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RE: Can bdsm mess you up? - 2/14/2012 4:20:05 PM

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Get an english teacher too then.

What?

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RE: Can bdsm mess you up? - 2/14/2012 4:20:53 PM

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Professional help. Get it. Because this little experience is not what is messing with you.

Ok I will get help, don't understand what you mean when you say this little experience is not messing with you though

The experience may have triggered something deeper in you that you now have to grapple with. The experience itself may have not been the issue - if you didn't have this something deeper.

Glad you're going to see someone.

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RE: Can bdsm mess you up? - 2/14/2012 4:22:53 PM

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Professional help. Get it. Because this little experience is not what is messing with you.

Ok I will get help, don't understand what you mean when you say this little experience is not messing with you though

The experience may have triggered something deeper in you that you now have to grapple with. The experience itself may have not been the issue - if you didn't have this something deeper.

Glad you're going to see someone.

Ok thanks, I guess thats possible, I honestly don't know, it's definitely brought something out of me emotionally that I wish I hadn't done, I genuinely find it too much.

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RE: Can bdsm mess you up? - 2/14/2012 4:23:21 PM

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and forum hidden too........

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RE: Can bdsm mess you up? - 2/14/2012 4:23:50 PM

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Maybe you feel less of a man for submitting to a lady?Maybe you feel like your not a "man" anymore and some how now your male coworkers might think less than of you?I mean,it is hard to base an entire lifestyle on 1 experience.Maybe your just confused,which some therapy is actually a good thing.Find a therapist who is kink friendly.You don't need a therapist who is just going to tell you in a nice way that your crazy.Find one who understands what your talking about.

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RE: Can bdsm mess you up? - 2/14/2012 4:24:00 PM

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and forum hidden too........

That's 3 snide comments youve made now, what's your problem?

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RE: Can bdsm mess you up? - 2/14/2012 4:24:16 PM

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I have deja vu, Ron, how about you?

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RE: Can bdsm mess you up? - 2/14/2012 4:25:24 PM

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lol Ron.

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RE: Can bdsm mess you up? - 2/14/2012 4:26:28 PM

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snide? not at all, merely observations. are you now adjudicating MY state of mind? Are you in any shape to do that for me?

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RE: Can bdsm mess you up? - 2/14/2012 4:26:33 PM

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Maybe you feel less of a man for submitting to a lady?Maybe you feel like your not a "man" anymore and some how now your male coworkers might think less than of you?I mean,it is hard to base an entire lifestyle on 1 experience.Maybe your just confused,which some therapy is actually a good thing.Find a therapist who is kink friendly.You don't need a therapist who is just going to tell you in a nice way that your crazy.Find one who understands what your talking about.

Yeah I think your right with the first comment, it's not politically correct to say it but I do, I spoke to a kind friendly therapist online and she said I have to accept it and be submissive, but when I'm submissive I get anxiety and depressio so yeah I am confused I guess.

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RE: Can bdsm mess you up? - 2/14/2012 4:27:29 PM

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Yep. Deja vu.

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RE: Can bdsm mess you up? - 2/14/2012 4:27:53 PM

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snide? not at all, merely observations. are you now adjudicating MY state of mind? Are you in any shape to do that for me?

Don't even know what that means, I just noticed 3 snide comments off you, if you got a problem at least come out and say it,

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RE: Can bdsm mess you up? - 2/14/2012 4:29:02 PM

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Yeah I think your right with the first comment, it's not politically correct to say it but I do, I spoke to a kind friendly therapist online and she said I have to accept it and be submissive, but when I'm submissive I get anxiety and depressio so yeah I am confused I guess.

They have kink (I'm assuming kind means kink in your posting) friendly therapists online? Is this even professionally ethical?

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RE: Can bdsm mess you up? - 2/14/2012 4:30:29 PM

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You are the one complaining of problems here, but I tell you what...I am not getting my dick sucked, so i'm a little ............anxious........about that. other than that (and thats a big that).....guess I am ok.

and unhidden in the forums now, I see......

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RE: Can bdsm mess you up? - 2/14/2012 4:31:22 PM

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You are the one complaining of problems here, but I tell you what...I am not getting my dick sucked, so i'm a little ............anxious........about that. other than that (and thats a big that).....guess I am ok.

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RE: Can bdsm mess you up? - 2/14/2012 4:33:14 PM

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You are the one complaining of problems here, but I tell you what...I am not getting my dick sucked, so i'm a little ............anxious........about that. other than that (and thats a big that).....guess I am ok.

and unhidden in the forums now, I see......

I don't know what you mean by unhidden, I'd your not gonna help me just fuck off I'm not interested.

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RE: Can bdsm mess you up? - 2/14/2012 4:33:15 PM

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I will mess you up, you bite, no BDSM involved.

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RE: Can bdsm mess you up? - 2/14/2012 4:34:34 PM

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Hi guys,

I tried bdsm for the first time a few months ago, I'm not sure why u did it, but I did it, with a dominatrix and it's totally destroyed me.

I have had anxiety attacks ever since, I used to get them when I was younger but this has brought them back. It's like since I did it I don't feel manly or human anymore, just really weak and timid.

Where I work it is with mostly men and they all seem to have stopped talking to me, they've noticed how ive changed, even though they probably don't know why.

Is this common? Is there anyplace I can go for help?

It is not BDSM you have to worry about, it is the people.

Much like a gun, BDSM does nothing unless a person pulls that damned trigger.

I'd suggest a therapist, councilor, or a trusted mental health professional.

I have anxiety problems as well and have been dealing with anxiety much better than if I was to never see the mental health pro.

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RE: Can bdsm mess you up? - 2/14/2012 4:34:41 PM

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I will mess you up, you bite, no BDSM involved.

What's that mean in English?

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RE: Can bdsm mess you up? - 2/14/2012 4:35:29 PM

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Taking this at face value, as a serious post...

It may be that accepting your desires has triggered soemthing in you. A lot of the time accepting that you are into things that are on the edge so to speak, can take some coming to terms with. I felt like a freak for years after realising I wanted a man to beat me, choke me and degrade me, but over time I accepted it. I actually view myself as stronger because i am able to accept my submissive desires and let myself enjoy what i am.

Good luck with talking to someone.

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