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libraryladysub -> RE: Master does not want sex (1/26/2012 7:18:32 AM)
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Wow! what a long thread this turned out to be. A lot of good advice, and I wish that CM threads had "Like" options all along the way. Especially helpful is the mention of relationships being the same, BDSM or Vanilla--I, too, have mistakenly thought that somehow BDSM was unquestioning submission from the git-go, when that is something which is to be earned via learning to trust Someone explicitly. And if asking for clarity or mutuality is considered being obtrusive, then His version of being communicative is "My way or the highway" and the highway should be taken, because He is most probably not the One.
Another note: sometimes, very attractive people have learned to use their attractiveness "to get what they want". They rely on the fact that someone who considers themselves unattractive, or perhaps are unaware of their own loveliness but possessing low self-esteem, will be very grateful for ANY attention from them, even if it is one-sided-- such as Chatterbox's situation-- and not likely to leave even if the relationship is toxic. Especially if the underling person is one of those committed types--never give up, never say die, i can fix this--you know what i mean.
We can do better...we deserve better...no one as giving and devoted deserves to be a doormat. (I have to keep reminding myself of this, too.)
Thank you all for continuing this thread, even when it seemed to be "over"...because in the end, I learned even more that I needed to hear. Thank you, chatterbox, for communicating here...it became clearer as the thread continued to wind...that...
"There, but for the Grace..."
By the way...this in no way applies to my relationship with my One and Only Master--He is a wonderful loving Man, generous, kind...I still love and miss Him--it is just that I can relate to the OP (finally figured out what that meant), and could project the tendency in myself to have potentially fallen into such a relationship, at some time, were i not decidedly against pursuing another relationship. Thankfully, I am forewarned and well-armed, as there are those here who well-advise gentler creatures to be aware, and to value themselves.
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