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LadyHibiscus -> RE: A New Domme (2/11/2012 11:04:06 AM)

Well no, why would you want to influence her state of mind, other than to make her feel better if she's unwell?

That what's on her mind isn't your *business*...well, that will differ from one dynamic to the next. Don't get ahead of yourself, bucko! I know *I* don't take kindly to a sub telling me what my job is, I'm betting she doesnt either!



slvemike4u -> RE: A New Domme (2/11/2012 11:35:08 AM)

Well what She was,rightly so,pointing out to me was that I was engaged in "poaching" on what is Her turf.See right there was a case of me not being able to correctly put down on paper the gist of what I am trying to say...I didn't mean to imply that what was on her mind wasn't my business,I damm sure better get good at "reading" Her,how else am I going to accomplish my goal of anticipating ,and seeing to,Her needs.
No,what I shouldn't have been engaged in was in any effort to unduly manipulate what is on Her mind,certainly as Her slave I should be engaged in making Her feel good,which has the effect of messing,for the good,with Her mindset...but manipulating it to where I want to move Her.....uh,no that isn't in my job description......lol.



LadyHibiscus -> RE: A New Domme (2/11/2012 11:38:56 AM)

It might make her laugh though! I love it when they try to be the boss of me! Laughing that hard makes my boobs bounce.



hausboy -> RE: A New Domme (2/11/2012 11:51:49 AM)

congrats mike!  (hey...they should move this into the positive experience section....maybe once you get permission to say who it is....)





MissToYouRedux -> RE: A New Domme (2/11/2012 11:59:00 AM)

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ORIGINAL: slvemike4u

... how else am I going to accomplish my goal of anticipating ,and seeing to,Her needs...



Personally I always have to go over that goal with my submissives. I'm never looking for a mind-reader, simply someone who listens and does precisely what I want when I tell him to. Easy! [:D]

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slvemike4u -> RE: A New Domme (2/11/2012 12:07:42 PM)


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ORIGINAL: hausboy

congrats mike!  (hey...they should move this into the positive experience section....maybe once you get permission to say who it is....)




She has told me to,and I quote.."have fun with your little thread,just do not name me"
Needless to say that edict will be heeded....lol,I'm new to this ownership thing,not stoopid [:D]



slvemike4u -> RE: A New Domme (2/11/2012 12:09:42 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: MissToYouRedux

quote:

ORIGINAL: slvemike4u

... how else am I going to accomplish my goal of anticipating ,and seeing to,Her needs...



Personally I always have to go over that goal with my submissives. I'm never looking for a mind-reader, simply someone who listens and does precisely what I want when I tell him to. Easy! [:D]

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Well reading minds isn't one of my talents either Ma'am...but one can develop the ability to "read' another....that is all I'm trying to do.
When I want to read,I pick up something off the Times Best seller list....lol.[:D]



slvemike4u -> RE: A New Domme (2/11/2012 7:35:51 PM)

Fuck,a cup of coffee isn't just a cup of coffee...not when I'm having it with Her it isn't.....lol.Met Her tonight for a cup of coffee,today was actually my designated down time after our Thursday night "date" time and Fridays service(detailed Her car,waxed and shit)well down time turned into a critique of my Journaling about Thursday and Friday....almost enough to make a guy give up coffee....lol.



Fornica -> RE: A New Domme (2/11/2012 8:01:49 PM)

I totally read that as "detailed her cat".



slvemike4u -> RE: A New Domme (2/11/2012 8:06:33 PM)

Really.....I think it was a Honda....lol
Where did you get cat.....lol



Fornica -> RE: A New Domme (2/11/2012 8:20:57 PM)

I have no idea. My eyes replaced the R with a T..lol.



slvemike4u -> RE: A New Domme (2/11/2012 8:53:16 PM)

See now,when I make a mistake like that in my writing.....I'm liable to get a lengthy dissertation about the need for clarity....lol.



slvemike4u -> RE: A New Domme (2/12/2012 10:14:40 AM)

