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fucktoyprincess -> RE: Are the submissives here really submissive? (2/6/2012 11:02:49 AM)
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Here is what the OP says in his profile:
"There seems to be more and more women who just want the man to DO everything for them while they do nothing but sit on their bums, sleep, shop, and perhaps drink wine in the tub and sit back and enjoy it. Again this is not submission, it is domination to demand the guy does all the work while you do nothing in the relationship.
As a Dom, I'd never make MY submissives do all the work while I sat on my bum, even if I was broke and out of work I'd be out looking for a job." (emphasis added)
So here is the thing.
The OP uses the word "work" three times in this description, but he is using it to mean different things each time (in other words, yes, yet again, the devil is in the details - what does he mean by "work" in each of the contexts in which he uses the term? Sometimes he means household tasks, sometimes he means professional work outside the home, but it is entirely unclear when he means what, and therefore, somewhat difficult to truly understand what he means).
The OP feels that Domination = demand the other person does all the work while you do nothing in the relationship.
The OP also feels that even if he were out of work he would be doing something i.e., be out looking for a job (which to me sounds like the OP would then require the submissive to do everything else to keep the household above water, as long as he, the Dominant, were searching for work).
Other than "searching for work", where does the OP talk about what he brings to the table as part of the D/s relationship that he seeks? He states that "a submissive having a career or not is not a problem as long as other work gets done by someone/somehow", but again, does not talk about what he means by "other work" and does not talk about what specifically he would do for the submissive in return. And if he is fine with the other work getting done by "someone/somehow", then what is wrong with him doing the "other work" (whatever he means by this) by himself.
Sorry, someone correct me if I am wrong, but is not a D/s relationship still a two-way street - a give and take as defined by the specific parties involved?
To the OP - clarifying in your own mind what the give and take of a D/s relationship would be for YOU will greatly enhance your search. You need to understand what you bring to the table, what you expect someone else to bring to the table and how, exactly, you expect the give and take of this to work. I think you would benefit from greater specificity in your profile about what you want, but also what you can give.
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