination". I found 7 on the first page stating that as a specific fetish.

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RE: Why Financial Domination Bothers Me... - 1/23/2012 10:16:45 AM   
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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

I, for one, am glad to hear from you. it is a kink/fetish I have never understood, but you are bringing to this a perception that is opening my eyes. for that, thank you :)


I can only echo Greedy's words. It's not something I have an interest in, but I've enjoyed learning about it from your perspective NJ.


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RE: Why Financial Domination Bothers Me... - 1/23/2012 10:19:09 AM   
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But Heel, you do both exceedingly well. (good natured smiles, without any sarcasm or ill intent)
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ORIGINAL: Clickofheels


I'm certainly not here to play games and most definitely not to argue. I don't care to discuss it further






As I stated in the quote above...I don't care to argue nor discuss it further, Fornica. Your baiting will yield you nothing. Sorry...

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RE: Why Financial Domination Bothers Me... - 1/23/2012 10:20:36 AM   
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And all without a (smile).

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RE: Why Financial Domination Bothers Me... - 1/23/2012 10:21:14 AM   
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If a message board is not a type of "society" to you, what is it? What were you trying to find, and why join the community part if you don't want to be part of a community?
That makes no sense to me, Heel.


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With all respect to your views and opinions Msblushes, you and I see Collarchat/Collarme.com as different entities.
I see it as I found it, listed under BDSM websites on Google.com., whereas you approach it as a society.





(Shrugs) Sorry if it doesn't make sense, Fornica.

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RE: Why Financial Domination Bothers Me... - 1/23/2012 10:22:58 AM   
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ORIGINAL: tazzygirl


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Coming from a poster who's majority of posts are critisizing how other posters post (yeah, say that three times fast) I have to wonder if you read the entire thread. (smiles)

Because I calmly and rationally answered all questions except for one, and that one is frankly not something I'm sharing with all and sundry.

Would you continue to post (nicely) and freely in a thread where you were called prostitute, lazy, whore, etc.? If people want answers, they should be respectful, as I have been to them. I do understand that everyone has their own opinion, and this is a very polarizing topic, but that really doesn't make it ok, in my eyes, nor does it give me incentive to continue.

I did ask the OP several pages back to be specific on what she wants to know (besides the exception I have made) and I would do my best to go over it again. Many people claim that she is not getting answers, but no one is specific with their insinuations/complaints.

Have a pleasant morning.
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Please excuse me if I don't agree with your opening statement, blushes! (smiles) What an interesting question though..."Would you continue to post nicely in a thread where you were called names?" But I digress...

I also noted your "I have to wonder" comment's inference. But I must be careful that I say nothing more about it in case it is misconstrued as "being critical of how other's post!" (Another smile)

Yes! I have indeed read the thread. I also entered my post long before it had been discussed as far as it has.
And I agree that you have been extremely diplomatic and calm in explaining the Lifestyle you choose. I never said, insinuated, nor singled you out that you haven't spoken that way.

I hope you enjoy your weekend!
Ms Click



You do realize (smiles) no one is buying (smiles) the "(smiles)" you post, yes?



Interpret them however you like...

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RE: Why Financial Domination Bothers Me... - 1/23/2012 10:23:35 AM   
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(smile)

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RE: Why Financial Domination Bothers Me... - 1/23/2012 10:31:12 AM   
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And all without a (smile).



Actually, it WAS there. By why put it in print? (LAUGHING WITH A WINK!!)

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RE: Why Financial Domination Bothers Me... - 1/23/2012 10:33:52 AM   
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And all without a (smile).



Actually, it WAS there. By why put it in print? (LAUGHING WITH A WINK!!)



But*

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RE: Why Financial Domination Bothers Me... - 1/23/2012 10:52:39 AM   
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As I stated in the quote above...I don't care to argue nor discuss it further, Fornica. Your baiting will yield you nothing. Sorry...

MsClick


And yet...... (wink)


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RE: Why Financial Domination Bothers Me... - 1/23/2012 11:28:31 AM   
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quote:

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And all without a (smile).



Actually, it WAS there. By why put it in print? (LAUGHING WITH A WINK!!)


you do it almost without fail, bob (until someone mentions it)

(smile)


< Message edited by GreedyTop -- 1/23/2012 11:29:19 AM >


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