Okay,so I'm not going to let this thread die.....lol
The latest development is that She has agreed to give me some help accomplishing that which I have wanted for the longest time....She is going to help me stop smoking cigarettes .
I have struggled with this for years,stops and starts,new attempts,old attempts...failed attempts.
We agreed on a date,I went with three months from now,this allows me to adjust to all the changes She is making in my life anyway,without the stress of quitting.At the three month mark I will employ whichever of the aids I am going with,the pill,the patch whatever....and She will add the power of Her position with me...together I just might make it this time.
Should I get there,and actually quit with Her help...I can not imagine the gratitude I will feel...if I fail,well hell...I can't really blame Her can I ....I have been failing at this for ten years [:)]



slvemike4u -> RE: A New Domme (2/15/2012 9:35:29 PM)

This just keeps getting better,She s now using aversion therapy to help me quit smoking...all i had to do was tell my Domme that this was a goal,and ask Her to help.now She is making cigarette smoking a horrible experience...whoopie,maybe i can finally,with Her help kick this filthy habit



slvemike4u -> RE: A New Domme (2/17/2012 8:03:59 AM)

This is the post I didn't want to submit.
This is the post that is killing me to write.
I don't think it can work,She offers me everything I ever wanted in this lifestyle,all mine for the accepting as long as I accept that we will never,in the vanilla sense,be together.
Folks I am not talking about sex,that part of my life would,rightly so,be in Her capable hands,and so far I have no complaints.
I'm talking about that which would complete the package,having someone to go to functions with,to go to a movie with.
She reminds me that She expects and accepts that I would continue to try to fill that oh so obvious need of mine,but I have been down this road before.
It is bigger bullshit than some of the more inventive posts in "Ask a Mistress",one can not pursue someone,anyone,while in service to another.
Been there ,done that,got the tee shirt...and asked for my release when I realized the futility of ever having my needs met.
See though that is the conundrum for me,She is filling or showing intention of filling all of those kink,perverse needs I have tucked away in the recesses of my mind.....and than some.
So how do I do what I know is best for me and walk away,lest I invest too much of my heart into what is a hopeless situation.
One look at this thread and the fact that I have fallen and fallen hard is evident,some of my posts could have come off the keyboard of a randy 22 year old...and here I am now,a sober 53 year old wondering whether he should walk away and just keep searching for the complete package that he knows he deserves.....or take what is offered,and what he wants desperately.
The rub here of course is that no one will see this post....lol,least not till I have either pulled the plug are fallen in deeper.



GreedyTop -> RE: A New Domme (2/17/2012 10:30:49 AM)

Mike, I am enjoying reading of this journey of yours :) *more hugs*



LadyHibiscus -> RE: A New Domme (2/17/2012 10:31:06 AM)

It's my personal goal to Wish Really Hard that everyone I know quits smoking, so YAY and best of luck. I know it's hard for most people.

Who did you piss off? I will check back later to see what you said...



slvemike4u -> RE: A New Domme (2/18/2012 8:04:42 AM)

Well,I owe a pair of Ladies here my apology ....seems I was panicking a little bit yesterday.Afraid of where i was being taken,and even who was taking me there.
i made Her dinner last nite,the food was good(She enjoyed it)the conversation was unnerving.
The bottom line is that i am more terrified of letting this opportunity pass than I am of where it will take me.
We've been together less than a month,She knows more about what makes me tick than anyone else in my life...I can not let this go



kdsub -> RE: A New Domme (2/18/2012 8:17:13 AM)

Mike I’m jealous…I was ok knowing there was another old codger not getting any besides me… now I’m all alone…damnit.

Heh maybe she is a conservative…you should talk politics…[sm=argue.gif]

No really… I am glad there is happiness in your life now…good luck

Butch

oopppps... should have read to the end..I'm not sure what is happening now...I hope this works out for you



slvemike4u -> RE: A New Domme (2/18/2012 10:29:05 AM)

It's all good again Butch(and everyone else).I just experienced a panic attack,brought on by a very intense night spent with Her.Seems I have come across someone who takes this serious and isn't okay with just sliding thru this and having some lite comfortable fun.
She is intent on actually getting what I have said I was looking to give....total surrender to Her program
I'm scared,at times scared shitless
Seems I don't get to play anymore I ran across someone who took me at my word when we met and expects that I deliver on my promise of submission.
There will be more panic attacks,that is inevitable.She insists that the journey actually challenge me....otherwise there is no interest for Her.



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